<p>so i'm thinking about getting birth control pills. i know i have to go see a doctor and get a prescription written up and everything first.</p>
<p>thing is, i'd like to get them without my parents figuring it out. if i go to ashe, will it go on some type of record that will be sent to my parents? i'd pay for the bc in cash and everything... i just want to make sure that theres a way i can do it discreetly. i don't really know much so give me any advice you can. thanks!</p>
<p>If you're 18 years old, you're an adult, and your parents don't have access to your medical records unless you tell the doctor it's OK.</p>
<p>Consider carefully before you take this, or any related steps. VeryHappy is right, but there are consequences to premarital (i'm assuming you are not married since you don't want your parents to find out!) sex besides pregnancy.</p>
<p>^it's a bit of a different culture at our university. i think if she was 14 it'd be one thing.</p>
<p>i agree with fencer. moral/religious/personal qualms aside, there are so many factors that go into the decision to have sex. it can't be taken lightly. if you feel like your parents would judge you, or look down on you for this decision, or not want to speak to you at all, find some other trusted adult to talk to. get the whole picture before you take this step because it is NOT one that can be undone! you are an adult, legally, but make sure you're one emotionally too.</p>
<p>... Why is everyone assuming she is a virgin?</p>
<p>I highly disagree with fencersmother's implied views on premarital sex, that's all I have to say.</p>
<p>I'm sure that anyone at Ashe will be willing to go over the possible effects of birth control. Yes, there are possible complications (as with any medication) but most women I know who use it are quite happy with their decision.</p>
<p>If possible, ask for low-dose pills, as the side-effects tend to be decreased.</p>
<p>And above all, stay safe. :)</p>
<p>charisma: ... Why is everyone assuming she is a virgin?</p>
<p>THANK you.</p>
<p>Oh, one quick aside thesuperjlai...</p>
<p>The first 3 or so months on the pill usually suck. Or at least that's what every woman has told me (my fiancee included.) Stick with it if you can!</p>
<p>usually suck because of hormonal changes, possible weight gain, and mood swings right? </p>
<p>or is there more.</p>
<p>i have a couple friends on the pill. one recommends it, one doesn't.</p>
<p>hmmmmmm.</p>
<p>My girlfriend said she constantly felt queasy for the first month, a bit moody the second, and a little bit bloated the third. Then she got used to it. I think that most people I've met, however, are happy with it in the long run.</p>
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<p>At any rate, from the services provided by Ashe, it reads nothing besides "ASHE Something Phone Number." There aren't any details in regards to why I went there.</p>
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<p>HAHAHAHA :D</p>
<p>Do you really want to know the details of feminine health (as opposed to sexual health and contraception)?</p>
<p>serrrriously. don't get us started. you have no idea what we go through.</p>
<p>if this one follows through, i'll go on in the fall. we can suffer together.</p>
<p>also, i haven't met anyone outside of ccc (and that sort) or super conservative asian families who thought premarital sex was a big deal.</p>
<p>To the OP, between FERPA and HIIPA, your privacy is of utmost importance. Your parents are not supposed to received any information about the care or treatment you receive unless you give your parents access. In most states, the administration of advice or treatment for birth control, even in the case of minors, can be done without parental consent or knowledge. There are many low dose OCP's, and generally student health facilities use only low dose pills as their first, second and even third choices. Newer pills are not likely to cause weight gain, mood changes, or nausea, but there are always a few women who might experience a temporary adjustment period. The pill IN NO WAY protects you from any STD. So additional protection is required. Usually, you will not leave a student health facility without both the first pack(s) of pills, and a handful of condoms. Please look into also receiving information on the series of three Gardasil HPV immunization shots. </p>
<p>You will generally leave with the first pack of pills as a free sample, and larger student health facilities also have the ability to dispense additional OCP packs from their student pharmacy, often at a reduced cost compared to the local drug store. </p>
<p>The only time there might be an issue of a parent finding out would be if you have health insurance through your parents, and a claim is filed. The EOB (explanation of benefits) generally goes to the policy holder. But it is for that reason that campus student health services offer well woman care without filing for insurance benefits. Just clarify that when you go. </p>
<p>Yes, I am a gynecologist, and I am the mother of two teenage girls. I always tell my young adult patients that it is always best to be able to talk to a parent about making these decisions. It makes it much "healthier" when there are no secrets. But I realize that it is a subject that not every young woman can discuss with her mom or dad. And when a current patient who is a mom brings in her daughter for that first time visit, I tell mom that when their daughter comes into the exam room and I close the door, what is discussed behind that door STAYS behind that door, unless daughter is the one to say otherwise. It is always nice when daughter actually asks mom to stay. But moms do bring in their daughters in part because it is a subject that they CAN'T discuss with their daughter, and they trust me to take it from there. </p>
<p>So try to talk to your mom. But if you absolutely cannot, visit student health with your questions and concerns. They are also there to provide information and counseling. They are NOT there to judge.</p>
<p>are you gals always moody b/c of "feminen healthy"</p>
<p>Thanks for the post sunnyflorida. </p>
<p>We're moody because we can bleed for a week and not die.</p>
<p>Girlfriends who bleed suddenly during a trek in Westwood create some most interesting situations. </p>
<p>"HURRY! HURRY TO CVS! Ahhhh it's wet!"</p>