@Publisher There are many factors which go into the “perception” of prestige. For some, it’s fancy building, for others the oldest school or the school with the oldest traditions. For others, it’s how many classes there are or how the many Olympians or Senators have gone there. For others it’s personal.
We used many factors to discern what was important to our kids (and us) as family. Everyone would have different factors. For us, privileged name was a negative( I am a 3x Ivy grad so don’t put much store in a name unless the person is also solid). And I also hate logos on clothing! Traditions, while nice to have were less important than curriculum. For us, we needed at least several years beyond Calc, we also needed to have a robust curriculum that could support kids who were 99% ers. There are many BS BTW, which have excellent curriculums. Some are flexible in their approaches for kids who want to take classes outside the normal bounds. Some are not ( more linear). This is the way we’ve always done it type. Not better or worse, just something to consider. We also looked at optional courses. We also looked at various sports our kids are into. And met the coaches.
We also looked at how do the school weigh the student. Is academic excellence the penultimate measure, is balance, are athletics important. Does the school have awards ( one didn’t) and do they believe in SAT’s, APs and all the other factors. How about art and music and theater. Do students win national awards? How many? Are the programs well run?
We checked matriculations VERY closely. Actually in the beginning, these were very important to us ( maybe even the top factor). They quickly became less relevant for two reasons. 1. Our kids would likely have a much better chance of IVY league acceptances out of our top public school ( sending about a dozen each year) and 2. The Ivy acceptances were often not what they appeared. Some had tons of sports kids. You could feel at many BS that there was not a level playing field. Some were filled with uber-wealthy legacies. When we visited for games some teams weren’t into sportsmanship and some were great . So, a pause and thoughts were given as to how everything would impact the educational experience as well as the college acceptances. No issue if it’s a meritocracy based on grades and achievements. Otherwise, it’s a negative factor. Some schools had large numbers of kids, some very few so that also is a factor. (You cannot compare 300 per year vs. 75-100). Also proximity matters.
One school we visited was very far below par ( you mentioned it). One was solid academically and it came down to the wire (kid chose another school) I don’t want to mention the names of the various schools as they are all a fit for someone. And things vary from year to year as well.
Honestly, every kid can do very well at BS if they have good fit-which is essentially the easiest path to good college acceptances. The name of the school is less important than the experience of the kid. In fact, I think many kids are being pushed by their parents to go for the name and they end up in the bottom half of the class. It’s sad really. My kid has had tons of kids in classes whose parents are pushing them into the top classes, the kids can’t keep up and they drop down ( bruising their egos and confidence in the process).
My younger one is looking now and given all factors, it will be the same process. And we’ll talk it out based on acceptances and what is needed As a family, we are paying for BS to get a great HS experience. We will pay for COLLEGE/U to get a great college experience. Looking at BS as a lens solely for college acceptance isn’t the path we took ( nor would suggest). And honestly, it’s becoming more difficult to gain acceptance to some colleges. So since we are not going to be donating a building, we focused on BS for BS.
@marvelcomics We had the same experience when we looked for a list of the best schools. One list was very old ( I think it was Forbes) and the others weren’t well thought out. The best thing you can do, IMHO is talk to the parents/kids at various schools and get their insight. Listen to what they say about their school. Each school is so unique. There are many people who think their school is the best and that is great. But there are many great schools out there. Kick the tires hard. There are lots of factors you should consider before you chose the BS you will attend. Best of luck.