Yikes. Sorry for the tough turn of events. Tis a good thing in-laws are not part of this complicated stew. Hugs to you as you sort through it all.
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Sounds so upsetting. Vent here—it’s fine. You need to let off steam. Hope life works out for everyone.
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I’m glad you updated us here, bc you’ve been through a lot and it is continuing for at least the next handful or more of days.
So very sorry it’s been such a nonstop over the top stressful mess. Taking one day (more like a few hours) at a time is all you can do as you try to grapple with so many demands simultaneously.
I hope 2023 is VERY dull and quiet for you all.
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OMG @deb922 when it rains it pours. Hoping for a safe trip home when you do travel (understand your desire to be with your mom) and I hope you have a better new years eve/new year.
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What a nightmare! Big hugs.
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My God, of course your stress is off the charts. I wish I could help. Sending up prayers and best wishes.
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As insane as it all feels, you (and your H) are the same ones in your scenario.
Hope all goes well with your husbands surgery and his recovery is speedy - and that you can at least get that worry off your plate.
You are doing family triage and doing it with wise maturity.
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Oh @deb922 , I’m so sorry that your mom is injured and this storm has further complicated things. Wishing you and your H and loved ones all the best as you head for a better 2023.
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@deb922 I hope that things went ok yesterday, and get better today. Sending prayers for your H’s surgery and hugs and love to you.
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So very sorry! Hope mom is doing better and you can get home soon. I am sure your DH understood that you needed to be with mom after her fall, and sorry mom was not as understanding! Also hope his surgery went smoothly. All the best for healthy 2023 for you and yours.
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Yikes. Hope things are improving.
Pin this thread so next year when people have more grand ideas for how they think you should spend your holiday you can get the resolve to put the brakes on it forcefully and upfront.
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Oh my gosh, this is terrible. I think you’re doing the right thing staying with your mom, it doesn’t sound like there’s any other option. I hope she heals quickly, but yes, falls are so hard on the elderly. You have been completely heroic here. I wish everyone would have listened to you in the first place, but at least a few people did. Could you imagine all this, with the elderly parents there, too!
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So sorry to hear, @deb922. People who are younger don’t always understand the frailty of the elderly. Sounds like you did every possible thing you could to make it work with as little harm to those involved in possible. Hope everyone gets through this period okay. Thoughts are with you!
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My mom is improving. Still in the hospital, didn’t hear from the case worker as to a placement for rehab but it’s Monday.
My husband’s surgery went very well. His mother took him and it was fine. It’s a surgery he needed. Talked to him on the phone for a long time.
The hospital is a terrible place to be on Christmas. Mostly because they were woefully understaffed. Today was night and day compared to a holiday weekend. Pray that we are out of here by the next weekend.
PT came and got her up and walking. Mom was seen by doctors. Even dietary came for her food preferences!
Thanks for all the encouragement and support. It means so much.
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Hope things are going well for you and your family this week.
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Thank you. Mom is getting settled in her rehab facility and her pain is under control.
I am flying to my home tomorrow. I am so sad but I need to be there also. We will allow my husband time to recover and then come back here.
Our family meeting with the rehab center is early next week. I’m hoping that we will hear how things are progressing and what steps need to be taken. Mom is very cooperative with the rehab staff and so I am hopeful that we are going in the right direction
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