<p>wow this is bugging me. ok i have a younger brother who's applying for the same grade (he skipped a few grades, was 12 when he took cal, etc. bleah :P) but omg my mom is doing EVERYTHING for him! shes taking soo much time writing out the parent statement for him (ugh she's trying to squeeze in all this stuff that has absolutely noo relevance at all, i swear, idk she wants to go to bs more than my brother does, hes a pretty passive person) and hasnt even given a thought to mine at all. little stuff like when i opened my lawrenceville app, idk all the recs were gone/ or covered in little sticky notes w/ stuff about my brother's 'talents'. its incredibly annoying, my app folders are constantly being messed up and geez, sometimes (well i KNOW she doesnt believe in me so w/e, but goodness, could she at least PRETEND to like what im doing?? like she drove 2 hours all the way to san francisco w/ my brother for a choate interview, to napa valley for a deerfield interview, and one for an andover interview- dude. has she forgotten that IM also applying to alot of those schools? she even planned an east coast trip to visit schools, interview, etc. for michael. i had to ASK her if it was ok if i came along too. jeezus christ. imean cmon, i know my application isnt the strongest one out there, but could u puleez at least give me just a little support??</p>
<p>ahh, srry. im in a ****y mood. my dad's been pretty sick lately and iguess ive been kinda worried/stressed. hopefully he'll be able to work soon. oh and idk my brother STILL doesnt understand that this is very serious, that things are NOT going to get better soon, and is still only thinking about himself- he never cleans up after himself or anything.</p>
<p>Talk to her about it. Tell her what you told us. Parents are human - barely :) , too! Don't stew about - take a deep breath and talk to her - calmly if possible. Use it as good training for advocating for yourself which will come in handy when you attend that bs you've been dreaming of! :)</p>
<p>ive tried discussion it w/ her i guess- the problem is that she doesnt really believe in me sort of.
lol 'calmly if possible'. thanks creative1 ^_^</p>
<p>Hang in there! Keep going for it - just focus on how good it will feel knowing you did so much by yourself! Hope your dad feels better soon.</p>
<p>egh.. schools don't like parents like that. so this will work ourt for your benefit i think.. i really do. no offense, but i don't think schools want an 11th grade 11 year old with a passive personality.</p>
<p>I'm sorry things are so hard for you right now, sabregiel. :( Though my situation is very different from yours, my family has quite a few "challenges" that we've gone through in the last, well, eight years. You may not be able to resolve everything with one talk, but talking can be good. If it's not, you can at least try to remember that it makes the experiance all the more rewarding if you got yourself there.
This is probably not a thing you want to hear, but you might want to sympatheize with your brother. He can't be very happy if your mum is pushing him around, hovering over him, and obsessing over him. His being selfish/rude may be a product of wanting to annoy your mum so she will stop hovering over him and coddling him. I don't know your brother or anything, so I totally admit I could be way off, but it might--MIGHT--be helpful to both of you if you became allies instead of enemies. Sometimes kids who are considered supersmart just need a touch of humanity.</p>
<p>good point, prettyckitty. i think sabregiel will stand out in the admissions process. if i were an adcom and i saw these 2 applications from these 2 kids from the same family and i saw one as an overachiever with a helicopter parent and the other a telented student interested in film and epistemology whose mother didn't take the time to write as much of a good rec, i would be more apt to admit the latter because she seems to have done more on her own and has overcome obvious family problems. (point to my original post)</p>
<p>Oh, one more thing. The parent statements aren't terribly important. It's nice for them to include things about you that you might not think to put down, but really, most things that can be put a parent can put in your personal statement, so don't worry too much about that. :)</p>
<p>oh whoopsies, srry didnt mean to bring up any sore pts...
^_^ but thx everyone, blairt, prettyckitty, clz, olivia567 &creative1 for the advice/input, :)
uknow, hopefully all of us will eventually end up where we want to be. ahh lol its just that, iono iguess im finding a bit hard not to let my expectations get the better of me. :P</p>
<p>oh and idk im maybe almost done w/ my andover essay... :) lol ill be done when i stop checking it over/over for grammatical mistakes and the like.</p>