<p>Would you consider this lame?</p>
<p>My roommates went home every weekend.
My roommates went home on school holidays (i.e., president's day).
My roommates would make food and then go into their room and close the door.
My roommates were on thier laptops in the rooms when not in school
My roommates never ate on campus unless I encouraged to go out to eat.</p>
<p>We're my roommates lame or am I just exaggerating it?</p>
<p>Everyone is different.</p>
<p>Some people are very private and their idea of friendship may differ from yours, as well as their idea of what is fun and what is a productive or enjoyable use of time.</p>
<p>I think that they should be able to go about their daily lives as they please without having to go through your judgment about what they spend their time doing. Some people are just close to their families or may have something going on at home, so they return home often. Some people like their private time after they finish with class. Some people don’t like being on campus often. Everyone’s different.</p>
<p>I don’t think so…
agree with Baelor. </p>
<p>Some people prefer being alone; some people prefer society; some people think growing up means taking good care of parents; some people think growing up means going away from home.</p>
<p>I do realize people behave in different ways. But if I had a choice of course I’d love to have a social and outgoing roommate than a quiet one.</p>
<p>Well my roommate was planning to kill me because he was off his bipolar medication and had to leave school. I think your roommates are fine!</p>
<p>How is that lame?</p>
<p>They like their space, eating alone or internet or whatever. Maybe they don’t feel like socializing, or find the relationship not particularly of interest to them. Maybe they don’t want to be friends, or find you pushy or too social or something.</p>
<p>If those are their worst defects, you’re lucky. Very lucky. I’d count your lucky stars, and go about your life doing your own thing… at least they’re a few less people you’ll have to see/talk to every day.</p>
<p>OP: You should learn to accept people as they are instead of complaining behind their backs.</p>
<p>Though, from the sounds of it, it seems like your roommates are just uncomfortable to the college environment and thus don’t feel like doing anything too adventurous. Based on your description of them, if I were you, I’d continue to invite them out to dinner and mention what you just said to them (save for “lame”). See their viewpoint, and if it makes no sense, try to work thru a common understanding with them.</p>
<p>At least one of you will learn something in the process, and this is one of the several things about life that you should learn in college.</p>
<p>Don’t listen to any of these repliers, OP, they’re probably just as lame as your roommates. Going home every weekend automatically makes them lame, as it demonstrates that they are unable to socialize/make new friends. Also, choosing to eat their food over their keyboards instead of in the common area with you is indicative of extreme uncoolness. You are right to decry their lameness.</p>
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huh, I can’t go home every weekend but I do like to eat alone. For various reasons: 1) the tradition of my nation: eating while talking is uncouth and disrespectful 2) eating alone saves a lot of time-when I eat alone I eat as fast as possible thus saving precious time for other things.
If I want to make friends and enjoy society, I would go to clubs and debating unions and all that; eating alone and going home ever weekends are indications of nothing, they are just personal habits, like some people enjoy pulling all nighter for no manifest reasons. </p>
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It could be that they are afraid of eating too much or something like that. Some juniors, for example, once told me that ‘when you go to college, avoid school cafeteria and the dinning hall. Food there is so good and you’ll get yourself stuffed and you’ll be as fat as a suckling pig.’ :D</p>
<p>I agree with dawncoming!!</p>
<p>We all have personal attributes, it’s always best to accept people the way they are. You prob did some stuff (which you thought was normal), and they thought you were lame too.</p>
<p>I agree with whistleblower to an extent. They are kind of lame…</p>
<p>Maybe you just don’t know their circumstances. Me? I didn’t want to talk to anyone at school, so I would spent time just going out by myself, spending time on my laptop, or sleeping. I did eat on campus, but my schedules didn’t really match with the few people that I actually did talk to. I just didn’t feel comfortable. I was going through a depression, thus went home every weekend that I could. I didn’t have anyone to turn to in a large school of 40,000+. I almost transferred out of my current school because I just wanted to be closer to home so I can just commute and have my family to support me.</p>
<p>So I guess I’m lame as well. I’ll just accept that. But if you knew all the crap I had to deal with during this past year, specifically the spring semester, then maybe you’d have a better understanding. I can’t speak for your roommates, but you don’t know what they are going through. And like someone said, count your lucky stars. You could have been stuck with messy, psycho, and/or disrespectful people.</p>
<p>They may have social anxiety issues, or whatever you want to call it, but I’m not sure if you would be able to help them or if its even your place (probably not).</p>
<p>They would have to work through their issues themselves. Just suck it up and make friends outside of the room.</p>
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<p>I rest my case.</p>
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<p>Roommates/friends can help you with your depression by socializing with you. If you shut yourself in your room, all you have to keep you company is the internet, which is full of misanthropes, TV, which is dumb, and Memorizing for tests, which is boring and more difficult to do with an unsound mind rife with anxiety due to friendlessness and whatever else you were going through. However, whatever you went through spring semester was well after you’d willfully ostracized yourself in the autumn.</p>
<p>^ With other roommates in the past, I did talk to them. I wasn’t bffs with them, but I respected them and they respected me. We made small talk and once in a while we went out to eat in the dining hall, but we weren’t best of friends. I think it was a good mutual relationship. With my roommate this past semester where I was experiencing this depression, I just didn’t have a relationship with her because she was the same way, except worst. She just slept in the room all day when she came back from class. Even worse was that we had a bit of a problem due to her lack of respect. That issue added to an already stressful semester that I was experiencing.</p>
<p>I’m not blaming her for my own act of ostracizing myself from others, but I certainly couldn’t turn to her when she barely talked and slept. Not all roommates can help with depression. And friends? Pssh, I couldn’t find anyone who would listen to my problems. When I tried to say anything, they would just brush it off and make it seem like everything was peachy.</p>
<p>I almost resorted to seeing an on-campus counselor, but how do I explain that to my parents? They worry about me for small instances. How do I tell them that I hate school and find it hard to fit in or confide in someone? I almost got to a point that I really didn’t want to deal with anyone or anybody anymore. I just isolated myself because it was how I was able to comfort myself without being judged or worrying that people will think I’m just looking for a pity party.</p>
<p>I don’t mind being lame, because I am. I find it hard to get close to people because I can’t trust anyone or feel I will get too close and they will just abandon me. It has happened in the past when I was younger and people wondered why as a kid I always tried to shy away from being friends with people from there on after. Yeah, anyone can go ahead and laugh right now at me and say that I’m being like every other person on this site who makes a different thread each week about “Hating College” “I have no friends”, etc. It’s difficult. It’s hard for others to understand. Personally I think I might have a social anxiety disorder, but I’d hate to admit that and would hate if someone diagnosed me with such a thing.</p>
<p>@op = They seem perfectly benign, and it could be much worse. Be grateful for your good fortune.</p>
<p>At least they didn’t bother you. Could have had roommates that were obnoxiously loud, stupid, drunk, or did odd sexual acts all over the room. O_o</p>
<p>At my school parents don’t know if you see a counselor. It vioates confidentiality. Even though I don’t have insurance from the school. You could always play it off with oh my roommate was ****ing me off and I needed to talk to an unbiased third party. My parents used to have a lot of false assumptions about that field. After they read up on it their views changed.</p>
<p>Maybe your roommate just didn’t like you.</p>