<p>My oldest sister is currently a sophomore at ND. My other sister is currently a freshman at Binghamton (state university of new york). I really like Notre Dame for its great academics and school spirit. If I ever got accepted, I would be reluctant to attend. My sister at Binghamton always seems to be placed behind my other sister. Whenever my parents discuss college, they mainly talk about my sister at Notre Dame. Whenever they talk about my sister at Binghamton, people are more interested in my other sister. I feel really bad for my sister at Binghamton. She is very smart and deserves just as much attention as my other sister. If I get accepted to Notre Dame and decide to attend, I feel like it would make things much worse for my sister at Binghamton. And I'm not sure how going to the same school as my sister would be (it would only be for a year). Both of my sisters are encouraging me to go to their schools too.</p>
<p>Do you think going to Notre Dame in this situation would be more of a good thing or a bad thing? How do you think my sister at Binghamton would react if I decided to attend Notre Dame?</p>
<p>It’s very thoughtful of you to be concerned about your sister’s feelings. But I think you’re over-thinking this a bit. If the college you choose has any effect on your sisters, it will be a small and temporary one. However, it will have a huge impact on you… for the four years you spend there, and beyond. Your decision should be based on what’s best for you. Which school has the programs you want? The atmosphere you like? Where will you be happiest? Whichever school that is, if you pass it up solely on account of a sister, you’ll probably regret it. You may even harbor some resentment toward that sister for being the “cause” of passing up your first choice.</p>
<p>That said, I think you’re worrying about this prematurely. You haven’t even applied yet, so you don’t know what your options will actually be. Hopefully you’ll get into ND (and every other school you apply to); but if you don’t, you’ll have wasted a lot time worrying for nothing. Instead of fretting about what’s best for your sister, start focusing on what’s best for you. You’re obviously a very caring and supportive sister, so I’m sure your sisters will likewise be supportive and happy for you, no matter where you to school.</p>
<p>^^yeah, they saying is “don’t borrow trouble” for this case I also like “Worry is like interest paid in advance on a debt that never comes due. -The Spanish Prisoner”</p>
<p>You might mention what you notice to your parents in private. It sounds like something they might want to correct if they see another’s perspective on it. </p>