<p>Hey again everyone,</p>
<p>The regents conversation has been hard to follow, in terms of our different experiences over different decades, but I’m glad it has geenrated energy to keep thread going. </p>
<p>In D’s case her remaining HS classes are set and will total 3 APs, 1 college course and 6 Honors (roughly half coursework) and if her slight upward trajectory continues she will end with a 90% which, as has been pointed out, is enough to make this mom proud but not very encouraging considering our high financial need. </p>
<p>My big learning has been to lower our sights. Since we arre starting out and have four more kids to follow, my main concern is to learn how to categorize LACs related to our kids’ records and our family finances. (Not to sound defensive but I never proposed honors programs at private colleges, only a less competitive honros program at one particular SUNY, to keep her connected and motivated. ) </p>
<p>Regarding the percentile comment, yes, my understanding – which I gleamed from these posts! – is that in order to be considered for significant fin aid a student should be around the 75% or above. Only top notch private LACs give need-based aid, and her grades/test scores will not qualify her for any of them. When I do match searches on college websites it is misleading, b/c schools show up for which she does fall into the 50% middle range. However, this does not mean she is a good candidate for huge financial aid at those schools. </p>
<p>It is sobering to “get it” that the competition is so fierce. Sounds silly now to state the obvious but Lafayette and Connecticut are too high reaches. I have surmised from this thread that Skidmore and Muhlenberg are too…will see from her spring grades/scores if it is even worth trying. Marist, Siena and our wonderful SUNY NP are in the running. SUNY NP tour is Saturday, Marist next week. Marist is actually more competitive than I thought and there is a concern about fin aid, but the HS has a close relationship and re money she could commute / put credits toward a semester / etc. so I’m not giving up on it (yet). Plus…most importantly, she likes it!</p>
<p>Oh - and true, in a state with millions of Latinos “ace” is too strong a word for Spanish fluency, previous posters are right. Academically it is her strongest point, she earned an award for the highest grade in all Spanish classes overall. Okay, won’t count on it as much as I had hoped.</p>
<p>Being bilingual wasn’t what I thought would make her interesting as a candidate, it was more the experience of living abroad during secondary school, in an indigenous (native) community. How she brings it out in her essay or interviews will be up to her. Obviously there are many kids with abroad exp so she is not unique but it might be interesting to mainline Protestant/Catholic schools since we were there as dev’t missionaries. </p>
<p>She may not want to talk about carrying our water in buckets and learning words in Mixtec but if she does, it would be memorable!</p>
<p>Changing the subject – am I paranoid to worry about low grad rates? Since realzing that I should lower my sights (interestingly D already was doing so instinctively), I now am looking at schools which I had originally doubted b/c of low retention and grad rates.</p>
<p>How seriously should these be taken? Anyone want to shed light on this, it is of serious concern to me but are my concerns warranted?</p>
<p>You all have given me a lot to assimilate, and I think I have enough to mull over for a while, once her spring grades and scores come in we can go a further step…but in the meantime, any thoughts on grad rates are welcome. </p>
<p>Not sure how much longer this thread will continue so thanks for all the communication, I think it is obvious that it has really helped me to reframe my approach. In the end it is about the best match for D, and finding a balance for her, and this information will help me to remain positive and loving as we encourage her to take on her own college search. I am getting enough from you all to be able to set some parameters for her --realistically – so that she can make her own choices.</p>