<p>So basically I've never been to a party in my life - that means not even once in high school - and need to learn proper etiquette. I'm totally clueless about this, so please give me some advice. Also I have never drank beer besides once when I was very young and could use some advice in this area as well.</p>
<p>If you haven’t partied yet, I don’t think you should try during college. If you can find other stuff to do while in school, then why start a bad habit? Puking all over, missing class, doing stuff and not remembering… if that’s not already your lifestyle, why make it?</p>
<p>because I have to do networking…</p>
<p>I’m strange :p. Parties are so boring lol…probably cuz I don’t drink. </p>
<p>If you want to drink beer, just be responsible about it. Stick with only one drink per hour, don’t drink on an empty stomach, plan ahead to have a safe way to get back home, be wary of pictures that could end up on Facebook, etc. Common sense ;).</p>
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<p>Oh please. Plenty of people party without puking, missing class, blacking out. It’s very possible to drink responsibly and socialize at parties without being a sloppy mess.</p>
<p>There’s really not much to it. Go out and have a beer at a party. Just be careful since it’s your first time drinking–start with one beer and give it an hour or so before drinking more. Eventually you’ll find a good pace for you and will know what your limits are, and can start trying other drinks.</p>
<p>Though plenty of people show up to class with hangovers where I am/was, particularly on Friday mornings.</p>
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<p>This is complete crap and you ought to just disregard it. Not every single person that parties is like that and it sounds like you just have a stick up your ass.</p>
<p>Here’s my advice: If you have some closer friends in HS and you can get your hands on some alcohol, I would recommend testing the waters a little bit. You don’t want to go into college with no clue what your limits are otherwise thats just an equation for trouble. You don’t want to go to a party and have like 8 shots and a couple beers otherwise you will be throwin’ up dinner. It’s a lesson most people need to learn at least once and hopefully they learn it for after that. Hey it happens, but hopefully not a lot.</p>
<p>As far as what to do during parties, just go with a group of friends you can hang out with for a while and maybe try and meet others if its a chill/drinking party. Also try and get in on some games like flippy cup or beer pong. Can’t really go wrong with those and it’s a lot of fun. If it’s a dance party take a mate with you and hit the floor. (If you’re a guy) Just ask some girls who look like they are in a pair and ask them to dance with you two. </p>
<p>Biggest piece of advice is just be confident and other will want to hang around you at parties.</p>
<p>As far as “etiquette” goes, you should behave the same way you would at any social event (i.e., don’t be a jerk). If the party is being thrown by one or two people, it’s always nice to offer them a little money to pay for the cost of your snacks/beverages.</p>
<p>Hi there - well - there IS etiquette in my opinion in terms of self-conduct. You are able to party moderately, still enjoy yourself, and get good grades from what I’ve seen.
My advice:
- Know your limits. If you’re 105 lbs and 5’3, don’t think you can participate in what the crowd chanting “drink drink” is doing. You can’t.
- Know the group of friends you’re hanging out with. Are they dependable? Are they too known as “partiers”? Is there a designated driver? Consider this all before you head out to party.
- Go into the night with an objective. Are you looking to hook-up? Are you looking to just get a little buzzed and have a good time? Consider the possible consequences of both the latter and the former.
- Pictures. Know that somebody will have a camera out and WILL be taking pictures to post on Facebook/MySpace the next day, so be cognizant of your actions.
Really, it’s all about being smart in your decisions. Knowing what you’re doing and where you’re going beforehand and with what group of people will help you out enormously in terms of gauging the situation and dealing with the dynamics of it.
This is how I break down partying and it’s worked for me very well. I have plenty of dignity and very good grades.
