<p>I hate going out drinking, I don't really like "hanging out" (i.e. doing nothing for hours), and I despise wasting time, because I don't enjoy the alternatives taking place at the time.</p>
<p>I guess you can call me insanely boring, lol.</p>
<p>That being said, I DO like...plays, musicals, operas, movies (yes, even recent ones), novel discussions, news discussions, current events discussions, low-key political debates, philosophy discussions, learning/hearing new things...and in general, anything that involves, well, thinking.</p>
<p>That's not to say I don't enjoy things like spontaneous camping trips or amusement parks or sports (just not usually watching them, only)--but it's not like these are activities you can truly engage in every day, unless you're an athlete, or etc.</p>
<p>It seems like no one else really sees things my way, apart from a few close friends. My question is: should I consider this an issue? Should I just shrug and go on with being productive/boring? Move to a more serious area?</p>
<p>You’re not alone. I’m the same way…it’s not a bad way to be, it just means you end up relating to fewer people, especially the ones looking for the “typical” college experience of getting drunk all the time, skipping class, sleeping around, etc.</p>
<p>You’re missing life dude. Im not into the whole live life one day at a time thing because you need to plan of you will fail. However you’re missing out if you don’t have any fun with other people. Have you ever tried any of thte things you say you don’t like? You’d be surprised they’re really fun things to do.</p>
<p>thank you, somebody else who gets it.
I’m not into what most people do for fun, like parties or whatever.
which is why high school is unbearable.</p>
<p>That’s exactly what I was going to say. I enjoy almost the exact same things you do, OP. And I get it. I really do. I have a hall of 30 freshman where at least 25 go out drinking every weekend. My roommate just “hangs out” and does nothing but sit in other friends’ room for hours on end.</p>
<p>I never understood the “fun” aspect of getting drunk until you can’t walk straight, puking in the hallway and bathroom, waking up with a terrible headache, and then doing it all again the next night…That just doesn’t sound or look fun to me, yet that’s what I see them do every week.</p>
<p>If someone would say “Hey, want to go see [new movie]?” Sure, that’s sounds fun.</p>
<p>Amusement parks are one of my favorite things. I love thrill rides. I like reading fiction. I like concerts. I like shopping. I like scenic walks. I like art and photography. I like swimming. Games. Sports. Debates. TV shows. Bike riding. Window shopping. And on and on and on. There’s tons of things I think are fun. Hell, I like anime conventions. </p>
<p>There’s a thousand and one things I consider fun you could ask me to do any day of the week, but no one ever does.</p>
<p>All they ever do is complain about schoolwork and get drunk. Sorry if I’m “weird,” but that’s not fun to me. </p>
<p>Hence, I spend a lot of my time doing things I personally enjoy by myself. -shrug- Did it in high school. Do it now.</p>
You know, it is possible to drink with friends without getting completely hammered. I enjoy drinking and partying with friends on weekends; I just don’t overdo it. I also enjoy reading, movies (thank god for steaming Netflix, am I right?), intellectual conversations, concerts (classical, jazz, indie, whatever; I saw Arcade Fire and the Boston Pops/Symphony within three days of each other), plays, etc. It is possible to find a balance.</p>
<p>I never went to parties in high school, but it’s different in college. Just don’t dismiss the ideas before giving them a fair chance.</p>
<p>The Arcade Fire is unbearably painful to listen to</p>
<p>The point of drinking isn’t to get hammered. Alcohol, when you’ve had the right amount (not too much not too little) makes you happier and lowers inhibition. It makes some people more honest or more fun to be around bah if you haven’t tried it…</p>
<p>^ True, not drinking and partying doesn’t make you more mature. Plus puking and getting hangovers arent fun, however being drunk and having fun with friends at a party and chasing girls is fun. So I think drinking is worth the sucky stuff.</p>
<p>Such behavior is frequently considered more mature, since older individuals typically don’t get drunk or go out and party every weekend, but for those of you who disagree, I added “boring.”</p>
<p>And yes, I HAVE tried drinking and partying–I don’t find it interesting, for many reasons. One of these being that I don’t like cheap beer, and prefer higher quality drinks, if I drink at all. No offense. I’m not saying it isn’t exciting for some people, but it just isn’t for me.</p>
<p>Glad some people agree with me, however. I’m wondering if anyone else feels out of place when invited out…it’s just not the only thing I want to be doing for entertainment, but everyone else couldn’t care less about other things! Guess I need better friends. Some of you sound like you can go for either, which I envy a bit!</p>
<p>And uh, nerd? I guess–I care about my grades, but I don’t spend hours studying. But I do love my classes, so whatever.</p>
<p>It’s not any more or less mature, and should not lend itself to feelings of superiority—I’m not implying that you have said feelings, I’m just saying it as a general statement.</p>
<p>Why would you have to drink cheap beer? I hate shots and cheap beer, so I tend to bring better beer (or gin and tonic water/whiskey and limes and lemons/etc.) and split the cost (and the alcohol) with a few friends. It really doesn’t have to be the trashy experience you make it out to be in your head.</p>
<p>Nice that you weren’t implying anything, because I don’t feel superior. If anything, closer to boring.</p>
<p>Unfortunately those were the experiences I had…and not trashy at all, just not relaxing and fun. Guess I’m more of a nice bottle of wine + lots of quiet kind of person. Haven’t found that yet at college. Am I looking in the wrong places?</p>
<p>Personal preferences, I can dig them. The OP has had experiences with partying and didn’t like it. I’m not really in to the party scene, I don’t drink because I don’t like the way my mom acts when drunk. You’re not alone OP, you’re not alone.</p>
As much as I do love nice wine and interesting conversation, peace and quiet does get pretty dull. There will be others that share your preferences, but they won’t be as easy to find as those who enjoy partying on weekends since, well, they won’t be out in the open partying.</p>
<p>OP, I’d say you just have a different idea of what you find “fun.” If you honestly feel like you don’t find anything fun, that would be one thing, but you just seem to prefer more intellectual pursuits and you derive pleasure from them - therefore that’s what’s fun for you. You’re not weird or boring, you just need to find others who share your views.</p>
<p>I don’t think drinking/partying or your enjoyment of “hanging out” is directly related to maturity, though. I think many older people stop partying because I assume it gets old after a while (though I don’t see that happening anytime soon for me :D), it can be hard on your body, and you just run out of time and have more responsibilities. While you might be becoming more mature at this time, I think it is due to things other than how much you drink, party, or hang out, I think it’s more due to life experience and changing circumstances. I don’t think anyone should feel superior to those who do choose to indulge in any substance, though. You can’t possibly judge a person without walking in their shoes.</p>
Some of you sound like you can go for either, which I envy a bit!</p>