<p>DadII, I did misunderstand some previous posts about your son needing a full ride. So, now you mean that his safeties need to be a full ride but if the school is “worthy”, you are willing to pay. I see. Frankly, I can’t relate but everyone does what feels right for them. In my view, I’m willing to pay the same amount for the reach, the match, or the safety. I’m looking to educate the kids. They’ll get a fine education wherever they go. It is worth the money no matter the level of selectivity. The level of selectivity matters only because of the right FIT and they prefer more challenging schools. But I’d pay the same even if they got into less selective schools. That’s just me. I don’t believe in saying I’ll pay more for a more elite school but won’t cough up the bucks for the less elite ones. I’m paying for my kid to be educated and putting stock in my kid. That’s how I see it. You see it differently. That’s fine. For me, ANY school will do as long as my kid thrives and is happy there. There are no “must have” schools. My kids go to great schools that are quite selective but I would have paid the same for less selective ones as well. With your approach, I’d be worried the message it gives your child that you are willing to fund his education if he gets into an elite but are not willing if he does not. That’s a lot of pressure, let alone has a value attached to it as if the less elite schools are not “good enough” to pay for.</p>
<p>I had misread your posts and thought you had said you were not willing to pay for your second child for college because you were too poor. I also got the impression that he’d have more restrictions on where he could apply than your D had. My mistake. I am not sure I am the only one who misinterpretted your posts lately.</p>
<p>Forgive me but comments like this confuse members like me:</p>
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