This pressure and behavior seems part cultural but it also is personally pathological in terms of the abuse.
As others have said:
9th grade is way too early to be thinking about college let alone career- your parents may not know this because it is different in other countries
There is usually no premed track (some schools do have programs) and you can major in anything for med school
There are books out about how unhappy doctors are these days.
PLEASE talk to a counselor at school and try to get some counseling for your parents and you, preferably someone who understand the culture from which your parents come. They have a lot of misconceptions driving their dreams for you.
And in the US most parents want it to be their kid’s dream, not their own Not always but that is the ideal.
Your parents want you to be successful. Keep this in mind.
The way they are going about it is terrible.
No matter what you want to do, you need to do well in HS.
I would vaguely agree with them at this point…“I will definitely consider medicine in the future”.
Maybe you still want to teach…I would consider HS classes…so major in math or science or english whatever in college and then you can get a masters to teach that subject.
You got one life to live. Do what you like. My kid has a demeanor to be a very good doctor but can’t stand the sight of blood, so being a doctor is off the table. The last thing I want my kid to do is to go into an area he doesn’t like. It’s like marrying someone you don’t like.
^^^ It’s been less than 24 hours since the OP and this thread matches other threads by the OP, so I’m not seeing a problem as of yet. Looking at the other threads I’m sensing a student who really does need to find some adult help to get through some stress probably prodded by parents.
One of my friends majored in history before going to med school. She now works part time as a doctor and volunteers in the public schools. She really doesn’t like being a doctor, and I imagine her physician hours will continue to decrease in the years ahead.
Thank you all for your advice and help. I will be sure to follow steps like visiting my guidance counselor, and I will spend time with my friends during after school clubs that I am a part of.
Thank you, once again. It feels great to know that people actually care.
@AkkaRules2003 Tons of people care - even if some don’t. Four years might seem like a long time now, but they’ll be gone in the blink of an eye and most of your life (literally, most of it) you’ll just be retelling stories from those times while you live your own life.
Some parents are naturally awesome, most are very good, and some need significant help with parenting (whether they realize it or not). Kids don’t get to choose. Then too, no matter what overall category they are in, ALL parents make mistakes sometimes. (ALL kids do too.) We take what we have and work with it. Life is only perfect in a few movies or books (or maybe just paintings like Norman Rockwell’s).
Best wishes to you. You CAN make it work. I’ve seen it happen (more than once).
A good thing here is that your parents want you to become a doctor, not an engineers. Other kids in your position are more stuck because engineering is so fixed… whereas to become a doctor in the US, you have to be multifaceted.
So, embrace the “I am going to be a doctor” US mindset and do what you love to do, always explaining to your parents that it’s what good US colleges want and what they expect - leadership in particular is going to be important, achieving at a high level in one or two favorite activities.
If you love math, you’re in luck: math is a great undergraduate major for future doctors in the US. So is Philosophy BTW.
Yes it’s very different from most other countries so you lucked out, you’ll get to do what you love and study what you want
Not always but that is the ideal.