<p>They are not physically trying to kill me, but they are trying to kill what I am and what I stand for. In other words, I'm pretty much dead after all the stuff I have to go through.</p>
<p>The transition from high school to college should be a wonderful transformation, a time for exploring. But all I feel is pressure and resentment. My parents, specifically my dad, thinks I am too weird. I am not interested in sports, and would rather spend my time looking up stuff on wikipedia or learning a new programming language. Except according to my dad, all I do is "play video games all the time, you are stupid and worthless." I feel I have taken this too much, and there is this very very very strong anger that is building up inside of me, so strong that I don't know what to do with it.</p>
<p>And my parents view me as socially awkward, and my mom is concerned because I do not deal with females very often and I am not an "amiable, happy, charismatic young man" that obviously ALL MEN SHOULD BE LIKE OR ELSE THEY ARE "OTHER" AND SHOULD BE EXTERMINATED. But I do this because of choice, I am not a robohuman, automaton only concerned with sex, sports, and fast cars. I am myself. I am different DiFfErEnT DifF</p>
<p>Listen all you need to know is yourself because thats the only person that you will ever have the chance to figure out and be. Not "suzy dates a lot" or "tommy the football player" You are you. Don't let what they want weigh into how you feel. Parents are parents they can't help but to form opinions and hopes and wishes for their children and sometimes it takes a while for them to know that you are different than what they dreamed up when you were two. Let the adjust and dont let that discourage you.</p>
<p>Thanks for the mature response. I just re-read my original thread and realize that it sounds really crazy, but that's kind of how I felt at the moment.</p>
<p>I feel a lot better now, I was just really angry then and I had to find some way to vent my anger before I broke something.</p>
<p>Sometimes parents don't know how destructive they can be. I'm sure that they love you, and that they want the best for you; however, their expectations are different from yours.</p>
<p>College will be a hugely liberating experience for you. You will be on your own, with your peers, and exploring a vast list of courses and experiences. The time left with them is short. All you have to do is understand that they want the best for you, even if that "best" is not compatible with your own dreams. You'll have plenty of time in college to achieve what you want to accomplish.</p>
<p>Venting is a very good thing, as long as no one else is around. If you ever feel that way again and don't have CC for some reason, write it down in a letter to your parents or something and tear it up the next day.</p>
<p>If you have friends that you can go visit, do that. Anytime that you are not alone in your room and/or sitting in front of the computer all day, to your dad it will look like you are out and about being a social butterfly. If you don't have a job and never leave your room, well then, of course they will be concerned. Try to go out and do something around the time he gets home so that he thinks you are being social. Or come home from a friend's house an hour after the parents get home. </p>
<p>I'm sure they love you and only want the best for you. Remember, you didn't come with an instruction manual, and they will make mistakes in how they handle you. Once you are off in school, they won't have that daily contact and daily worry. Not to say they won't worry, just that time/distance eases it somewhat. Good luck.</p>
<p>Argh, that sucks. I know how you feel, really. Think about it this way: parents sometimes want to live vicariously through their children. They think that all of the things they wanted to be (and maybe failed to be), you should be. Despite their wisdom, they are lacking the maturity to see that the world isn't made up of Party Hard Dumb As Rocks Jocks and everyone else. What you are is special, unique, and your interest in productive activities and knowledge will take you far in life. You'll be someone. One day your parents will see that your happiness is all that matters...but right now you have to try and be the bigger person. Like the above poster said, you didn't come with an instruction manual. Even parents make mistakes, and one day you'll probably be the parent making the mistake! (Hopefully your kid forgives you!) </p>
<p>Maybe you can even talk to them about it? It depends on if you can reign in your resenment no matter what their response is. Tell them that you're happy and love who you are? If you approach them calmly and good naturedly, and not in an angry way, they really will see you know what's best for you.</p>
<p>shouldn't your parents want you to be successful a nd lucrative instead of some partying lady ch asing jock? in any case you're better off being your true self.</p>
<p>Some good advice up there, you should go out and meet girls however. Just people in general. Your parents are right in that they don't want you to be a socially awkward recluse. So go out and meet some girls. It's much more fun than reading about them on Wikipedia.</p>
<p>My parents wish I was the cheerleader girl. I'm not. I'm a little bit nuts. I'd rather be fishing or riding horses than shopping. I'd rather read or take photographs or LEARN something new than go get drunk. I'm a strange girl (in wayyy more ways than that) and they hate it. I think they're embarrassed because I'm not a typical chick.</p>
<p>But you know what? I don't care! That's the fabulous thing about it. You don't HAVE to care what they say. What's important is you. Don't let them get to you and don't let them change who you are.</p>
<p>Who you are is, by far, the most important thing you've got.</p>
<p>First and foremost, what your parents are doing to you is a form of child abuse. Albeit verbal and emotional but if history has shown us anything about violence, it can be just as damaging. I don't know if you have already but tell them what there saying and doing is bringing you pain and making you question your own self-worth. If they don't understand, YOU need to know the problem is with them and you are not defective or worthless in anyway.</p>
<p>give me a break, why do you have to be so sensitive about everything. We cant hit kids anymore, now we cant even talk to them. I can only imagine how this world will end up.</p>
<p>i586, "can't talk to them"? Of course Speaking is essential to any form bonding and relationship but SHAMING your kids because they don't meet societies standard is a violence. Shame is that pain you feel when someone disrespects you or make you feel inadequate, something no one should be subjected to.</p>
<p>i586 doesn't feel that way. He's a troll who hangs out saying inflamitory things on all the boards. Just remember the user ID and ignore the posts.</p>
<p>Okay, well, clearly, If I'm retaliating and hitting my mother back when she hits me and we just get into a gigantic fist fight...I haven't gotten much discipline out of it, have I?</p>