<p>How can I become a party-mongering, "wooooo" yelling, boisterous, frat-like college student? I see a bunch of people walking back from parties drunk and having fun, and I'm just like man, why can't I be part of that crowd?</p>
<p>Thinking about why I can't get any girls, I've realized that I'm too serious. Far too serious. I'd rather go to an art museum than to a sports game, prefer to hang out with the nerdy types, and would rather read World War II history books than facebook wall posts. I'm tired of getting this "be yourself" BS advice, I could be myself and end up being a virgin my entire life.</p>
<p>So, how can I loosen up a little? Looking back at my past, I've had a really crappy past, with few friends in high school and overprotective parents. I have always been worried about stuff because of family circumstances, so I never really had time to develop a good personality. People say I'm good looking, but when girls approach me I can't talk to them because I run out of stuff to say. I might as well become a librarian because I am so boring.</p>
<p>Well, you won't get any "be yourself" advice from me. What you're describing doesn't even sound like maturity. You're just a social outcast with obviously poor social skills.</p>
<p>Before you can change your life, you need to improve your social skills. For some people, it's impossible; it's just how their brain is wired. For others, it's a lot of hard work. Getting involved in clubs and stuff seems to be a popular resort.</p>
<p>Perhaps you should be more open-minded. I also like art museums and history books, but I don't let that prevent me from talking to people about other things. You seem to view the things you like as superior to the things other people enjoy... maybe that's why you have trouble relating to people.</p>
<p>Join theater. I can tell you that it had a major impact on my life...it may do the same for you.</p>
<p>Don't go out being drunk every night though...there is nothing great about not remembering what you did last night. >_> You don't need to be a drunken partier to be social.</p>
<p>You should try taking someone with you to the art museum! You could go with people to the movies. No need to run around yelling "whoo" or be drunk. Just because those people are loud and noticeable doesn't mean that people who are interested in other things do not exist. You should see if there is an art appreciation school at your club, and perhaps consider starting one. :)</p>
<p>Alcohol. If you want people to gravitate towards you and party around you, provide alcohol. Remember that they're not actually your friends, though, and will ditch you in a second if a better party opens up.</p>
<p>^^ I agree. One drink will do- just to loosen yourself up and get over your shyness, ti's also much easier to put on a smile on your face and people DO come to you.</p>
<p>Supply people with alcohol. They might use you for it, but you'll get invited for stuff/called. That's one thing I'm worried about next year for college, finding a connect.</p>
<p>If I can watch anime and play final fantasy and still manage to go to a lot of parties and pick up women you should be able to go to an art museum and still get to parties :D</p>
<p>dank, i don't think youll have trouble getting beers at any time of the day lol</p>
<p>ew. i can't believe some of the replies that this thread is getting.</p>
<p>not everyone is the partying, woohoo i just ripped the seat of my pants falling down a hill running from the cops because i was drinking underage oh shoot now i'm puking all over the street type. nor do they need to be.</p>
<p>i love art museums and spend much free time in them and hate going to sports games. i'd much prefer reading a book than reading who's dating who and OMG HOW DRUNK ALANA WAS LAST NIGHT on facebook groups. and i love it. so in my opinion, we are both awesome and using our time in a much more productive way. you won't even remember the night you spent being drunk and doing things that could possibly get you arrested, provide difficulty getting jobs, and maybe even kill you. the knowledge you gain from what you do during your free time now will last forever. your brain cells are important to preserve. :)</p>
<p>when i was a freshman in high school i was the woohoo party drunken type. i got over that and am not at all envious of my former self. it gets old, fast, if you have any common sense. all i have is regret that i wasted so much damn time when i could've been, you know, teaching myself sentential logic or something.</p>
<p>are you still in high school? if you end up at the right college, you'll find plenty of people who love to socialize while doing the very same things you enjoy. art museum group trips, history discussion-parties, much more. good times.</p>
<p>LACtransferhopes: well said. We need more people like you.</p>
<p>What's really funny about the things I've been reading is that the drinking age is 21 (unless there is still a state that has it at 18...but...I doubt it since they'd be losing a ton of funding from the national government)....The typical college student won't be able to drink until his or her junior or senior year....legally.</p>
<p>I don't get it, nor do I understand the appeal of it. I'd rather go play apples to apples with some friends than go to a wild party and drink all night any day.</p>
<p>Let me clue you in on something it took me a <em>long</em> time to learn: those yelling, partying guys are likely not having any fun either! Seriously. Lots of folks drink and act wild to hide their fear and misery. </p>
<p>Get out and find some folks like yourself - an art club, a history club. Talk to some people. Be friendly. Ask them questions. Talk about things you love.</p>
<p>I've been married for 20+ years to my best friend - a fantastic guy who loves history books and art museums -- and so do I.</p>
<p>Get involved in campus activities. Join student organizations. Unlike high school, everyone at college doesn't already know everyone else. So find a group and meet some new people there. Contact the Office of Student Life (could be called something else on your campus) -- find out what student organizations are available. Maybe even make an appointment with the director for Student Life and ask for recommendations. Our campus has everything from Greek to Gaming, and many in between. Some even go to art museums ;) You may be surprised what you find. But do look for groups to join -- don't let yourself feel isolated or get down about being isolated. And don't feel bummed because you aren't interested in facebook drama. ;) You can be yourself while also being open to new options, but you don't have to go down the path of drunkeness to do it. But first things first -- see what you can find out about student activities. And if the first group you try out doesn't work out for you, don't give up. Pick another one -- but make some connections.</p>
<p>Yeah, I think that this guy's problems are rooted deeper than "alcohol, it's a social lubricant; have a few and go party."</p>
<p>OP's gotta start at just making friends with similar interests; hence why I mentioned the clubs. Maybe find a girl that you can relate to, although that might be hard.</p>
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What's really funny about the things I've been reading is that the drinking age is 21 (unless there is still a state that has it at 18...but...I doubt it since they'd be losing a ton of funding from the national government)....The typical college student won't be able to drink until his or her junior or senior year....legally.
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Are you not in college yet?</p>
<p>Anyway, I'm not a drinker either. Find friends that'll do other stuff, like go out and watch movies, play video games, play board games, etc. Whatever it is you're into.</p>
<p>I'll be going this Fall. I'm currently a highschool senior. Though, I know people who smoke and drink a plenty here in high school >_> I've seen people smoking right outside the highschool during classes! There is this girl by my locker who stinks of smoke. I can only imagine how it will be in college :S</p>