Hey everyone! I’m going to be a sophomore this year, and it seems like I have everything going for me, i.e. good grades, extracurricular activities, being on the orientation team, leadership, and a full scholarship. However, this year, because of my social life, I am filled with dread for this year. My friend group consists of my roommate, suitemate, and a few of my suitemate’s friends who hate me. My roommate was primarily my best friend in college, but it was honestly a one-sided relationship and she preferred my suitemate to me. Last semester, I was miserable trying to fit in with that group and even made efforts to branch out. I’m afraid of being in the same or worse situation with these people. However, I don’t think anyone’s accepting applications for people in their friend group since groups are most likely established. My parents also say that my expectations are too high for friends and that I’m too sensitive. I know there’s something wrong with me that makes it hard to maintain friendships and that’s most likely due to my sensitive nature. Does anyone have tips for me making new friends this year, dealing with my current friend group, or changing my self to fit in with a group? Thanks!
I’d say if most of your suitemate’s friends hate you and your relationship with your best friend is one sided, I’d say that grou[ is not a good fit for you. Maybe seek another group whose interests align with your own more naturally. If you want to change, do it for yourself and not for other people because you know your own values and morals more than anyone else and changing them for others would sort of indicate you’d be willing to give some of them up to fit in with the crowd. I’m a rising junior with not nearly as impressive of a resume (although I have a high GPA and am on the board for two clubs - which ironically haven’t brought me much luck in terms of friendships) so even though I think it’s too late for me, you have time.
Join some activates that interest you and hopefully you will meet some like-minded people.
If you like people you meet in a class ask if they want to have lunch, study together etc.