<p>First of all many colleges have substance free or "quiet" dorms so those are always an option. </p>
<p>Take a look at Lawrence University, in Appleton, WI-- one we liked a lot for my D-- seems pretty balanced, fun, mellow socially. Seconding Allegheny; also liked it a lot.</p>
<p>In general lack of frats and lots of cultural options both tone down the party animal stuff. Also schools that have an attitude of social acceptance (for example: gays are accepted, minorities are accepted) tend also to have accepting attitudes about non-use of alcohol, even if some kids are going wild. </p>
<p>Finally a point of information. I am old enough to have grey hair and the bathrooms were coed when I was at Brown. No big deal; that's what stall doors and shower curtains are all about.</p>
<p>As a mom who has cleaned a boys' bathroom more time than I care to think about, I can not IMAGINE why ANY girl would even CONSIDER sharing a bathroom with boys.</p>
<p>if its the boys bathroom why is the mom cleaning it?
boys can learn to clean bathrooms- it isn't hard-
and the boys I know aren't any different than the girls I know.( by that I mean unless they are required to maintain their own bathroom- they are equally messy when living at home- at school- they are better)</p>
<p>and 100% need- it is still a hassle coming up with EFC ( we have to borrow it) but at D school- hasn't been a problem- student entertainment is free or very low cost- the school is within driving distance ( cheap) and it is in a very casual city i.e. none of this different designer handbag for everyday of the week that I have heard about at a few other schools
it depends more on the school atmosphere, than how much aid is given</p>
<p>Thanks for your input on the Financial Aid/atmosphere. I am at a metro campus where there is much to do off campus and also some sophisticated shoppers. I am always interested to hear about the "atmosphere" on different campuses.</p>
<p>I hate to break it to you, but sexiling and co-ed bathrooms (whether they are officially that way or not) are a fact of college life. I think it would be extremely difficult to find a school nowadays where neither one of these occur.</p>
<p>I also read Charlotte Simmons and found it entertaining - I think some aspects of the book fit certain colleges very accurately. But I also wondered what the frat boys thought of the old guy hanging out with them!</p>
<p>no I don't have boys- but I do have friends with boys .
But regarding coed bathrooms in dorms
My daughter began at a school with coed bathrooms 4 years ago.
We visit a few times each year- the bathrooms are always very clean- granted the housekeeper keeps on top of that- but it was the girls who covered the common room with their stuff- not the boys.
What possibly can boys do to a bathroom that can compete with girls leaving their makeup spills to solidify in the drain- their hair color staining the counter- as well as their experiments in bottles on the window sill?
Both sexes leave hair all over- both leave clothes and towels where they dropped them- and frankly leaving the seat up is not really that big a deal.</p>
<p>I think there is more variance between messy and clean than between sexes.
I married my husband because he squeeged the shower after he used it. ( I didn't realize that once he decided I was responsible for that- he didn't need to any more- but I know he is capable of it- it didn't even occur to me)
I have a much higher tolerance for disorder than he does- I don't even see it-</p>
<p>EK, got to agree with weenie on this one! Boys can clean bathrooms, mine actually kind of likes to "clean" bathrooms. But because of anatomy, carelessness and general disregard of dirt, they make a much bigger bathroom mess - and I'm not talking about the cluttery mess that girls leave - the hair is disgusting, but my son's mess is even more disgusting. I think though that the boys at some point have an epiphany about their problem, and become more fastidious - like yours, my husband is neater than I am.</p>
<p>people leaving used tampons on the floor by the toilet is pretty disgusting to me- but it really isn't worth arguing about- although arguing about it is easier than cleaning it.</p>
<p>I live in a dorm with co-ed bathrooms, and we've absolutely never had a problem with bathroom mess except for girls leaving hair in the shower.</p>
<p>Actually, there have been a lot fewer problems with mess in the co-ed bathrooms than in the co-ed kitchens. And no problems with privacy in either location.</p>
<p>(And a quick solution to the sexiling issue is to live in a dorm that's all singles. My non-existent roommate, happily, has never kicked me out of the room to entertain visitors. ;))</p>
<p>Sexiling isn't really a big deal anyway. There are always friends with futons and sleeping bags, and iif it's going to be for the whole night with a boyfriend/girlfriend, you usually have advance notice.</p>
<p>In the "real" world, basically I haven't encountered any situations where there are co-ed bathrooms. At work there are men's rooms and ladies rooms. And you don't even shower at work. I have a son and a daughter but they are not in the bathroom at the same time, showering and dressing.</p>
<p>Sexiling and coed bathrooms exist everywhere; problems can come up anywhere, but I found the book to be beyond silly, with cardboard characters who seem to have no acquaintance with anything resembling an inner life, and Charlotte was probably the worst of them. So if your D is a one-dimensional characterless shrew without a shred of real human connection to the people around her, and finds everyone else to be more or less interesting depending on how popular they are, then you should worry. But otherwise, put it out of your mind.</p>
<p>What schools have single dorms? It doesn't have to be midwest.
Also, I guess I'm really naive but sexiling prevents you from getting a good night's sleep, and studying.</p>
<p>If you're sexiled, take some books with you, and then it will help you study!</p>
<p>Amazon: I'm pretty sure most schools have singles, but probably not for many freshmen. The ones I know of that have lots are Haverford and Swarthmore. Brown gives every freshman a roommate.</p>
<p>Oh God. Who recommended St. Olaf's? Is that the only choice? Sexiling or St. Olaf's? I looked them up on another site and the students there are practically locked up. What's CNY? Columbia? By the way, when I was in college I lived at home for 2 years and then got an apartment so this all sounds bizarre to me.</p>
<p>Try U Chicago. Her stats roughly fit, it's in the midwest, and the dorms are really nice-especially look at Snell-Hitchcock if you want a single. Also, the social scene isn't quite as, um, rowdy as at other schools.</p>
<p>No matter what school you go to, sexiling still depends on the roommate. If it's a big deal, just tell your roommate to go elsewhere and refuse to leave.</p>
<p>Apparently you don't know that sexiling as a term means one roommate is gone......either by agreement or by locking them out. Staying in the room while your roommate cavorts is another thing. Believe me it happens when ones roommate doesn't care who is around.......or how close.....or if they are awake or ........lets suffice it to say "they don't care". As to whether this is a problem, I would look for schools that have single rooms.......all girls and stick to that. Mills College in Oakland CA is one option for you.</p>
<p>a friend of mine attended st olafs- I doubt they lock up the students. True Mcminnville is a little tiny town and it may seem like the neighborhing Carleton students are having more fun- but cold weather brings people together!</p>
<p>My daughter had a single for her first three years at Reed- without having to request it- she is now living in a townhouse.
They have lots of singles- also their other rooms are divided double/triple so room mates decide if they want to have two bed or a sitting room and a bedroom.</p>