<p>I skimmed, so I don't know if this has been mentioned yet, but I would be VERY concerned about her moving to her own place if you suspect/know that she is not stable-- not to mention it would be money down the drain. </p>
<p>Assuming she can hold a job, my approach would be:</p>
<p>(1) have her get a job, pronto, preferably one with health insurance. Really ANY job-- pitch it as a temporary thing; she can always upgrade the job later if something better presents itself. It may help her just to get into a purposeful routine rather than lying around the house. </p>
<p>(2) determine a reasonable % of her after-tax income for her to devote to paying the debt. (If you can set up auto debit do it.) Maybe start it out a low-ish % (? 25-30%) & give her several months at that level, then bump it up a bit higher in the next several months. Figure into this calculation whether or not there is health insurance offered by her job and also consider her total income. But leave enough for her that it feels like she's working for something tangible for her. </p>
<p>By allowing her to keep at least some of her income, she'll have more incentive to work. There must be some stuff she wants to buy, or save up for? </p>
<p>If my choices were "slave away and see none of it" vs. "lie around and mom will cover it," I might be tempted to lie around too. The % system creates a third option: "slave and get some things I want in addition to paying off some of the loans."</p>
<p>(3) See about deferrals of payments-- but still do #2, even if the payments are successfully deferred. She can "pay it forward" into a savings account. Then YOU'LL have a cushion for later, when the official repayments actually begin. This savings account must be in your name!</p>
<p>None of us can know your exact situation. I really empathize with how hard it must be on you. These ideas may not fit for you; it is just my instinct as to an approach.</p>
<p>I echo blossom's earlier comments, too. I am paying 2x the price of our state school for my D to be at a LAC. With her learning style and personality, we felt it was a much better place for her to really learn, come out of her shell, and thrive. </p>
<p>Disregarding rank all together, a small LAC environment is quite different from a State U. There is the whole "nurturing" angle, and a parent of a fragile kid would surely consider this a plus. So Beloit can be better, for some kids, than Berkeley-- even though Berkeley is more "prestige."</p>