@CrazyCatMama We did not allow our kids to apply anywhere ED because we felt very unsure of what we might receive in terms of FA (on the cusp for income). Also, we weren’t willing to forego the option of going to second choice school if it came through with a great merit deal (freeing up money for grad school, law school). Just our family’s strategy based on our financial situation, age, siblings, kids who would be competitive for some pretty good merit at tier 2 schools, etc. It is a very personal decision to ED or not.
Others can probably give you better information re: the finances vis a vis ED. You CAN turn down an ED offer if it’s not financially feasible, but I always wonder who defines “feasible”? Sometimes NPC’s aren’t super accurate depending on your financial situation - divorce, small business, real estate holdings, etc. Will the school just accept the explanation that you can’t afford their offer because you feel you can’t, or is there pushback? Would it make sense to talk to the FA office before she decides whether to apply ED or not? Hopefully, others with experience in this will chime in!