<p>Don't get me wrong cptn. I think the "we" is great until the decision time. Heck, "we" had a strategy. She selected from schools I found (and some that she found) that would meet her stated needs. "We" had schools we liked and didn't like. "We" planned our college trips. There was a symbiotic relationship that developed that was one of the high points (if not the high point) of my parenting career. Not to mention I had a blast.</p>
<p>The family has a role to play IMO, and every family gets to decide how to divide up the responsibilities. Until the end decision between (hopefully) reasonable choices. That has to be the kid's.</p>