<p>ok...I know this comes up like 5 billion times everyday
but don't lie.
how do you meet BOYS?
and how does that affect you personally?</p>
<p>Do you mean how WE meet boys, or how Wellesley students meet boys? ;)</p>
<p>At the MIT frat parties, I'm assuming, lol.</p>
<p>Wait. MIT has frats?!</p>
<p>Why did I not expect that one?</p>
<p>is that it?
how depressing...
MIT frat boys???</p>
<p>really, how is it wellesley students?</p>
<p>For the record, my friend's older sister went to Wellesley. With the wide array of local universities (MIT, Berklee, BC, BU, Harvard, Tufts, Brandeis), it is allegedly not difficult to meet boys. The recent alumni, for the record, is dating a boy she met abroad in Italy. </p>
<p>He's gorgeous.</p>
<p>With so many men in Boston, I seriously doubt meeting men is a problem.</p>
<p>You meet them by joining activities, making friends who like to get off campus, having friends who bring other friends to campus, and generally just getting out there and meeting people. You don't have to go to frat parties (or parties in general), but you do have to make the effort to participate in some sort of activity that would include people who aren't Wellesley students.</p>
<p>There are many strategies to meet guys, if that's one of your main priorities:</p>
<ol>
<li>Go to one of the many on campus parties/dances throughout the year, especially the larger ones. </li>
<li><p>Not a particularly great strategy because many of the guys can be quite sketchy. I mean, you'll meet guys, but do you want your potential partner to be someone who expressly went to a party at a women's college to try and get laid? Because that's the aim of a lot of the guys who attend the parties/dances. Not all, because I had a friend who met her really great boyfriend at Tower Court, but that's the general consensus.</p></li>
<li><p>Cross-register and take a class at MIT, Olin, Babson, or Brandeis.</p></li>
<li><p>You are taking a common class together. You can flirt and make eyes at him from across the room. You can pass notes to each other (or text message). It'll be like high school all over again.</p></li>
<li><p>Join a club or organization that has ties with similar groups from other schools.</p></li>
<li><p>For example, join the Toons (Wellesley-MIT a cappella group), Counterpoint (Wellesley-MIT magazine), the Ballroom Dancing Club (many practice/compete with the MIT team), the MIT Orchestra (self-explanatory). Yes, our most extensive relationship is with MIT, but I think some of the societies have ties with frats from some of the other schools in Boston. The school's relationship with Olin has been growing by leaps and bounds so that on campus events are free for Wellesley/MIT/Olin students. I know a lot of the cultural groups on campus will work with other student groups from around the city. So don't be a loner - join an organization.</p></li>
<li><p>Go to events at other schools.
A good strategy. You will frequently see events spammed around campus for things happening at the 50+ other schools in the area. Find something interesting and go to it. </p></li>
<li><p>Go out into the city and do things that you'd enjoy doing anyway.</p></li>
<li><p>Go to the MFA, see the Boston Ballet, go get half priced tickets to the Broadway shows, hang out on the Common, ice skate on Frog Pond in the winter, etc. etc. Put yourself out there.</p></li>
<li><p>Make friends with other Wellesley women.</p></li>
<li><p>A good strategy because the vast majority of students are social and have friends and will know people and they'll introduce you to friends and acquaintances and everyone can hang out and maybe they'll be an interesting/cute guy from your roommate's high school who's going to BU and she'll introduce you and you both like each other and eventually start seeing each other as girlfriend-boyfriend... you get the picture. Remember, don't be a loner.</p></li>
</ol>
<p>Yes, Wellesley is women's college so guys won't be on your floor, in your residence halls, in your classrooms, etc. Yes, you do have to take some initiative and make some effort to meet guys. No, it is not as easy or as convenient to meet guys as it is if you went to, say, BU. Yes, it is liberating to meet guys on your own terms and when you want to see them - no worries of seeing that guy in class after some poor decision making over the weekend.</p>
<p>How did it affect me personally?
Not much. I had guys friends because I met people through other people. But then, finding/having/keeping a boyfriend wasn't important to me as a student. But it was to some people and they'd sometimes complain about how much work it was to meet guys, and then the next day say thank god they were at Wellesley and didn't have to deal with stupid/drunk guys on campus.</p>
<p>Also, all these strategies work for meeting other female students outside of Wellesley.</p>
<p>HA i love the dry sarcasm in #2.</p>
<p>Agreed. The image I came up with was quite comical, next to what it would be like if the word "ogling" was used instead.</p>
<p>I remember the girls I stayed with had plenty to say about boys...one kept getting a text message from one guy who was fawning over her, even though she had a boyfriend? Very strange, indeed.</p>
<p>So I'm not too worried. I think that Wellesley will be a nice academic haven with the absence of drunken guys.</p>
<p>don't focus on it too much, you'll be fine....</p>