<p>I think the issue of "fairness" may also be the premise that some get a free ride- a really bright kid from a lower income family, but a well-prepared enough family that the DS is accepted to an Ivy, then with the current no lonas provision, the DS gets almost a free ride to a $50k+ school. </p>
<p>If I were the OP I would feel a bit like I am paying over $50k and subsidzing that other kid. Like medical care, where I am paying a ridiculous amount and we all know there are contracted rates with insurance companies and tiny amounts paid for the very poor, I would feel I could afford MY costs, but cannot and should not hav eto subsidize every one else.</p>
<p>If I were in the OPs situation I can admit I would have to deal with the unfairness of it all- I look at my first home in SoCal and whilst I bought for less than $200k, it is now $700k and more for homes in that neighborhood. If I lived in that home still and it was paid off, I would not be able to afford a refi, yet many privates would count that HE against my finaid.</p>
<p>I know in my case some of those schools limit the total HE assessed by a factor of income, but I think we can all admit we have been in a situation wherein we feel like we are subsidizing some one else and it hurts enough to cover our own costs, how can we pay for others, too.</p>
<p>I know, I know, the Ivys should cost way more than $50k and it is the endowments that keep it low for every one, but if you really examined the cost of the education, I would bet they could do it for less than $50k, it is long term costs that factor into endowment needs. So, yeah, a person paying full costs will experience some merited frustration, every one has had to go through it at some point in life.</p>
<p>We tend on this board to jump all over some one expressing this, but haven't most of us suffered some of this feeling- how about Curm and his D's package from great schools like Yale choosing to assign a higher EFC due to unusual circumstances, couldn't he feel some disgruntlement at hearing of a neighbor, who perhaps with no ranch lives more comfortably than he, who got a full finaid package. (sorry to use you as an example curm, but I think you are well known and respected)</p>
<p>I just think we come down pretty hard on people who are expressing a frustration we have all felt to some extent and hav erealized it is reality and have learned more and gotten over the angst and dealt with choices accordingly.</p>