I am not a big partier, but I do know how to conduct myself at those events I attend. Both my boyfriend and I aren’t drinkers, either. But this is how my friends who ARE more into partying conduct themselves.</p>
<p>I hate to say it, but you probably wont fully know your limits until you end up going too far one night. Because people have seemed to cover most of the other stuff, here’s some puking/hangover rulez!</p>
<p>Don’t mix your alcohol. Beer before liquor will make you sick all night.</p>
<p>After every few beers/shots, drink an entire water bottle. This will stop you from getting hangovers the next day! Also, pop 2 asprin before you go to bed.</p>
<p>If you’re going to puke, go outside or in the bathroom.</p>
<p>If you make a huge mess, come over and clean it up the next morning. Don’t ever make someone clean up your own puke.</p>
<p>How would it be changed if you had nobody to go to the party with? Do you just hang out alone awkwardly in the corner?</p>
<p>Maybe at first, but that’s the joy of alcohol. It makes things less awkward and helps you open up. Once everyone starts drinking, it will be easier to get to know one another, start dancing, and having fun. Just try to join a few games of what ever is going on. Sign your self up for beer pong, civil war, flip cup, etc.</p>
<p>Make sure the first few times you drink you do it with someone you know well that will stop you if you start to drink too much. Go slow. Drink a couple beers, wait a while, then drink more if you can. If it’s your first time, you will probably be pretty buzzed after 3.</p>
<p>Don’t show up early or on time be fashionably late about 90 minutes after the host says to come
Since you are a noob-don’t be stupid drunk guy who throws up at people’s parties, limit yourself to 1 until you can handle your booze like a champ. Hold a cup, even if it is filled with water
Come clean-hair clothes, shower, deo, brush and mouthwash- people lean in close to talk and you don’t want to reek.
Super light touch on the cologne. Cologne doesn’t cover up your b.o.</p>
<p>Batllo’s advice is good. If you wanna ‘get some’ then dress up a little bit. Otherwise wear whatever, it’s not the Marine Corps Ball.</p>
<p>Recharge, what kind of party is it? I wonder the same thing, to be honest. I’ve only ever been to a few big parties, and I still wouldn’t know how to act… The ones I went to weren’t the best learning experiences, because I got wasted at all of them and don’t remember. Most “parties” I’ve been to were less than 15 people, so it was more like just hanging out with some friends, getting drunk, making conversation, and maybe playing random party games (depending on how conservative/nerdy the bunch is). Environments like that are easily accepting of new drinkers and would probably be willing to show you the ropes. Personally, I think beer is disgusting… I’ll shotgun/bong a beer before I’ll stand around and sip on one.</p>
<p>If it was me, I’d survey the people around me and see how drunk they’re getting. If they aren’t knocking beers/shots back and generally being rowdy, I would just take it slow. If you want to retain your manliness, never grab a fruity malt liquor beverage (Smirnoff, Zima, hard lemonade, etc). Personally, I don’t give a !@#$ about manliness :).</p>
<p>haha okay…so even though i’m still a jr in HS. I literally havent had a drop of alcohol in my system…and i dont even know what the stuff smells like–I guess you could say for religious reasons (I’m a muslim) But i still want to have fun and ‘party’ w/o the drinking…would it be awkward if i didnt…i could pretend by holding a cup in my hand w/ pop? LOL.</p>
<p>Can I still party? I think guys would find that more attractive IMO b/c I would be able to know how to have fun w/o drinking :)</p>
<p>My take on partying is this: Partying is basically just letting go of inhibitions around other people, which is fun. The purpose of drinking is to assist in letting go of inhibitions. The more you drink, the fewer inhibitions you have. If you’re able to let go of inhibitions without drinking, I personally think you have a desirable trait and probably live a happier life. I also think dancing is a physical manifestation of releasing inhibitions, which is why it can be fun if you’re into it or feel (and look) awkward if you’re not. Having said all of that, drinking has side-effects that can really put a distance between you and the rest of the party if they have left you behind in blood-alcohol level, even if you’re on equal levels of inhibition (or lack thereof). So I don’t think the party is going to care that you aren’t drinking if you are equally uninhibited (They might not even notice), but you might feel left out.</p>
<p>Just knock a few drinks back with your buddies and don’t act like a total d!ck. You don’t want to alienate people the first few weeks because you’re an idiot and can’t handle your liquor. Just be chill and relax. Don’t go creeping on the girls too much or they’ll avoid you for the rest of the year.</p>
<p>So would it be advisable (or acceptable) for me to jump in the dance floor if I have not yet had any drinks?</p>