<p>I move in a couple days before my roommate does because I'm an engineer major and I have orientation around that time. I don't want to be a dick and unload EVERYTHING I've got...but is it impolite to pick a bed? I was thinking that all I do is pick a desk, and bed, and then when he comes up, we talk about putting things in order...
What do you all think?</p>
<p>What other choice do you have? Sleeping on the floor?</p>
<p>I say pick a bed, and when they arrive ask them if they have a preference, and you can easily change if it is really necessary.</p>
<p>it depends</p>
<p>if you know your roommate then you should know how they would feel about picking a bed...don't pick one if you know that they are choosy</p>
<p>if you don't know your roommate, then i would suggest waiting, unless you have a strong preference as to which bed you get. if you do have a preference, i would just take the one you want and if they say anything just work out a plan to split time on that bed/ side of the room. in my case, one side of the room is about 6 feet longer than the other, so we switched sides of the room once a semester, so we each got to take advantage of the extra space.</p>
<p>If you know who they are, ask if they care which one they get. If the room is exactly the same, it doesn't really matter too much. But like others have said, it is easy to switch if they want your side.</p>
<p>I would hope that your roommate would understand that you needed to sleep somewhere. If they really really want that bed when they get there, then you can switch to the other one; it takes, what, five minutes to make a bed?</p>
<p>It's just a bed. If your roommate can't live with it, than they have a lot of problems going on.</p>
<p>My roommate got there a little before me and she already picked a bed. I didn't care, even though she got the window. :P We're pretty much best friends at college and I agree that if your roommate can't live with you picking out the bed first, then they have other issues. :P</p>
<p>Pick a bed to sleep on and then ask your roommate if s/he wants to switch when s/he moves in. I'm sure there won't be too many objections.</p>
<p>I moved in a couple hours before my roommate, and I sort of just claimed a bed. It never occurred to me to ask my roommate if she wanted to switch (although I probably should have), but she never said anything. She ended up with the better deal, since her closet wasn't near the corner, and her wall-facing desk meant she never had to deal with annoyingly bright sunlight while trying to read the computer screen.</p>
<p>Umm...it's first come, first serve. That's how I did it when I was in the dorms. Just choose a bed you like; it's not that big a deal.</p>
<p>You can't sleep on the floor just because he/she isn't arriving for a few days. I'm sure your roomie will get that, so go ahead and pick a bed. Both beds, desks, and dressers can be moved in some way. If the beds are bunked or lofted and the roomie does/doesn't want to be off the ground (I didn't when I moved in freshman year), you can decide if you want to switch or have the beds adjusted by maintenence. And you can also decide to make changes or rearrange for second semester. It will work out.</p>
<p>if they wanted a better bed they would planned to get there before you.
I'm sorry if you are late, then you lose. :/
unfortunately that'll be me this year... lol</p>
<p>I have 2 roommates and emailed both. one replied, so we planned out to move the desks and unbunk the beds and such. The other one who didn't participate unfortunately loses... and that's just how it goes. majority rule</p>
<p>As someone in the opposite situation (my roommate is moving in a few days early for band), you sound fine. I've always heard it was first-come, first-serve anyway. Personally, I wouldn't care if my roommate unpacked pretty much totally, and in fact I'm fairly sure she's planning to do so, which makes sense to me--less commotion in the room on the general move-in day! Unpacking if you know you're going to be there early doesn't strike me as rude at all, unless you do something like take up the entire room with your stuff. If there turns out to be a big problem, like furniture not fitting or something needing a particular outlet, you can always shift things around a little when they actually get there.</p>
<p>Make whatever choices you need to make in order to be comfortable. If I were you I'd go ahead and unpack everything. It can all be moved.</p>
<p>When you expect the roommate to arrive, leave a friendly note saying that you've been there for a few days so you've been unpacking, and indicating how willing you are to discuss any changes your roommate might be interested in making. Then just keep stopping by the room on as regular a basis as you can that day, so that when your roommate does arrive, if there's anything she wants to change, you can get it straightened out and let her get unpacked ASAP.</p>
<p>I was in the dorms back when it was nice to have an electric typewriter. Two of my roommates got there before me, and I just took the side of the room they didn't (beds and desks were built into the walls in those dorms); once I was there first and made my choice. I suspect that in all 3 cases we could have negotiated if the second person to arrive was really bothered, but nobody cared that much.</p>
<p>@ Easton722</p>
<p>Just pick a bed and put your belongings on it. You arrived there first. There's nothing wrong with choosing a bed when the roommate is not there.</p>
<p>last year my roomie moved in a few days earlier than me and this time i'm moving in an entire week earlier then my rommate this year. i say feel free to unpack ure stuff. if u have a way to contact them, then just see if they have ne preferences. thats what i'm doin. i figure if i get most of my stuff organized before she gets there, the more room they'll be and the less chaotic it'll be. it's not rude at all!</p>
<p>Absolutely not impolite. In fact, it's usually better when one person gets there first. Have as much stuff as you can unpacked by when they get there. That way, you wont both be tripping over each other as you're unpacking. I've moved (and out) at the same time as some of my roommates and moved in on another day than some of my roommates, and it's always been better when we weren't trying to unpack at the same time.</p>
<p>Rule of thumb, first one in gets to choose first. That's how things went during my high school days (I spent 9 years in a boarding school).</p>
<p>Haha hopefully it doesn't turn out like the bed incident on the first episode of Flavor of Love 2</p>
<p>yeah i just picked a side
it's no big deal</p>