<p>sorry to hear all your stories but soooo glad to know I’m not alone!!! this is horrible!!! </p>
<p>I feel like the worst mother in the world for leaving my baby in that 11 x11 cinder block cell with a stranger/roommate and nasty bathrooms. (btw… the dickinson A 1st floor bathroom smelled like a nasty smelly subway station bathroom at 8am move in day-- doesn’t anyone get paid to clean that???) </p>
<p>D was not ready to go and leaving her boyfriend behind was terrible! he is going to community college so he will visit and she will come home at times but i am really praying she acclimates. </p>
<p>I’m worrying too about if she’s eating etc… and my kid is on the ball! what is wrong with me??? why do I feel guilty about doing 100% what is right for her and giving her an opportunity at a great education that many can’t afford to have??</p>
<p>we have texted so far but not spoken yet… I want to give her space and I’m afraid if I talk to her she’ll be upset and then I’ll be worse. I’ve gotten a few, “hey guess what I forgot… xyz… lol” type of messages but i have NOT even asked her how she’s doing or how she slept, how’s the food etc… I’m afraid for the answers and figure she has never had a problem complaining to me about every other little thing in her life so this shouldn’t be different. lol…</p>
<p>lefty, you’re doing the right thing in letting her take the lead in communicating with you. S, who is now a junior, was miserable his first two weeks of freshman year. He had a great room, a nice roommate, and liked his classes, but he was so sad to be away from his big crowd of high school friends. He called me a lot to vent, and I made lots of soothing “it’ll get better” noises, all the while dying inside because he sounded so unhappy. And then suddenly the frequency of calls dropped off, and when he did call he sounded great. He found a whole new crowd of friends, and has loved UD ever since. </p>
<p>We dropped off today for junior year. Took under two hours to get there and over four to get back. Room is on the third floor and getting the staggering amount of stuff up there was a glimpse of hell on earth. The room is a single and is really nice. Tons of space, light and air. Her boyfriend came and was an amazing help. Cut his hand very badly in the process, though. It’s going to be hard for them to be apart and she is little regretful that she didn’t go off campus this year. She had good reasons and I think she did the right thing, but we will all be tormented until she setttles in.</p>
<p>We dropped D off yesterday. Got there around 11:15. No one really there to help. Carried stuff up but only to second floor. No AC in Dickinson is not ideal. Train is a real hoot too! D said it woke her up around 6:15 this morning. 11 x 11 never held so much. Set up printer. Would have been nice for UD to tell us that wireless printers don’t work at UD! That wasted at least a half hour to 45 minutes. Went to Mall, bought stuff. Definitely a mistake not to buy as much as we could ahead of time. The store layout isn’t familiar and spent a lot of time trying to find things. Left last night around 8 and that was with a lot of wasted time. No traffic at all the entire way home!
Sadness, yes. Wife didn’t lose it but definitely feeling it. Crying on and off. I cried last night alone and still feel sad – and I argued daily with DD! Definitely feeling a void. Hoping for a good year for the kids and all of us.</p>
<p>Bill124, your daughter isn’t the only one that got surprised by the printer wi-fi deal. My daughter packed two printer cables (standard and extra long) and sent the standard cable home with us. She could have sold it for $25 Saturday afternoon… I can’t remember if the topic came up during one of our visits to UD or maybe at another school but it certainly wasn’t publicized on the UD Housing site.</p>
<p>We got a quick “All’s good” text on Saturday night and a short call yesterday afternoon. I’m very tempted to call or e-mail but we promised her that we’d give her space and let her contact us when she had the time and the desire. The waiting is the toughest part.</p>
<p>I feel better that I’m not alone in this, but sorry for all of you, too!</p>
<p>Samiamy, I’ve been in his room and it was no big deal. From the time he was a baby, it’s his least favorite room in the house. He has made no effort to make it his own, he just sleeps there. Unfortunately, his personality is all over the rest of the house, and the junk he left out.</p>
<p>He’s called twice, DH needs the calls. Last night, he was just so excited about everything, he couldn’t stop talking. Fortunately, he seems a lot more outgoing than in HS. Let’s hope he’s this excited when the classes start.</p>
<p>I have to remember, this is about him, not us. But it sure is lonely.</p>
<p>So glad I am not the only one feeling like I am…It’s so… weird. But I know my D is having a blast and for that I am happy. I keep reminding myself that I am not hearing from her because she is busy and having a good time meeting friends… This would be so much worse if she were calling and crying and homesick. I bet we are all on here during Winter break complaining about how dirty our houses are and when the heck do they go back - LOL</p>
<p>I think college confidential needs to creat a “like” button… I want to “like” everyone’s post drop off comments! big group hug!!! ((((( ))))))) </p>
<p>heard from my D last night during the target event! about a 90 second call but she sounded happy. my mom actually called her yesterday and got the scoop I didn’t ask her because I was afraid of the answers… but the answers were… Yes she’s slept well, yes,she’s eating and liked the food so far. and the bathrooms were no that bad for her… her floor only has 3-4 rooms of girls including hers, it’s mostly guys on her floor… so there is little bathroom issue in fact she has a better toilet/shower ratio than if she shared a bathroom suite style with 3 other girls. </p>
<p>She texted that she joined 5 clubs… gymnastics was a given but signed up for seeing eye and a few others that were right up her alley. i told her to pick at least 3 -4 and she can drop the ones she doesn’t feel are a fit with her. I can’t believe she took my advice! She’s been texting here and there but not constant and it’s always positive. I have been taking her lead and not texting her until she contacts me. :)</p>
<p>Ok, it really hit me when I just went to the grocery store and realized I only needed 3 ears of corn for dinner! lol! this is what upset me??? I went to throw the 4th in the bag and realized hmmmm, I don’t need that. Plus my DS got all his favorites with no competition from D. Hey, at least he’s happy she’s gone! :)</p>
<p>Lefty1… the same thing happened to me at the supermarket. I went to put something in the wagon that only he likes. Had to hold back the tears, people would have thought I was nuts. Good luck to all our kids on the first day of classes tomorrow. Keeping fingers crossed that all goes well.</p>
<p>Today is a better day, DS texted me and I wrote back why don’t you call and he did! We talked for almost half an hour, which is more than we ever talk. He was up early, his roommate had a class and he didn’t until 9:30.</p>
<p>I feel so much better now since I hadn’t talked to him since Sunday. I know, I’ll get spoiled by the calls and once he’s busy he’ll stop. But I’ll take what I can get.</p>
<p>Better yet, we have to go down Saturday at his request, he needs his suit. We wanted him to take it but he said he wouldn’t need it. So we’ll take him out to lunch and then it will be even harder for us to leave.</p>