<p>...I'm really scared to think about it.</p>
<p>I'm a HS senior going into college next year but it freaks me out...I don't have a single relative living in the US, they're all in India or Singapore. My parents live in india. When I go to the states, I'l be completely alone and have no one to go to at the beginning of college.</p>
<p>Can someone please help me and tell me what I can do? I don't think I can handle the pressures of college at the beginning alone...</p>
<p>Well I have a cousin who went abroad for college " about 1000 kilometers away " and she wasn’t able to handle it well in the first 2 weeks , but now she’s all well and she’s happy in her college.</p>
<p>Don’t worry you’ll fit in , just the first days will be tough and that’s all (:</p>
<p>No one is forcing you to apply to colleges so far away from home. There are lots of good colleges in India and Singapore.</p>
<p>When you get accepted you can find a distant relative or friend of your family.
With Skype, IM, texting you are never truly alone.
Loneliness and helplessness are states of mind.
Better still, start working on being self reliant and proactive in solving your own problems.
Instead of running to your parents for every problem, try to resolve them with your own common sense and resources.</p>
<p>Colleges have support like Counseling, Tutoring, your RA, Health Services.
And of course, you have College Confidential…</p>
<p>I was a foreign student from Singapore (although I was a Dutch national) years ago and the following are things that may help:</p>
<p>Schools are very aware that all students, foreign or not, can use help transitioning away from home and the orientation period before school starts features opportunities specifically designed to meet friends and to create a sense of community. Some schools are better than others with this but all do this to some degree. Don’t opt out of freshmen orientation if even possible!</p>
<p>In the U.S. many college students are far away from home and family and you will find comfort with each other. Many of your U.S. friends will travel home only a few times per year just like you. Your new, local to the area, friends will invite you home for holidays such as Thanksgiving and welcome you into their families.</p>
<p>You will find clubs and associations that cater to the students from your country or region. These are a great way to build community but don’t forget to branch out to the great diversity you will find at most schools. You can’t know the U.S, until you nibble from the whole platter of cultures that make this country so unique!</p>
<p>Whereas in many countries young adults may be expected to “chin up” and just deal with the stress of being away and alone U.S. culture does allow you to express to others how you feel and talking to your new friends about missing your home is perfectly OK. Schools also have “counselling centers” where you can get professional help if needed.</p>
<p>The U.S. is indeed (still) a melting pot and you will really enjoy being part of that experience - I can guarantee it!</p>
<p>Haha you won’t believe how many Indians there are just like you. Your case sounds like the story of my dad when he first came here. He adjusted and eventually brought his parents over. Make sure you go to a big city like somewhere in the top 20 big cities or a big college. Bound to be Indians there. Plus the other races don’t bite.</p>
<p>My parents are a measly 3,000 miles away, but if you just make some good friends then you’ll be fine.</p>
<p>The only time/s I just want to run home and hide under the covers is when the work piles up and breaches my already low stress threshold.</p>
<p>But general life here is pretty nice and dandy.</p>
<p>1) Try to make friends with kids who are in the same boat as you.</p>
<p>2) Get a girlfriend/boyfriend. Then, you probably won’t even want to come home.</p>
<p>3) Realize that when one goes to a foreign country to go to school, that this is just part of the territory.</p>
<p>4) With email, you are never really completely severed from your relatives back home.</p>
<p>When you know which college you will attend, you might start making friends via electronic media. You may find fellow students who are coming from India and whom you could meet face-to-face before even leaving for the U.S.</p>