I skimmed the posts, sorry if I am not taking into account important additional information.
On the merit search – my current senior was able to get essentially half tuition merit awards at his Early Action schools, mostly CTCL schools in the midwest, so that our cost of attendance is around $30-35,000 – your range. So here is what we found: schools like College of Wooster, Denison, Kalamazoo College, Knox College, Lawrence University in WI, Beloit, Earlham are vibrant, energetic schools on the move. Granted, these schools are not 2-6 hours from southeast PA, though some of the Ohio schools could be at the outer limit of that. A real treat was that the list price at most of these is close to $10 k less than east coast schools, with tuition around $42 and room and board around $10 (Denison is the outlier there, its list price is about $48 and $12, for a total of $60).
In PA, Dickinson does give generous merit aid, at the roughly $15 and 20k ranges, thought its “list price” right now is $62k, so the typical merit award still only gets it around $40. Dickinson has a wonderful new science facility, and its two leading “themes” on campus are sustainability and international connections/study. Other well-regarded PA LACs, though they won’t elicit gasps of “what a great school” from friends and neighbors, include Muhlenberg, Gettysburg, and Alleghany. Still in PA, I believe – but cannot recall for sure – that Bucknell, Lehigh and Lafayette do not give merit awards. As my kid is not STEM-y, and we needed merit, those never got on our list. Also, the NESCAC schools (Trinity College, CT, Conn Coll, Bowdoin, Middlebury and now Hamilton) do not give merit awards, which meant all those schools came off my kid’s list. For a kid willing to look south, Rhodes is a fabulous school, Centre can be worth a look too. Centre’s tuition is under $40k, and they have good merit awards.
Women’s colleges are a possible – Bryn Mawr, with the BiCo community and access to classes and programs at Haverford, could be worth a look. Perhaps it’s too close to home if you are in SE PA? Other women’s colleges, Mt Holyoke is my favorite, could give merit. I do know that Barnard does not give merit, only financial aid. Smith and Wellesley are distinct flavors of schools, most students either love them or shrug. Personally, I think Bryn Mawr and Holyoke have less distinct personalities so can be more attractive to a wider range of students, but that is just my opinion.
Sounds like you and your student have done everything right – you have both enjoyed the journey without obsessing about the destination, and that will make her attractive to a lot of schools. At the end of the day, I think the fact that my kid is a genuine teenage boy, mattered. He hadn’t crafted himself into the perfect candidate, he was just a good student, who loved some classes and hated others, and worked hard at the ECs he enjoyed. Sounds like your daughter will do well! Good luck.