<p>I’ve been to parties. And I’m in college. And I know plenty well you can drink and not get drunk. Unfortunately, most of the people I’m surrounded by do exactly that. And I don’t like being around completely hammered people. At all. So I tend to steer clear of parties.</p>
<p>Maybe it’s slightly different where you go. But most of the people who go to parties in my hall on the weekends come back completely drunk off their asses. </p>
<p>Look, I have nothing personal against alcohol. In moderation, it’s perfectly fine. I just don’t see many of my peers having enough sense to drink in moderation. Most people (read: in my hall) overdo it. They continually stumble back in, throw up, make complete asses of themselves…that kind of behavior just really turned me off from parties. I don’t want to spend my time around people like that. -shrug-</p>
<p>I don’t drink/party but I don’t really think that makes me more mature.
I have never really tried it though. I will be 21 in October so I figure I can just wait.
I enjoy lots of other things so I think you can find fun without if you prefer. I am kind of a shutterbug and have friends with similar interests so it makes for fun.</p>
Thankfully, it’s very different where I attend college. Even when people are quite intoxicated, they are not obnoxious and generally do not make asses of themselves; puking is pretty rare as well, and if someone does puke, they do it in the toilet, avoid the seat, and clean up after themselves. :)</p>
<p><strong>Disclaimer</strong>
I take my academic life extremely seriously. I also enjoy intellectual conversation, hanging out with friends playing video games, hanging out with friends watching TV, going to movies, going to the mall…</p>
<p>That being said, you should really try getting drunk with a few friends sometime and hopping around to a few really horrible parties. I find it nearly impossible to be unhappy when drunk with your friends. I do think it’s hilarious how people act at the parties, and I believe going to the silly parties as someone who can look at them as a bunch of idiots adopting a silly beer-culture is extremely fun. Often its very fun to become the typical party guy because most likely, you won’t be having interactions with the people at the party ever again (assuming you dislike the parties). And even if you do, your behavior won’t even be out of the ordinary, so you won’t ruin your reputation (I don’t care about this, just saying). </p>
<p>About the bad beer, I think that’s part of the fun: drinking horrible tasting things that people pretend to like.</p>
<p>“Look, I have nothing personal against alcohol. In moderation, it’s perfectly fine. I just don’t see many of my peers having enough sense to drink in moderation. Most people (read: in my hall) overdo it. They continually stumble back in, throw up, make complete asses of themselves…that kind of behavior just really turned me off from parties. I don’t want to spend my time around people like that. -shrug-”</p>
<p>I couldn’t help but notice how you dislike how these people are ruining their reputations (making asses of themselves). Not only does your reputation, aside from how your good friends view you, not matter at all, often people who do judge are stupid enough to prefer the idiot-party-man over the introspective ‘nerd’ who thinks they’re too good for partying. Ever think that the people stumbling in could be having fun? There’s much fun to be had that you’re not experiencing. You may want to consider marijuana as well, just to try it, as I believe the effects of marijuana are much more pleasant than those of alcohol. Perhaps you will really like it, and if not, no harm done. </p>
<p>TL;DR</p>
<p>Getting drunk and doing silly things with friends at parties where you all realize the idiocy of the partyers is a lot of fun.</p>
<p>I don’t think you’re more mature or boring because some old mature people drink beer and hang out and are still mature and not boring… I think you’re just more refined. Just consider yourself a hipster. By definition, hipsters don’t follow the mainstream. B-) I think you’re cool.</p>
<p>No you are not more mature for being the way you are. </p>
<p>Being mature means being able to have fun, balance work, and social life. </p>
<p>Just because you don’t drink cheap beer doesn’t make you more mature. Just because you don’t find going out fun doesn’t make you more mature. In fact, its intriguing that you think you are more mature because this just proves that you have more growing up to do, and probably have some self-confidence issues. </p>
<p>Where did you get that out of what I said? I don’t give a **** about their “reputations.” I think the very idea of “reputations” is completely ludicrous.</p>
<p>When I say they’re “making asses of themselves,” I mean they’re acting like idiots, being really loud, annoying, disturbing people who are trying to study/do homework/sleep/etc. They don’t listen when you tell them calm down/be quiet. They have no consideration for others whatsoever. All in all, it’s incredibly irritating considering the weekend starts on Thursday night to most of the people in my hall.</p>
<p>They can have all the “fun” they want getting hammered two to three nights of the week. But I don’t personally find that to be “fun,” so I’m not going to do it. I have different preferences when it comes to “fun.” </p>
<p>Personally, I don’t see where the controversy is here. I don’t like drunken parties. They’re not fun to me. Other people can enjoy them all they want. I, personally, don’t. Therefore, I can sympathize with OP.</p>
<p>Rixs, chances are, you are not good looking, you probably have no friends, no significant other and are jealous of the others who get to go out and have fun.</p>
<p>Stop being bitter at the world for your own shortcomings.</p>
<p>^^Ha ha! Oh, wow. I love you how got that from my dislike of rowdy hammered drinkers. Hate to break it to you, sweetheart, but I’ve got plenty friends, none of which go out and drink on the weekends. Secondly, I think I look perfectly fine. Am I a supermodel? No. But I certainly don’t see myself as ugly. </p>
<p>Okay, you’re right. I currently do not have a boyfriend. I’ve had several in the past. I have yet to find one in my very first year of college. -shrug- Doesn’t bother me. I can’t help but wonder why it bothers you.</p>
<p>“Who get to go out and have fun…”</p>
<p>I don’t recall saying I was grounded. I’m free to do whatever I want. If I wanted to go out drinking, I could head down the street where the parties are right now. Thing is, I don’t want to. It’s not my type of scene. </p>
<p>I’m failing to see why you people are so hung up on this. I don’t find drinking and getting drunk “fun.” Where is the big deal? Maybe I’m just blind, but I think you guys are starting to blow this out of proportion. </p>
<p>OP was upset that they couldn’t find too many people who enjoyed the same things they did because they didn’t enjoy drinking/partying. I sympathized and explained why. </p>
<p>Someone made an incorrect assumption based on my reply, I got a little miffed. No need to be so vicious, dude. It’s pretty ridiculous that you’d attack me like that. You come off as a lot more bitter than I do…</p>
<p>Also:</p>
<p>“shortcomings”</p>
<p>…I’m kind of disturbed you think someone’s appearance counts as a shortcoming.</p>
<p>What adults do you know that don’t party? If I stop having ‘fun’ when I get to my parents age, it will truly be sad. </p>
<p>My dad and step-mom throw great parties once a month with lots of wine and good alcohol. There are at least 50 people there every month, often times more.</p>
<p>In other words, not drinking doesn’t make you more mature. It just means you like different things.</p>
<p>I really don’t see why this is such a big deal. Some people like to drink, others don’t. Maturity doesn’t relate to either choice.
I don’t think either should be made fun of. Both are better than trying to major in date rape in college.</p>
<p>The OP seems to suggest that going out/drinking and having intellectually stimulating discourse exist exclusive of each other. They don’t. People in college are more nuanced than the trite caricatures you’re portraying them as. It’s not jocks vs. nerds anymore so stop feeding this false dichotomy.</p>
<p>I think the only place the “maturity” issue comes in is when you can’t have fun if you’re not drinking or if you dont have any other interests, which I don’t think is the case for most people-- although freshmen seem to struggle with that more than others, they are just in an adjustment period.</p>