NYU Ruined My Life!

<p>Hi,
I was accepted to New York University for the fall semester. I received a NYU package (the one with the financial aid awards and the candidate reply form) several weeks after I was accepted. As soon as I received it, I sent in the reply form (about 2 weeks before the deadline). I live in New York so NYU should have received the candidate reply form and the check in about a day or two.</p>

<p>However, I have not received the confirmation yet. I called about 2-3 weeks after the deadline and the representatives at NYU told me that they are still working on opening the reply forms.</p>

<p>I called again today (June 14) and I spoke to the head of the department and he told me that they have not received my reply form because the check has never been cashed. That is IMPOSSIBLE, I know NYU received the letter with the check because I sent it to the school and never received the letter back in the mail.</p>

<p>Ultimately, I was told that I cannot attend NYU because they have not received my candidate reply form. At this point, I sensed some foul play in the undergraduate department in NYU. Moreover, I have to transfer or send a new application to NYU in the spring semester if I want to attend NYU and that is not a guaranteed admission!</p>

<p>At this point, I don’t know if I can go to any colleges because all of their deadlines have passed. Even though I wish to consider the other colleges that accepted me, it’s too late to be enrolled. Ultimately, I think that NYU messed up my life! I do not know what to do at this point.</p>

<p>Any comments are appreciated,
Thanks</p>

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That is IMPOSSIBLE, I know NYU received the letter with the check because I sent it to the school and never received the letter back in the mail.

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<p>Firstly the statement you make isn't logical. Secondly you could have saved yourself so much aggravation by using USPS traking mail or any other service: DHL,FEDEX, UPS....come on. Why would you not have done that?</p>

<p>So what is your plan now?</p>

<p>I'm pretty sure all of my application documents were sent via tracked mail to NYU. You've got a sad story but nobody here will be able to help you.
If you live in NY, just go to the NYU offices to work it out. I don't think the people working there have anything against you.</p>

<p>theinfocenter, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this trouble.</p>

<p>This semester, I was told by the Housing Office that they'd received my housing coupon, but not my check. (They were sent in the same envelope by USPS Priority Mail.) Thank God I checked with the office a few days before the deadline because it gave me time to manage the disaster. After some trouble, I managed to get an extension and everything sorted itself out. The morals of the story are that NYU can lose things at the most catastrophic time and that the post office is not responsible for your stuff.</p>

<p>That being said, if I were you, I would:</p>

<p>1) Check with your bank to see if the check has been cashed. If it has, someone at NYU is seriously misinformed - call them and tell them so. If it has not, then...</p>

<p>2) I'd try calling the Admissions Office and explaining your difficulties. Try calling a few times - persistence might pay off. Write a letter to the Admissions Office describing your troubles and reaffirming your commitment to attend NYU. CC it to the dean of your intended school and maybe John Sexton himself. That might get you some results. Also, if your parents are generous enough, ask them to help you out by calling the Admissions Office. I've found that solving some problems is much easier with a politely irate parent on the phone.</p>

<p>3) Consider calling your local community college to register for classes. Consider calling any of the lower-tied schools (local colleges, state universities) to which you applied, and explain your situation - if you are a great candidate, they may well make an exception to accomodate you. At least you can start taking classes, and you can consider transferring later.</p>

<p>Best of luck to you. Keep us informed about your plans.</p>

<p>I am in so much stress right now. I did not think it would be a problem sending it in regular mail since I live in NY. I have sent every other document via USPS Priority. I am sure that many people sent their reply forms in regular mail and NYU received them. I know that the mail arrived to NYU but what happened after that is a mystery.</p>

<p>I have not really planned out what I am going to do but it would involve making an appointment with NYU and taking care of this issue. Any other assistance would be helpful.</p>

<p>Thanks shades_children for all the help. I would definately write a letter if the appointment does not work.</p>

<p>Also, the check was not cashed.</p>

<p>First thing tomorrow morning start calling and going there. I cannot imagine they would refuse you if you KEPT working at it--and DON'T be afraid of going to John Sexton. If anyone can help you, it's him. Remember this: NONE OF IT IS YOUR FAULT. Simply emphasize how you did everything in advance so this exact situation would NOT happen; tell them how all of this IS screwing up your life. I am SO sorry for you, but I really think everything will be fine in the end.</p>

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I know that the mail arrived to NYU but what happened after that is a mystery.

