Hi have questions letâs say we have received interview invitation to NJMS school through Rutgers, but also received undergrad interview with Stevens so Stevens is scheduled next week and NJMS scheduled in March so if the stevens interview does not go well, do they send anything to NJMS at all. Or only if they interested then only they will send to NJMS as do not want anything if stevens denieds to send to NJMS since we have interview schedule in March with them.
If NJMS selects you for BS/MD from Rutgers- Newark after NJMS interview and Stevens did not forward your BS/MD application to NJMS, you can only attend Rutgers-Newark for UG(for BS/MD). There is only ONE interview with NJMS.
@srk2017
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My school principal always says - this is the era for helicopter parents who would even write to college professors questioning why their kids were graded a certain way. We can figure things out; if we dont, we learn and move on.
Thatâs way exaggerated! I know you are trying to find answers to why you did not get the interviews expected but doesnât give you the right to blame parents. BTW, this thread is dominated by parents than students so you are preaching to wrong crowd.
As I told you privately, donât take to heart the BSMD outcomes. Only 5% of them medical school admissions are thru BSMD and most top tier programs 9regardles whatever ranking site you used) donât have BSMD programs.
@srk2017 , I do think your comment to @brainbuilder02 was way too harsh. I give him a lot of credit, he is going through this process without the guidance from parents (or consultants) like us on this site. I have guided my son plenty of times along the way as well as sought out advice from people in the field. And it has helped him. Kids who get more guidance do have advantages. Nothing wrong with acknowledging that. We all know some parents who do get too involved. I know plenty of them. And it wouldnât surprise me if some parents did call college professors. I remember my niece told me some of her college friendâs parents would get involved when problems arose.
@brainbuilder02 I do think you have much to be proud of. Rejection stings at any age and can cause self-doubt. But you do seem to realize that what happens today doesnât necessary change the course of your life 10 years from now. We can all see you have what it takes, so just remember the path from Point A to Point B doesnât have to be linear. At the end of the day, you will get there.
ps⊠there is an assumption that mostly everyone here is an ORM. Just outing myself as a non-ORM.
@âPhil Gâ helicoptering is not same as helping kids. Helping the kid is like kid is a driver and parent is a passenger. Helicoptering case, parent is a driver and kid is a passenger and that kid will never learn how to drive as simple as that. I donât think any parent on this thread favors helicoptering. If kid is not able to resolve problems of their own in colleges, , learn from their mistakes, certainly I donât want to visit that to be Dr in my life.
It is generally a good idea that one of the parents steps back and shows a little less enthusiasm in the childâs career and let the other parent take charge. That way the child doesnât perceive both the parents as overly pushy and may still be receptive to the other parent conveying the same message or feed back in a different or milder tone.
No matter what may be the eventual outcome, donât forget to convey to your child how proud you are of him/her for trying their best and assuring that itâs just a matter of time for them to realize their dreams. Also let them know you are fine with whatever decisions they may make about their career choice and always can count on your support.
I would rather both parents to be more enthusiasm and supporting kid likes/choices, like said earlier, rather be a passenger than a driver (parent canât be in charge). Think more like kid is on a learning permit and needs more guidance than an experienced driver, still kid is a driver, not a parent.
@PPofEngrDr
I in no way suggested that parents on this thread are helicopter parents. Please reread my message, I think you misunderstood what I said. I merely pointed out that some kids get more help than others.
Lol its hilarious, neither do I. Just merely pointing out the difference. It is unfair for a kid to say at the same time helicoptering in school vs college. School has Parent Teacher meeting being a kid as a minor. @brainbuilder02 may not be even aware of FERPA that exist in college and parent canât do anything about it (yes parent canât even see kidâs grade unless kid allows parent). So that original comment from school principal about helicoptering parent is indeed exaggerated from college perspective.
@Phil%20G - I am not harsh at all. In fact @brainbuilder02 communicated with privately and I gave constructive advice. Do you know what percentage of parents contacts college professors (or high school teachers)? Itâs easy to generalize with one or two examples, just like people tirelessly quote few failures to push BS/MD at any cost opinion.
I always offered to help for free if someone needs help and I give unbiased advice nad I do get few PMs every cycle. If I see exaggerations and vested opinions I call out but I am not trying to be harsh to anyone.
At some point this month, will NJMS send out rejection letters to those that they have decided not to give interviews to or will they reject people as they go over the candidatesâ files and decide the match?