<p>To all:
I purposely did not answer many of your questions because I want to preserve my anonymity.</p>
<p>I purposely did not disclose whether or not the child in question graduated college or not. This was not a question about what to do with the child. This was a question about loan repayment and credit. And an ambivalent, ambiguous question about how much I want to see my child hurt vs what sort of life lessons I am teaching her if or when I pay back the loans.</p>
<p>That is has spiraled does not surprise me.</p>
<p>Yes, I posted a while back about MIT. Does it surprise anyone that I may have more than one child? I also re-read that post, and noticed that I wrote it in the first person, which does not surprise me. You see, in order to protect my anonymity, I have more than one user id. And I always change details about myself and my family, the number of children that I have, and their genders. I disclosed that fact in the first paragraph of this post.</p>
<p>Most of all, I am really, really sorry about what I wrote about my "pride and joy". It was wrong. The best that I can say is that I did discuss this with a therapist, who told me that it is OK to feel proud of this child's accomplishments. It does not diminish, in any way, the love or concern that I feel for his or her siblings.</p>
<p>For those of you who speculated about the additional monthly expenses of around $1,000 a month ... do you know how much health insurance costs for an individual that is not a part of a group? Or how hard it is to attain? Of that $1,000, figure in the cost of health insurance, and from there, extrapolate to the monthly cost of the loan. A little math will tell you that 1) Its the combined expense that is high and 2) The health insurance is a large chunk of that expense. The loans are not as large part of the expense as some you are speculating.</p>
<p>I thank those of you that offered me information about loans and credit. To the others, I thank you for your support. This is a painful problem that goes far beyond money, but the (unsuccessful) idea was to limit scope of the thread to just that.</p>