<p>Thank you, Benley. I, in fact,did not say that. :)</p>
<p>I DID say:
In boarding school, where the bar is so much higher and the equivalent of straight As is rare, I don’t expect quite that standard but I do expect decent grades and very high effort. If my kids were challenged with learning difficulties, my expectations would be different but I would expect them to work to the best of their abilities, but that isn’t the case.</p>
<p>leanid, It depends upon the school if there is pressure or not. In some middle schools, you really just have to show up to get A’s. I suppose I DEMAND good grades from mine as well, but that’s because they put no effort into it. Part of the way I don’t make rules, if that makes sense. </p>
<p>In other words, yes, my kids are expected to get straight A’s - because they don’t study. AND, I’m not going to make them study as long as they keep getting A’s. Now, if I see a B coupled with the usual lack of effort, there will be consequences. THEN (and only then) will I come down on them. If it was difficult and they worked hard and got a B, I’d say congrats!</p>
<p>Does this make me a pressure mommy?</p>
<p>neato - Gee, either you have total geniuses for children (since they get As without studying) or you have a horrendous school.</p>
<p>Re: “Seems like an awful lot of pressure to DEMAND high grades, irrespective of a child’s competence.” </p>
<p>Is my usage wrong here? To me it means that at whatever level of competence, to demand high grades is too much.</p>
<p>The school is pretty easy.
Over 40% of the students in 8th grade have over a 90 average.
When I say that we have no local options, that’s why!</p>
<p>Neato, it must be neat to live in Lake Wobegon, where the kids are all above average.</p>
<p>That’s the running joke!!! If it wasn’t such a disservice to the kids (all of them), it would be funny.</p>
<p>Neato, my mum demands I get straight As too because I don’t study, can’t remember the last time I did homework (serious but its only 10% of the grade :D), get little sleep and complain about how boring school is. The irony is I actually go to a ‘very good’ middle school whose high school is nationally ranked and where only about 10%ish get straight As… If I were to start getting Bs, I’m sure my mum would put more rules in place but curently there’s no reason to complain.</p>
<p>And yes I know if I get into BS I’ll have to make adjustments…Big adjustments… No more 6 hours of reading a night on school days :(</p>
<p>BlueRaven: its the same for me, except my middle school is average and not “very good”</p>
<p>It’s supposed to be very good… I realised that looked like I was showing off which I really wasn’t, pretty much everyone on here is very bright anyway and part of the reason I do so well is I came from an academically intense private school before here and because of school year differences by law I had to repeat 6 months. I was just saying that like the parents said, I have very little academic structure because I don’t need it. If i did my mother would enforce it on me. </p>
<p>I better start the 4 week project thats due tommorow ;)</p>
<p>^^
lol 10char</p>
<p>@blue same situation here</p>
<p>Correction: My mum DOES complain when I leave things till the wee hours of the morning they’re due.</p>
<p>haha, my mom just makes me go to bed at 11 every night, regardless that I don’t get home until 8:30 and eat/shower and start homework at 9:30</p>
<p>that’s her only request she says</p>
<p>what will I do in hs?</p>