<p>I'm a junior and I FELL IN LOVE with Wellesley and I'm applying ED next year. I love everything about the school, but I'm a little hesitant on the dating scene. I go to an all girls high school and I've never had a boyfriend, and I want to be able to date/have a relationship in college. Is it easy to meet guys? Well, besides at frat parties and bars? Any experiences?</p>
<p>i'm also a bit concerned about meeting men at wellesley. not just with regard to dating but also with making close male friends.</p>
<p>this isn't a direct response to the "will i meet guys easily?" question...but nonetheless an interesting article about wellesley's... dating/social scene. Note that the school (nor the majority of the students) are too please with the image of the "wellesley girl" created by the article. </p>
<p>here's a link: <a href="http://www.jaydixit.com/writing/wellesley.htm%5B/url%5D">http://www.jaydixit.com/writing/wellesley.htm</a></p>
<p>when i had my interview, though, the alumn talked about how there's quite a bit of social events among the surrounding schools...especially with mit... so you DO have lots of chances to meet guys. </p>
<p>good luck in a couple of weeks!</p>
<p>CN7008, I'm not sure how accurate that article is...</p>
<p>Here's my two cents:</p>
<p>I think people have already said this before and I have to agree with them, if you want a relationship in college, you have to go out there and find opportunities. I mean, no matter where you go, a boyfriend is not going to magically plop into your lap. At Wellesley, it's even more so. If you want to meet guys, then go the 12 miles to Boston, go to the mixers and what not... You're bound to meet a guy. </p>
<p>Personally, I think the whole all-girls thing is a plus. During the school week, you can focus on academics without worrying about the drama of boys (eek!), etc. and on the weekends, you can let loose and just have fun.</p>
<p>I totally agree with you, wildcherry45. I think boys are a distraction! I will be much more able to concentrate on my school work and be productive if there aren't drunk/shirtless/really really hot guys walking around my dorm. Plus, Boston is only a bus ride away...go crazy on weekends. Personally, I think this is the best arrangement for me because I will achieve a work hard/party hard arrangement, which is the most rewarding.</p>
<p>Amen to that! :)</p>
<p>Oh dear ... the Rolling Stone article ...</p>
<p>Apparently, the article appeared the spring just before I went to Wellesley. Not that I knew about it until I actually got there, but I later realized that people had dropped hints to me about how Wellesley was such a party school and that I might not fit in with the wild social scene. (If I could find an appropriately sarcastic response, I would share it.)</p>
<p>Somehow, I managed to find men without even trying. They were friends of friends or people I knew from online discussion groups or students at off-campus parties (I only ever went to one of those). Some I dated, and some I didn't. </p>
<p>If you make even a small effort to meet men, you will succeed.</p>
<p>Wow... You guys discovered the Rolling Stone article early. The truth is that other people's perceptions of what it's like living Women's colleges are much worse then the reality of living at one.</p>
<p>You could stretch a lot of that article to fit certain perceptions of women's college, but I've heard nothing about Wellesley students having affairs with profs in my 3 and a half semesters here. Shame. It would make such good gossip.</p>
<p>I didn't apply to Wellesley, but I have looked into it. I visited the campus the summer before junior year and the girl who gave our tour said that they hang out with MIT guys often. She even described how the MIT guys would make them freshly baked cookies when they came. So, I don't think I really answered your question - but I guess if you really like cookies, you may hit it off with those MIT men!</p>
<p>Oooo, I like cookies! :)</p>
<p>I'm pretty much fine about the whole meeting guys thing, so I don't think I'll be too worried when I go to Wellesley..I've heard terrible stories of Wellesley girls being seen as desperate and horny from my guy college friends in Boston though, who go to the mixers at MIT and Wellesley. </p>
<p>I remember reading something on ************** about this..of how even if you go to a party with the intent of getting a guy, there's 10 other girls out to do the same..so girls with bfs normally come to wellesley dating already..rather than pick up MIT or Harvard guys. </p>
<p>^ They have sample pages to read about Wellesley ^o^</p>
<p>Wow...I guess they don't let you use college.
ahem...prow-ler here..{pardon the dash}</p>
<p>Sure, students at other schools might see Wellesley students as falling predominantly into the desperate-and-horny category based on their experiences with Wellesley students. But I know very well that the vast majority of guests who show up for parties on the Wellesley campus (especially for the large parties) are eeeeeeaaaaaasy pickings. Talk about desperate and horny :-P</p>
<p>Seriously, though, it's not like Wendies are running around throwing themselves at any warm body that passes them. Maybe some do, but it's not exactly a hotbed of sexual frustration. The exaggerated image of the oversexed (and undersatisfied) co-ed at a women's college is sensationalized for the benefit of fantasizing individuals everywhere.</p>
<p>Ringer, I loved your answer. That last sentence is so right...and written so well =]</p>
<p>You know what I love? When I tell people I'm going to Wellesley, and they raise an eyebrow and say "Isn't that the all girls' school?" and then I remind them that, being in the Boston area with its 250,000 college students, I'll probably have more dating opportunities than they will at their random secluded college of 1000 people.</p>
<p>Sorry, random rant there.</p>
<p>Its funny what contrasting stereotypes there are... Articles seem to think Wellesley is either full of rampant and promiscuous lesbianism, or girls who will do anything to be with a man. Luckily I believe we're all smart enough to look past such generalizations.</p>
<p>Confession: I am one of those people worried about the stereotypes at Wellesley.</p>
<p>I went to a meeting at a Wellesley alum's house, and most of the answers to "What's keeping you from sending in your enrollment fee right now" were about the all-girls issue.</p>
<p>I'm not one of those girls who meet guys at parties, so I'm guessing it's going to be a little tough to find a man</p>
<p>pengwinsrawk:</p>
<p>Like you, it seems, I surely don't fit into any of those stereotypes, and since that seems to be the concern of a lot of prospective students, I think that just makes it easier to assume that the majority of girls coming in here aren't that much different than us.</p>
<p>I've never been much for meeting guys at parties either, but I know this is a time in my life where I'll have to come out of my shell a little bit. I think we should totally go boy-shopping together come September! We can be each others' support system =)</p>
<p>LisaG: I agree with what you have said, too. The fact that there are no men (with the exception of those who cross-register to Wellesley) on campus seems to be overly hyped, which is why it is imperative for individuals to visit the campus in order to truly know if an all woman college is the best for them.</p>
<p>Also, I have heard from current Wellesley students that there are plenty of ways to meet guys outside of the frat scene; it just takes some effort. There are music opportunities (orchestra with Brandeis comes to mind), and Wellesley students can join Harvard students at an after school tutoring program for young children.</p>
<p>LisaG- Yes! I get the same response when I tell people Im going to Wellesley! My parents love the school and Im likely to go there, but everyone at school, especially my friends, are so biased about all women's colleges... My final decision will solely be based on what I want and of course my parents advice, but it's hard to ignore everything I've been told by so many people...
And also, whenever I mention how much I'll enjoy the Boston area, people respond saying that I should focus more on the school rather it's location; I'm glad you disagree with them!</p>
<p>I'm going to SOC so I'm sure I'll make my final decision afterwards and hopefully, I'll love Wellesley :)</p>