<p>I also noticed the "we," and saw a tiny little red flag waving furiously on the screen, but I chose to ignore it. Especially because 1) the OP is new and hasn't learned yet that all of us parents on CC are simply here venting and having nothing at all to do with the college process otherwise ;) and 2) because the OP's D is just a junior. I believe with any of my kids, if it hadn't been a "we" process, it would not have been much of a process at all, at that stage. My D didn't have a clue about how to sign up for an SAT, for example. I don't think that many HS juniors are very aware of what goes into a college ap process, or even where to begin.</p>
<p>That said, I do agree with everyone who says it needs to be the kid's process as much as possible. I just think that sometimes the appetites need to be whetted a bit. That was certainly true in my D's place. And she still needs, and wants, guidance.</p>
<p>(Edit: Cur beat me to it.)</p>