<p>Let me start by saying that I have the choice to move or not. However, if I do move, I'm moving to a different state about a thousand miles away. </p>
<p>I currently live with a somewhat verbally abusive mom who has a lot of problems, especially with hoarding. We live in a really small house and I think that her hoarding problem may be what's also causing our house to be really dirty and even ridiculously smaller. However, I've already established myself at my current high school and made pretty close friends. I have already had all my course selections planned out, and many of them are because I gotten to know the teachers and they readily waive the prerequisites. My EC's are also really good such as being president of about 3 clubs, honor societies, honor council, and all that good stuff. </p>
<p>However, if I move in with my dad, I know I'll have a much better home life, but I don't know if it will hurt my high school life? I would readily stick it out for another two years with my mom if I know it's worth it. The thing I'm most scared of is losing all the EC's. The next would be my friends since, for most of my life, I've grown up here. </p>
<p>Oh, and I'm currently taking a foreign language that's not offered at the new high school so would colleges think that I took a year of a language and then dropped it? </p>
<p>My dad also said that I can move right before senior year if I want. Or even mid-year.</p>
<p>TL;DR:<br>
Mom: Bad home life; established high school standing.
Dad: Better home life; new high school.</p>
<p>I know that this wasn't very well written but I just can't think straight right now. Thank you for reading and it'd be awesome if you left a reply? :D</p>
<p>hey! your post really stood out to me because I moved last summer from one state to another. It was the summer before my junior year. I was absolutely terrified, given that I had grown up in my previous state, was established in my high school and community, and had never lived anywhere else. I started my new high school in my new state knowing only one person through a family friend…besides her, I was surrounded by complete strangers in an unfamiliar environment. people were definitely friendly, but the first few months were hard as I was adjusting. Its been almost a year since i’ve moved and i can’t imagine not having met the friends I have here, and honestly, there are so many things I love about my new high school that my old high school lacked. Looking back, I think moving was a really good experience to have. stepping out of your comfort zone may be intimidating, and I can tell you from experience that it won’t be easy at first. but learning how to adapt to new people and new environments is so important. just think----if you move now, it’ll help you prepare for going to college, a change some people consider drastic. also, getting a taste of different learning environments and communities can really open your eyes. also, you will miss your friends. but you will keep in touch with them, and it’ll be fun catching up every now and then with them. And believe me, you will make many new friends. and you may even form some really close friendships at your new high school. I love my friends in my home state, and we still talk almost every day, but I have met some incredible people here in my new town and have formed some amazing bonds. my new town really started to feel like home, even though in the beginning I didn’t think it would. </p>
<p>as for the home life, my situation was different so I don’t have first hand experience. but just do what you feel is best for YOU. </p>
<p>I hope this helped and good luck making a decision!</p>
<p>Have you lived with your dad before? Do you know anything about the new high school, such as what courses it offers, etc.?</p>
<p>Also, most colleges are pretty understanding. In fact, EC’s matter very little to them, especially compared to essays and GPA, both of which might improve by being in a safe environment.</p>
<p>I get along with my dad pretty well and I know what the new school offers. I have found alternatives to most of the classes not offered. The grad requirements are less strict so I can still take the courses I was planning on taking before.</p>
<p>I moved, in the beginning of jr year. This was eons ago, I am a parent. It affected college choices, but the advantages outweighed that and I have never regretted.</p>
<p>In my case, the first school was good, the second was tops. I had known a huge percentage of kids in the former, since kindergarten. Now I was cracking a new social scene, different state, had gone from suburbia to a city. You find friends, you find activities. </p>
<p>I couldn’t just come in and keep up the grades, had to learn a whole new set of standards- and teachers. You do what you have to do.</p>
<p>That’s what this may boil down to: you do what you have to do. </p>
<p>We talk on CC so much about this college or that one, whether one is better for our futures. But the truth is, there are many life lessons to get through, between now and 22. No one college works a magic, it will be about how you tackle it.</p>
<p>I also have some involvement with admissions- they will see you changed, understand you had to start fresh with activities. They don’t expect you to just slide in and get elected prez. But, there is so much more you can still do- get involved in the community, do some good service, whatever it is where you can connect and etc.</p>
<p>Know this is hard, best wishes.</p>
<p>…I have a friend that did the exact same thing. He moved to a different school~we get to have every now and then skype conversations such as practicing Spanish or playing games–it’s interesting to keep in touch. And certain times he will fly back for his friends, kind of nice to see how it is going.</p>
<p>Okay, with the grading system different, he was no longer salutatorian, but not even in the top 10%. He came from a school where Asians are the most common race and went to a school where he is one of the few Asians. But even so, I think this move was for the better for him–getting humility that he wasn’t always the smartest around in some aspects. But I think it made him far stronger than he used to be.</p>
<p>On top of that… Had he stayed, he wouldn’t turn out so great. In your new school, maybe they don’t have a club that you have in your current school. Maybe you can start one and it’ll turn out just great! The person I was talking about left the Science Olympiad team on the verge of it’s collapse and started his own team at his new school. They made nationals a year later on his Senior year… Basically not possible at home, and I am so happy…</p>
<p>I think I feel more comfortable with the idea of moving. Losing my EC’s is probably worth less than being able to have a better outside life. I guess that, at this point, it’s a gamble but I’m willing to make the best out of it. Thanks everyone!</p>