Morning everyone,
I recently transferred to another college far away from home.
It has only been two months but so far I have made no friends.
It is not that I did not make the effort to make friends. In contrast, I did. I joined 2 clubs, talked to classmates, and workmates. But most of them just ended up being acquaintances.
I am a guy who is always surrounded by friends in high schools. They are super important to me since they provided the emotional support that I can not get from my own family.
I really need help
IMO, it is harder for transfers to make friends because they missed out on that initial period when everyone in their peer group was a new freshman and interested in making new friends. It’s not that these same kids don’t want new friends, it’s just that most are just set now in their little groups and aren’t actively looking for someone new in their circle. Thus, as a transfer, the onus is solely on you to break into existing friend groups. Keep doing the things you’ve been doing. Clubs, volunteer, get a job, form a study group, ask someone to coffee, etc. It will eventually happen and one or more of those acquaintances will morph into friends. It might take a little longer than you were expecting, and you might face a few rejections along the way. Another avenue is to seek out and make friends with other transfers! They are in the same boat as you and will be more eager. And not sure about your feeling about Greek Life, or if your school even offers it, but rushing is another avenue you could try.