<p>I see my friends facebook pictures, titled "I love college", showing smiling faces, people going out to eat or meeting together, even people studying abroad or taking a vacation. It seems almost they are having "the time of their lives".</p>
<p>Why then, am I perfectly content just sitting here on the couch doing nothing? I'm not motivated to go out and get a minimum wage job and to be honest I don't really want to go back to school. Even though I probably need to in order to have a decent future, when I was at college I was even more apathetic and miserable than I am now. </p>
<p>But to be honest, I am more than content with just sitting here and listening to music all day and when I see pictures from my freshman roommates study abroad, I think "Oh, I'll just do that some other time".</p>
<p>Why is this? Can anyone shed some light on my situation?</p>
<p>Theres a lot of people who would be content just sitting around doing nothing. To bad theres not a job market for that, America would have the best economy on the planet.</p>
<p>I think your first problem is that it seems like you don’t even want to be motivated. You’re not gonna get anywhere if you don’t even want to know and theres nothing forcing you. </p>
<p>I could give you the “join clubs and get involved in things that interest you” but im not. I think its up to you to figure out how to get yourself motivated</p>
<p>Just because they’re embarking on a unique journey doesn’t mean you have to follow. You shouldn’t compare your lives to your friends lives. For one, you need to understand that you and your friends are living different experiences. There’s no need to beat yourself up over this. Create your own idea of the college experience; stop basing it off society’s perception aka indirectly through your friends college experiences. When you graduate college, you’ll be 21. You’ll have your lifetime to “study abroad” so there’s no need to even stress yourself out about it like that.</p>
<p>Now on to your laziness. I know how you’re feeling, because I felt like this last semester, but sitting at home listening to music isn’t going to get you anywhere. When you graduate college, you can’t go sit home and listen to music all day everyday. When you 25 years old, you can’t be at home listening to music all day. Unfortunately, you–like everybody else–have to become slaves to the money. Money makes the world go round, and if you’re not making, you won’t be around.</p>
<p>Do you perhaps have some level of anxiety or depression? I’d consider going to a counselor to see if he or she can shed some light on your situation.</p>
<p>I really know how you feel. Last Spring, when I got home, I could barely force myself to make dinner and take a shower, and I would sit there all night and watch TV until I went to bed because I simply didn’t have the energy to do anything else. I was also pretty badly depressed, so I got into counseling, took control of my life, and changed my situation to one where I was motivated and happy. For me, that meant changing my school and my major, and now I’m kicking ass and doing all of the things I didn’t have the energy to do before. </p>
<p>Not everybody on the planet is a doer anyway. When you find something you’re really headed toward you’ll find more motivation, I think. Meanwhile I’d try to find myself a project if I were you. I’ve been pretty lazy so far this summer, myself, but I’m taking a summer class so it’s stopping me from being a total bum.</p>
<p>People who can get through the system without any talent or ability?</p>
<p>I think I’ve recognized the problem. I do not have any direction or objectives. But I am going to blame it on the system. Most people are in college with no particular interest in college or real talent that justifies them being there. They are leeching off the system because they can, and college allows anyone with money and a pulse to attend because college is a business. So many people end up going to college and partying their way through, and the people who are actually serious about their life cannot differentiate themselves from the mediocrity.</p>
<p>I guess my plan then is to get through the system and recognize only after I jump through the initial hoop (college) that I can break away from the pack.</p>
<p>By the way, the depression excuse is such a cop out. I’m not depressed. You’re depressed.</p>
<p>Sounds a little like you don’t like the system.</p>
<p>And what the hell, “no talent or ability” that’s not exactly what I meant. I was going for, thanks to lazy people like you it makes it easier for people like me, someone with a work ethic.</p>
<p>People who are serious can differentiate themselves, by working hard. This is either doing well in school, going to better colleges, or doing extra things to make you look good (not chillin on your couch).</p>
<p>But I do agree that depression would be a cop out. Almost as bad as saying you may have ADD or something stupid like that.</p>
<p>Same here, I am a high school junior who has taken courses or self-studied, molecular bio, biochemistry, organic chemistry, multivariate calculus, corporate finance, economics, intro psychology, derivatives markets, accounting principles, risk management, multivariate prob/stats, and know AP Physics C level stuff. When I learn these subjects, I learn more and more that college is useless/easy and is for really stupid people @<a href="mailto:@">@</a>. </p>
<p>Just like you, I hate the system, and I have tried many ways to escape it. But I found it a 2-3 months ago: Actuarial science. Being an FSA (fellowship actuary) is moderately challenging/you don’t need college to get a really really high salary. It’s as simple as passing a few (7) exams and other things. I really enjoy it b/c it’s quite fun and relaxed. If I pass all the FSA reqs before graduating H.S, I can get a hopefully ($80k+) job without going to college. I already passed 1st exam last month, taking 2 more this month, and the rest all before Nov ends. Miracles can/do come true. =P</p>