My daughter was accepted to Cornell CAS, but they rejected our request for a Non-Custodial Parent Waiver. We appealed twice without success. Every other school granted her waiver, but she is set on Cornell. I have another child at an Ivy, who received a Waiver. My Cornell daughter has seen her father twice since 2008, once randomly in the supermarket and once she went to his house with a friend to see him. He answered the door, but didn’t have time to talk. She has also called him a few times, but he hasn’t been interested in talking with her. Cornell told us that since we know her father’s address, they will not grant a waiver and we cannot reapply next year. We already provided five letters supporting the fact that her father has not been a part of her life. I also offered to provide the Income and Expense Declaration that he submitted to the court recently (early 2015) in connection with a wage garnishment case for back child support. As of today, she is accepting at Cornell, and planning on graduating with tremendous debt. It doesn’t seem right that Cornell advertises that it gives great aid and then does this to us. We feel deceived. Does anyone have any ideas as to what to do?
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planning on graduating with tremendous debt.
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she cant do that unless YOU allow her to by cosigning those crazy loans . i assume that you love her and wont do that to her.
where else did she get in??
Since she didn’t get aid from Cornell, sounds like she’d need to borrow $100k - 200k?
I would not allow my kid to accept that offer of attendance or cosign on that debt, which will then actually be your debt for quite some time. Will you be happy and willing to make the payments until she can, which could be years?. Cornell should be off the table, you all tried your best and it didn’t work out. You have to be the adult here because teeagers simply cannot grasp the concept of compounding interest.
What to do? Easy. Take Cornell out of consideration and pick another college.
You tried to get the waiver twice. Cornell,said no twice.
Unless you plan to pay the bills, your daughter needs to let this one go, and make a choice which is affordable.
She has about 24 hours to do so.
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Every other school granted her waiver,
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Good…so she has other choices.
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but she is set on Cornell. <<<
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So what? Seriously…SO WHAT? Since when do we let 17/18 year olds make decisions that require PARENTs to cosign ridiculous loans that not only put the parents at risk, but are HARMFUL for the student?
If she can’t put on her Big Girl pants…then it’s no time for you to lose YOURS.
I agree with the posters above - you’ve answered your own question.
I’m sorry if it’s not what you want to hear, but the situation is what it is. Cornell didn’t “do" anything to you. It simply applied its policy. In your circumstances, that policy had an unfavorable outcome. So choose another college.
Here’s my idea of what to do: First, apologize to your daughter for the fact that your poor decision making in picking a sperm donor left her without a father in her life. Second, pick another school.
As for being “deceived”, think you’re misdirecting your anger at Cornell, when it belongs with your daughter’s father.
Is this student on a gap year?
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Likely letter, Arts & Science I won't jinx this, but here are basics;
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34 ACT
3.2 unweighted GPA
Crazy heavy class load, more APs than anyone else on this site.
Lots of extracurricular with leadership, incl. varsity sports (but not recruited or tagged), community service, and min. wage job.
Incredible letters of rec.
White Female
Public school
Low income, financial aid
I think I got in on my letters of rec and tough course load. It sure wasn’t my grades, which dropped every year or my ok essay (I’m not a great writer). I read only one of my ltrs of rec, and it was incredibly powerful and moving. If they take one student per year based on amazing recommendations, I was that student.
Rejected from Wash St. Louis. Haven’t heard from anywhere else.
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Where else was your D accepted?
You’re low income so you can’t afford to cosign or help pay for the debt she’s considering. Does your D realize that she cant borrow by herself?
Seems like more than one person is posting from OP’s account.
You all know where her Dad lives, and how to contact him.
“I also offered to provide the Income and Expense Declaration that he submitted to the court recently (early 2015) in connection with a wage garnishment case for back child support.”
Maybe that has something to do with why he isn’t feeling very cooperative or generous these days?
Cornell has twice ruled that your intrafamily issues are no reason for them to give you money. They have a very good reason for that ruling; if there is a CS order in place, then Dad has been legally obligated to support his child(ren), so why should they take over supporting her instead of her own parents? She’s not an orphan or a ward of the Court.
I’m sorry to tell you that their decision was entirely predictable. Your child should go to a school that you can afford.
I think the OP is also the daughter pretending to be her mom.