Oh, It's Just You

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<p>Hey, my son is about to begin his second year of college. Woo-hoo! Last year he got so much literature in the mail before his freshman year. He must have gotten five different letters saying congrats to admission to the college, the business side of the college, the honors college, oh and the college again, ect. We as parents received different literature in the mail, too. I really appreciated the monthly calendar with important college dates on it like when exams were, what days they were out for spring break, ect.</p>

<p>Okay, so this year..........nadda. It's like they spent all their time courting us so we'd fall in love with them, and, now that we have......eh. Makes me feel like yesterday's news. Still happy with the college choice S made, but their attention to us really slacked off.</p>

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<p>You should be thankful. We get lots of letters asking us to give money.</p>

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<p>If you’ve gotten nothing from the school, they really have slacked off, you should have received at least a few phone calls, letters or emails about donating to your son’s college! :D</p>

<p>x-posed w/emily</p>

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<p>We have received several phone calls from the university asking for donations. It both irritates me AND cracks me up. I cannot imagine why they are asking us for money when we are already paying SO much.</p>

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<p>No, all those mailings were to teach you about things there. By now you know the ropes, as does your son (plus he gets his on campus info/emails). Be thankful the donation requests haven’t started yet. What more do they need to tell you? Always keep in mind it is your son’s, not your, college. You may be told about his making the Dean’s list, if that happens and then perhaps graduation.</p>

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<p>Your son must be attending a private school. We hear from my son’s public school twice a year - an email saying tuition is due! That’s it! Oh yeah, except for the December donation request letter.</p>

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<p>It is a private school. Oh, and we did receive a letter after the first semester that S made the dean’s list. The second semester he also made the dean’s list, but…no letter.</p>

<p>ws75, yep, sure is S going to college, making all those grades, doing all that work, and not me. He made a great transition from HS to college. Good for you, tho, if your son or daughter has it all under control and doesn’t need you to help one iota with filling out a form, or finding everything on that packing list, has zero questions for you as a parent and doesn’t look to you for a thing…</p>

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<p>I thought the same thing as babyfrog was getting ready to go back to a public U (and we, too, get the donation phone calls…). Especially since they are in the process (a klunky one!) of switching everything to electronic notification.</p>

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<p>I really don’t want more junk mail. Kills trees and the Earth. I don’t want email either. Distracts from those love letters I get from Nigerian Princes and people who think my package needs enhancing.</p>

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<p>Check their website. They probably have a special section for Parents and some schools have a parents Facebook page as well.</p>

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<p>Sophomores. The most “neglected” college class. The OP’s experience is just one example of why they call it the slump.</p>

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<p>I get those too!</p>

<p>Maybe we should forward them to our kids’ schools…</p>

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<p>It’s not about you at this point. They shouldn’t want to be re-courting you. If your child is happy, it’s all good and that’s all that needs to be said.</p>

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<p>I don’t wish to ‘re-courted’. It would be nice to be acknowledged as an important part of our son’s support system.</p>

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<p>Our son’s school has a daily email you can sign up for (5 days a week) and also a newsletter that you can sign up for (comes out once a month or so-can’t remember exactly). Info about what’s going on on campus, family weekend,etc. is included. He’s a senior but I still like getting all that stuff. Does your son’s school have anything like that that you could sign up to receive ? Or ask to be put on a mailing list?</p>

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<p>The college acknowledges your importance every year when they send the bill - to you.</p>

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<p>Funny thread;
just commented on move-in day for upperclassmen this past Saturday that we all really had no idea where to go, when…haha (as opposed to last year when they had people posted all over campus telling everyone where to unload, park, help with stuff etc)</p>

<p>When my D got her keys, she asked if there were any handtrucks/dollies to use like there were last year? the person laughed at her…with a smile of course!!</p>

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<p>We got a letter asking for a donation before I had even gotten into my first choice school!</p>

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<p>My son graduated over a year ago and I still get online news from his college about monthly. I could unsubscribe, but I enjoy it. We also get their excellent quarterly magazine. I did unsubscribe from the parent list-serve once S graduated, but that was an excellent way for parents to exchange info and the college also assigned staff to read every item and respond with answers when needed. These are the kinds of things that make parents more likely to want to give money to the school.</p>

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<p>DD is a college jr at public uni and I get qtr e mail from parent group with basic update about what happening ie move in, finals ect</p>