<p>my mom thinks i'm gay. crazy.</p>
<p>see ohthunderbelle your mother is to weak. Im 22 and 320 lbs. If I ever hit my mother back id be on the street, just like she did to my brother when he cursed at her when he was 15. Kicked him out of the house for a week. She hasn't hit me in a very long time, but I would never ever ever hit her back.</p>
<p>I the end of the day the only person that really matters is yourself. Don't care what another people think and stay true to yourself.</p>
<p>Sorry I meant... At the end of the day...</p>
<p>haha, momwaitingfornew has been busy on this thread... there are more ways than hitting them to raise a decent child... in fact, most of the kids i kno whos parents dont touch them are more balanced, and those who have been abused are markedly stranger/more recluse</p>
<p>do what you dig bro, but don't be afraid to experiment in college! just because u like computers and what not, go out and find things to do, the worst thing you could do to yourself in college is spite your parents by being what you've always been.</p>
<p>branch out, drink sometimes, chase women from time to time...hell....do anything that floats your boat and sometimes get in trouble and do things you DON'T like doing...just to see how it feels, that's how you'll figure yourself out.
and don't come home next summer, find a job and go to summer school! that way they can't ascribe old identities to you, and you won't feel weird.</p>
<p>just look at the calendar and go 26 more days, 25 more days, or whatever</p>
<p>and I have a sneaking suspicsion about dad's comments, a "fear" his son may be gay- some dads think if you don't do sports and chase girls all the time, their son is gay (not that there is anything wrong with being gay)</p>
<p>it doesn't have anything to do with what a person DOES in the dad's eyes, it is what the son DOESN'T do, the "traditional" things dad is used to, what he may see as macho and tough, what he grew up with</p>
<p>let his comments wash off you, it comes from ignorance, and just feel sad that they don't understand you</p>
<p>it is true that you maybe want to get out a bit more in school, it can be more fun that way, but that doesn't mean you have to change who you are and what you like to do</p>
<p>that also doesn't mean you shouldn't try and share some of what your dad likes, no harm from watching a ball game....your interests may scare him because he doesnt understand them, and that can make some men feel inadequate so they may belittle it, not much you can do, but it wouldn't hurt to reach out a bit, you say they are generally good people who are saying dumb stuff, find some common ground, you will be glad you did</p>
<p>I think you should be a bit more open to your parents' suggestions. </p>
<p>When I was younger, I really didn't have many interests. When I turned 10, after we had finally gotten internet, I got really interested in everything about the internet, how it's made, etc. and it eventually got me into learning languages like PHP and other forms of web programming, which eventually lead me to languages like C. </p>
<p>However, I also got really into sports. Now when my parents suggest something to me, I don't yell at them and say, "Why can't you accept me for who I am!?!" and get all melodramatic, I consider it. </p>
<p>Maybe you should try being more open to sports? Even if it's not a traditional sport, there seems to be one for everybody. Even the super nerds get into Frisbee :P </p>
<p>And girls. Chances are, if you're not meeting many of them, you're shy. Shyness takes a while to overcome, but it can be done. :) Your parents might be simply worried that you're missing out, and I guarantee you that you are missing out. Step out of your shell every once in a while and try something new. They're not out to get you.</p>
<p>you wanna win huh? here's how</p>
<ol>
<li><p>appease them. get with a girl OR at the least tell them you have and how wonderful she is and how they were right all along</p></li>
<li><p>call home sounding kind of drunk while at a party so there is background noise (this actually might be best placed before #1)
---call them back the next day or a couple days later apologizing for anything you might have said and explain that you were just with a new group of friends</p></li>
<li><p>graduate with your degree and make $ programming or whatever you want to do</p></li>
<li><p>profit</p></li>
</ol>
<p>This is far from the best solution for you - as you really should get a gf, I wish my parents told me that I should get a g/f and party more - but it will get them off of your back. You might be happier just getting a g/f and meeting more people and probably should! However the moral of this post is this: Don't try to nuke a building when a few well placed charges would do the trick. Think about it. Weeeeeeeeeeeee!</p>
<p>citygirlsmom.</p>
<p>to most fathers this is the worst possible thing that could happen to there child.</p>