<p>In a blink of an eye- our kids may have illnesses (auto accidents, cancer, mental illness) and they will be unable to pay their college loans back.</p>
<p>too true- which is why I will paraphrase what doubleplay said on another board- and it was that while some students/parents may feel that an expensive small college is the only option for someone with 'issues", whether they be social /mental or whatever, at larger schools, there may be more of a cohort of students who share your concerns/quirks, and so more support is available as well as resources.</p>
<p>even in real life, if someone asks me for advice- I am going to bring up other considerations if relavant even if they don't want to think about it.
If someone wants stomach surgery to lose weight for example- and really doesn't want to hear what they should be trying first- then they shouldn't have asked me ;)
Or if someone wants advice re: a parenting concern, but they are ignoring ongoing issues that are going to ensure a repeat of the incident, if those aren't changed- there isn't a lot I can help them with, if they aren't ready to look at all the contributing factors.</p>
<p>Someone may ask for advice, and not really want it.
A student who asks for ways to be considered a resident of another state, doesn't want to hear that - in most cases, unless your parents live there & that is where you graduated from high school, you aren't a resident.</p>
<p>Anytime you co-sign a loan, that is a contract that someone is liable for-and it should be determined if the loan is really necessary & if you can bear the consequences if the initial recipient defaults.</p>
<p>We don't know enough about the original instance- but others are reading this & some of the advice may be applicable to future situations.</p>
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My daughter attended to a top 10 LAC. It was her dream school. When she was admitted, she begged us to let her go. We are not wealthy, and we qualified for financial aid. Some of the aid came in the form of loans.
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My daughter attended a top LAC as well- and we are also not wealthy. As well as taking out Perkins and Stafford loans every year which don't require co-signers- so as I mentioned earlier- because actual information hasn't been given- were loans for above and beyond EFC taken?
I have told both my kids, that we will pay the EFC, or at least most of it.
I feel, if at all possible, that is a parents responsibility- although I do know with some self employed parents-etc- that EFC bears little relation to being reasonable.
But still, I feel it is a different scenario if she has not only taken out loans for above EFC, but for her EFC as well. It would seem like she had received poor advice in that case.</p>
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She will also no longer qualify for medical insurance, which she needs, because she has a chronic medical condition (which was part of the reason we gave in to her to go to the LAC). I'm figuring that the combined hit of these two financial obligations is gong to come to at least $1,000 a month
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<p>Is $1000 a month an estimate or a figure pulled out of the air?</p>
<p>For</a> Petes sake figure out the bill</p>
<p>If it was my kid- and I know it would be hard- but the only information that I have heard about crying and going ballistic, is that this young woman has some sort of genetic/environmental disorder that makes her act like a 2 year old or a 12 yearold with hormonal issues, instead of an accomplished young person who attended one of the most rigorous and competitive colleges in the country.</p>
<p>I would not make it my problem- it is her problem - let her own it. She gets the mail, she pays the bills. If she doesn't pay the bills and I have to pay them because I am co-signer, then it goes through whatever process it has to, in order for me to be switched as main payer, even if that damages her credit.</p>
<p>Obviously, she has not learned previously that the choices we make, have consequences and affect subsequent choices.</p>
<p>It will be more difficult to learn it as an adult, rather than as a child, but better to learn it now, then to always be expecting someone to bail you out.</p>
<p>And- Motherwise- whether it is your son or daughter who is applying to MIT- for gawdsake, don't let your kids apply for private loans.</p>