<p>It's a long story why, but though I'm a likable girl with social skills, I am somewhat introverted and found that I have no close friends who are girls here at ND. I started off freshman year with quite a few friends from my dorm (all dorms at my school are single-sex, and most people stay in the same dorm all 4 years), but I honestly didn't really share that many interests with them so I secluded myself to the point where we weren't close anymore. I still managed to find a girl in my dorm who was an acquaintance and also needed a roommate, and lived with her this year (sophomore year).</p>
<p>First semester this year, I had a boyfriend from back home, so I would go home every weekend to spend time with him. Therefore, I didn't really make any new friendships/interact with people in my dorm--mainly just people in my classes (who became I okay friends with, but not super close with). I have one girl friend on the entire campus (she lives in a different dorm) who I have even gone to the dining hall or a party with this year, aside from my current roommate (who I don't think likes me--she's very hard to live with and I constantly feel like I'm walking on eggshells with her). Should I ask her--the friend from another dorm--to be my roommate next year? It might be super weird though because it's not like we even hang out together on the weekends. And it would require me switching dorms if she wants to room with me. How should I ask her without sounding like a loser with no friends in my own dorm?</p>
<p>The only other option I see is living in a single, either in my current dorm or another female dorm on campus. But that would be lonely and weird :( I don't see anyone else needing a roommate from my dorm though, unless somehow there's someone as desperate as me :(</p>
<p>Thank you for your help…it's much appreciated!</p>
<p>I have a ND daughter that had a similar problem a couple of years ago… She did not have a roommate and her dorm had a night that everyone without a roommate met and did almost like a speed dating thing and found roommates!
I think you should also talk to your friend from the other dorm. She might be worried about bringing the subject up to you. Just start talking about your roommate situation and she might say she is interested or she might know someone who is looking for someone.
Junior year is a unique one…Many people studying abroad. Maybe you could room with someone for a semester.
Also…What is so awful about being in a single? My daughter says many singles end up with girls wanting to bunk in because they are having roommate problems!
I don’t want you to think you are a “loser.” It is too bad that you didn’t find that "four year roommate " freshman year, but most do not. I have to give you some “motherly” advice. GET OUT OF YOUR ROOM! Find at least one club, join it and be really active in it. You will be amazed at how you will “click” with people that have a shared interest. Also, I hope that boyfriend is gone. Stay on campus and enjoy Notre Dame. Please let me know how it goes…you remind me of my daughter. She is now a senior and in a triple! Here social life really took off second semester Junior year. She met some girls that I am sure will be friends for life.</p>
<p>I actually did just ask her…apparently she is “floating for a single” and going to move to another dorm. I guess she just really wants a single?
That is GREAT to hear about your daughter. I was really introverted freshman year but have finally come out of my shell, started going to parties and branching out in general. I now consider myself a social person who actually enjoys being with people with whom I have things in common. I can see myself making friends in the future as long as I get a fresh start. I think I just need a new roommate (as long as she’s not crazy and we share similar interests) or change of scenery so I can get in with a new group of friends.
And that boyfriend is gone (luckily!)! I realize how much of a mistake it was. I am just now starting to love ND and want to enjoy my last 2 years here.</p>