i just wanted an opinion on whether or not it is a good idea to move between freshman and sophomore year (over the summer). i’m a really active student in my community right now and have a lot of leadership opportunities at hand, is it worth risking the move? at the same time, i’m very diligent and hardworking so competition is not too big of a problem…just wanted to hear another opinion…the decision is down to what i feel, so should i move?
Way more common than you think. Lots of kids who stay with their relatives or on their own in HS for many different reasons. My own kid after his sophomore year didn’t really need me for anything except to sign paperwork.
Not my world either - here you need parental proof of city such as a utility bill - you can’t just go to a school where a relative lives. We only have 1 high school so no choice if you live in the city. Sometimes though I know it has to do with custody when parents aren’t together.
My kids are independent in terms of normal decisions but that doesn’t include living elsewhere.
You folks are living in the times of the Cleavers.
I’ll bet that 5% of the students at my kid’s HS live on their own, with parents who are executives overseas or in other parts of the country. Others stay even if the family moves away because of the HS itself, either because of athletics or academics. This situation isn’t that much different than a boarding school except that the kid doesn’t live on campus.
Which is usually listed out in the custody agreement
Who?
One data point. And 5% is not exactly large percentage. But that’s your experience.
The OP has not revealed the circumstances. But the way it is written, it came across to me that s/he was just thinking of moving absent any of the potential rationales listed. But regardless, it’s still not something I’ve encountered.
We moved with our kids. Many knowledgeable, experienced folks on this forum advised us as to what to expect. It was quite difficult for my kids for some time. It worked out well eventually on most fronts.
Are you moving within the state or out of state? If you don’t move, are you going to live with relatives, or friends?
I think the OP needs to clarify the reasons behind the potential move and what the options are.
For example…
Is your family moving? And if so do you have the chance to stay where you are? And who would you be staying with? What would the new school be like (would be be academically similar to your current school)?
OR
Are you considering moving to a different HS in your area or to a boarding school? If so what are the advantages of the possible new school vs where you are currently?
Why is it necessary to insult us simply because our experience is different from yours? Nope, we’re not the Cleavers. We’re not half a century behind the times. Our experience is simply different from yours. Period.
But in our world, most kids live at home until they go off to college. Nope, not all, but most.
I don’t know a single kid in my high school of 2500+ kids who lives apart from his family. Yes, I’ll grant that there probably are some. But not 5% of the school population. And not 5% of the kids in my husband’s school. Or the school my kids have attended.
kids are so much less detached from parents nowadays. Technology has made it possible to bridge a lot of communication gaps. Boarding schools enrollment is at an all time high. Therr are all kinds of sports factories/schools both in the US and overseas that kids go off to year round. There are tons of parachute kids living on their own in the US. Getting back to the original question, if a kid has a good reason to stay at his or her HS, by all means let them stay. If they were in grade school or even middle school that probably wouldnt matter, but in HS they’re more rooted in routines and social life and their most important decision in life is not far away.
Hi @happy1, Yes, my entire family will be moving if we do choose to move ultimately; and, yes, i do have the chance to stay where i am currently. my new school will be roughly the same in terms of academics. no, i will not be moving to a boarding school or anything, but if i move, it will be out-of-state. it’s just a matter of a monetary incentive to move out-of-state, but currently at my high-school right now, i have a lot of emerging opportunities that i have seized and i don’t want to let go…
@mystifire , if you choose not to go OOS with your parents, check if you would qualify for the in-state status where you would be graduating. Be prepared for many changes if you decide to move. It is not an easy decision! Looks like you have worked very hard to be in a position to get wonderful opportunities. Wish you the very best!