<p>MomtoShelby can be very happy. Kids who are very mature can do very well at IU. I know some amazing kids graduating and heading to law school, medical school and other great careers. My niece is there currently doing a master’s in public health, my nephew, at the law school. You can do whatever you want at IU. My son sort of misses “big school” athletics. I have a Kelley undergrad, a master’s and a great career thanks to my great education.</p>
<p>But there is a very dark side to IU that can blindside you if you aren’t aware of it.</p>
<p>My daughter was in a terrible dorm. The kids drank all week and were throwing up and trashing hallways. When we would visit on a Sunday morning, all the hallways were filled with used beer cups, trash, occasional vomit, and there would be profanity all over the hall mirrors. She would call and complain to me about kids being drunk and crashing into her dorm and yelling in the hallways until 4 in the morning. I called to complain…they moved her to another (terrible) floor. They did nothing to stop the activity.</p>
<p>This was not a nerdy kid. She had been a cheerleader, honors student type of kid. But she could not study in her dorm…or sleep for that matter.</p>
<p>In fairness, my daughter was in Briscoe. Known for many years to be IU’s worst dorm. My son is in an honors dorm at Miami. The one pothead in his dorm at MU says MU is too square. He’s going to IU next year. </p>
<p>Four kids I know personally from our blue ribbon HS have turned into hard drug users at IU. Another arrest last week. Small sample from a 30+ thousand student school to be sure. But Hamilton County, Indiana, is very affluent and somehow those affluent kids from good homes, who were good students at top schools are finding a heroin culture. Do not underestimate this at IU. We’re not talking pot. We are talking heroin. And fentanyl. And my daughter says it is was surprisingly available. Lauren Spierer was somehow involved in it as well, most people believe.</p>
<p>And then there are the other kids at IU. I know so many who are just enjoying great classes, a beautiful campus, great athletics and an occasional party. More kids are in this group, but IU does very little to control their dorms. I am on a committee working with admin at this moment - because THEY know it’s a problem…but it is a very liberal place…and lots of people in admin just feel that kids should be free spirits.</p>
<p>Regarding Sigma Chi at MU…again…Alpha house for Sigma Chi. Big tradition. There was a 5 pound coke bust. Richest frat on campus. Cops caught them…turned it over to admin. ADMIN turned it over to the national. THAT was when the national did something. You somehow think that the national was who turned them in? They’re not in Oxford. Nope. After MU had their embarassment with “girls gone wild” in the sorority houses, they went on a mission to repair their image. And this Sigma Chi episode was part of it. If you think that the richer frats at IU don’t have similar problems, I’d like to sell you some land. They do. I can show you some pictures and video. It’s appalling.
The difference…Miami is dealing with them. My experience with admin at IU has been that they want to find a way to pretend they don’t exist. They point to awareness programs and act like that is the answer. Folks, you need enough RA’s. You need RA’s to enforce policy. My son has three RA’s on one floor. You need police who actually DO something.</p>
<p>At Miami, they will embarass the heck out of you if you are out of control. They will publish your story in the student paper. Read the Miami student paper. See for yourself. The ultimate campus shame is seeing your name and “story” in the paper. My son says that although the kids party, there is a changing culture where if you get out of control you are not cool. </p>
<p>Interesting you should in one breath say I have no facts and then blow off the cold hard facts. IU has the highest drug arrest rate in the Big Ten. A much lower 4 year grad rate than MU. And that is meaningless to you. Those are the facts. Miami also has a higher job placement rate and a higher starting salary. More facts. You didn’t LOOK at those things? Maybe it’s the Kelley grad in me…and we were #2 when I graduated. I look at the numbers…and then I look at the individual kids. Too many of our local IU kids are not doing well. Very proud of the very mature ones who are excelling. Most of those kids lived in honors dorms or were part of some program (like cheerleading or a sport). I was not willing to take the risk. My daughter came home (voluntarily) and is going to IUPUI, living in an apartment - premed - 4.0…son, thriving in an honors dorm at MU. </p>
<p>It was not an easy decision as an IU alum, to pay an extra 10K to send my kid to an Ohio state school. But after careful financial analysis. That’s where he is.</p>
<p>BTW…I don’t appreciate the insinuation that I am a drug user. I do not, and have never, used drugs. And my physician husband, with his license to prescribe narcotics, takes issue with your insinuation, as well. You might want to think before you make snide comments.</p>