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<p>How can you continue to make this statement followed by a mention that the check isn't cashed? You have NO idea whether your papers arrived at NYU or not.</p>

<p>I know you are upset for you told us so........making statements that are untrue doesn't help you case. You said you cannot attend because NYU hasn't received the reply form: how can you obtain a replacement reply form? Did you photocopy your check & the reply form? I should think you would have that in your file. Offer to send that. I'd do it right away.</p>

<p>jaimelajolie, frankly, I disagree with your argument.</p>

<p>It IS the student's fault if the paperwork doesn't make it there in one piece. The university simply isn't responsible for keeping track of your things. It happened to me once, and it sucked majorly because I thought I was going to get kicked out of NYU Housing, but I solved it by catching it before the deadline, calling people, and making trips to the Housing Office. Sure, I'm mad - how the heck can you receive the housing coupon but lose the check which was in the same envelope? - but righteous indignation won't do anything for you at NYU. It's better to suck it up and maturely deal with the problem.</p>

<p>Going or not going to college is not going to screw up a student's life. Yes, it screws up plans for the near future, but I'd hope that college wasn't the be-all and end-all of one's life! Again, telling NYU admins that "This is their fault!" and "You're ruining my life!" will only sound infantile and self-righteous - none of it will help theinfocenter's case. At NYU, you're treated as an adult responsible for your own actions, so it's better to accept that than prove otherwise.</p>

<p>To summarize, I think when dealing with the NYU staff, it's best to honestly admit one's shortcomings in the matter while insisting on your good faith when dealing with the school. That approach is far more likely to win you sympathy and assistance from the staff, which is going to be all-important in this case.</p>

<p>To theinfocenter:</p>

<p>If you didn't get delivery confirmation on the envelope (it sounds like you didn't, because you said you sent it regular mail) then you have no proof it arrived. The uncashed check is simply further proof that someone probably lost it somewhere along the line - could've been in the post office, NYU's mail service, or the Admissions Office..</p>

<p>Now is not the time to be arguing over whose fault it is - now is the time to try and solve this problem. Again, I wish you the best of luck in resolving this - don't give up just yet!</p>

<p>I suppose you're right in all that you say. But in my experience, the only thing that gets ANYthing done with any sort of administration is to present yes, good faith and willingness, but also anger. Otherwise, you won't be given a direct route--instead, the admin will say something like "well, let me transfer you to So-Sos department", which will lead to more of the same sort of thing. A well-placed biting remark will get you where you want to go, faster. By saying that it wasn't infocenter's fault, I wanted him/her to be more on the offense than the defense, which would get her nowhere. Am I making sense?</p>

<p>........And that's what IIII would do, being a hot-tempered sort of person who likes results. :) I can't believe what happened about your housing coupon, though. Having seen what both of you went and are going through, I'm SOOOOOOOOOO going to be on my toes. </p>

<p>I hate incompetence.</p>

<p>Good, sound advice. The folks who work in the offices that process student paperwork are very powerful. If you begin your attempt at resolution by blaming and attacking.....well I hope you like community college. I'd try an approach that gives the person on the other end the chance to do a good deed for you and then I'd express eternal gratitude & much thanks. So far you don't appear to be to compelling a case for quick action. Apparently you have never had a job? Never had customers complaining to you? College isn't a store in the mall. Grow up a little and make nice.</p>

<p>Well, the aggressive person is me....infocenter (the one whose life is ruined) hasn't done anything yet.</p>

<p>And, funny enough, I'm the customer service rep where i work. I'm just afraid that they're not going to give her/him the chance he/she needs. I feel so badly for infocenter, right now. I may not give good advice, but my intentions are good.</p>

<p>Good luck infocenter.....</p>

<p>Yeah, this post is scarying the bejesus out of me. Sorry to be on a sidenote, but if NYU cashed in the checks you send them for tuition/housing, does that mean that you're good to go?</p>

<p>haha, hopefully! Tuition and housing status can be checked through NYU Home....that's what I've been doing.</p>

<p>.... Tuition status? I've only seen housing status on my nyuhome............ -_-;; Yeah, where was your tuition form located on NYUhome???</p>

<p>wait, if i get accepted (in the future) is it possible to hand it to them physically? that would definitely ensure it. =T just food for thought.</p>

<p>you can see tuition status through Albert. Click Academics, and then on he left, Login to Albert--there you can access, if you weren't GSP, class registration and your bills and all that. Very handy:)</p>

<p>Sorry about all assumptions that i have made. It is true that i do not know what happened to the mail. ANYTHING could of happened to it along the way.</p>

<p>All of the things that i said about NYU ruining me is all assumptions. I used this to vent out some of my distress. I do not know who to blame in a situation like this and blaming one's self is never an easy thing to cope with.</p>

<p>Nevertheless, i will continue to update my progress with this issue. I will call NYU tomorrow and try to set up an appointment. The only thing that i want to do now is be accepted in the Spring semester.</p>

<p>Thanks for the help</p>

<p>Definitely go with the suggestion about admitting what you could have done better. Be honest, not defensive. Communicate that you aren't trying to trick or deceive them, but that you just want to go to school, that what happened was an honest mistake somewhere along the lines.</p>

<p>I've had my own dealings with NYU staff already, even though I'm a rising freshman, too, and that's definitely what I've learned is useful to keep in mind when there's a problem. It's mature and doesn't point the finger anywhere, but still gets your point across.</p>

<p>I honestly wish you the best of luck. This is a severely unfortunate situation. I have no idea what I'd do if I was in your position. Hope it works out!</p>

<p>Thanks for the positive words scrapnel. This was something that I had no control over and i wont go around blaming others.</p>