They can do the right thing and make some real headway into making this process a little more humane! @momof2lefties hang in there!! Your D is lucky to have you on her side.
I would hope they are reading this thread. What a rotten thing to do. Frankly, they deserve all the bad press they can get and a call from your lawyer too.
If all else failed and they aren’t helpful, I’d start Tweeting about this with the school name. Students and competitors will see it. It gets quick action from businesses in general — could get them to bend.
We hope to be in touch with them more tomorrow. At this point, we will just have to wait and see. I will say that this thread has gotten much larger than I would have guessed (or liked). At this point, word is sure to get out at the school eventually and people will eventually find out who it is if she attends, which makes me worry even more that she would be isolated. I do appreciate and am immensely gratefull for all of the good vibes and fierce loyalty, but think it’s possible that I may have said too much. I do not want a Twitter war or major publicity. I do not want my kid to be embarrassed. Now I have a new thing to worry about and there is no way to delete a thread. Sigh. It’s been a hell of a day.
@momof2lefties I don’t think the word would get out at most schools. Admissions people are professionals. If they do let her in, then they really want her to succeed. There would not want to do anything to harm her.
She may not be the only one in this position
I don’t mean it like that, only that current/future posters/kids on this board could probably put two and two together and figure out who she is if they wanted to (if she went to school there) just to satisfy curiosity. That might make her feel more exposed and wondering if she belonged. Perhaps I am just tired and need to try to get some sleep.
It is extremely cowardly of the school to put a parent in that position. The admissions office needs to talk to your daughter directly.
Hang in there @momof2lefties - I’m sure you’ll have clarity tomorrow by end of the day and no one on CC knows your DD’s name.
They are not about to issue a press release about the situation or otherwise comment to the press - plus, they can’t comment to anyone about your DD anyway under FERPA.
You’re a good mom to advocate for her, you are smart to think through all of the ramifications of how the school’s response will play out and you, your husband and your DD will get through this.
((Hugs))
ask a moderator to delete the thread if you are concerned for your daughter’s privacy. Good luck!
MODERATOR’S NOTE: I’m sorry, but we don’t delete threads on request, only if they violate the Terms of Service.
OK, CC Hive … Let’s all promise (silently, to ourselves, to avoid added thread growth) that we won’t mention this to anyone, especially anyone who’s going there… or anyone who might apply there next year…
@momof2lefties I wouldn’t worry about potential ramifications because you posted here. You did so anonymously and you only stated exactly what happened. You must be strung to the max and especially sensitive. I don’t think it is something that could be held against you.
I am of the school of thought that wrongs need to be righted and the way the school handled this is wrong. It is THEIR problem to have to deal with and accommodate, not your daughter’s. They need to live with the consequences of their mistake, not your daughter. Rethink your approach and put it back on them; dont accept the rescinding.
Second, the fact that they notified you rather than your daughter could arguably invalidate their notification. My D is in early at a top 20 school. She has received invitations to accepted students day and parents are also invited and have a separate program to follow. I needed the itinerary for the event and D was at school. I called the university, they took my full name, and then they refused to share the event schedule…to an event I was invited…They said I had to get it from my D. If they would not even give a simple orientation schedule to an invited attendee, your child’s school certainly had NO right to share your child’s admission revocation with you. I would argue it is invalid. I think this is a technicality you could operate under, but I don’t gt the sense you want to go all out in taking them on.
In that case, I think you hold firm with asking THEM to live with the consequences of their error and to not have her bear the brunt of it. I would be firm but respectful. I would not accept anything but an admission offer, even if you have to work up the chain and even if you have to let them know you you start to address the issue on social media.
And 100% agree you should screen shot any and all correspondence before things start to vanish.
@momof2lefties - we’ve got your back, never fear! I concur that you should press the issue aggressively with them. I am torn about what I would tell me D and when I would do it. I am leaning toward you and her dad doing all you can before telling her. If you are successful, she never has to be the wiser. If not, you can assure her you did all you could. Quite frankly, I would give them the boot without a backward glance if they won’t make good.
Sorry, I know you probably don’t want anymore replies on this thread giving your last few posts, but I can’t help it. As a senior in high school right now, waiting on the decision from my dream school, reading this thread nearly brought me to tears. No one should ever have their acceptance rescinded (if you can even call it that) because of an error that should have never even happened. You have every right to get into a major phone argument and make a big deal if you want, even though it sounds like you don’t.
They seems very unorganized and problematic when it comes to the admissions process My friend will be attending in the fall, but before she received her admissions decision last week they had lost her test scores. Twice. Granted it worked out in the end, they had put her through all this unnecessary stress and more waiting than necessary.
Best wishes to your D and I am sure she will be successful wherever she ends up going. They aren’t even worth it if they won’t honor the acceptance on behalf of THEIR mistake.
@dowzerw makes a great point but I think only If your D is over 18. If so they are not allowed to discuss anything with you.
If they do end up honoring the admittance, you shouldn’t worry about her being seen as not belonging there. She is obviously very talented and deserving of a spot, or she wouldn’t have been on the list for applying next year. Many have reported here that if their letters have said that, they end up getting in the following year. She deserves the spot, no question! And although you feel exposed, most people won’t take the time to try be amateur detective to figure out who you are. Everyone is worried about their own kids and where they’re going. Please don’t let that add to your stress. You’ve said nothing wrong or embarrassing on here. Finally, does seem weird that it wasn’t just a phone call mistake, it’s the portal, the packet being mailed. That’s a lot of mistakes. Seems more like they miscounted and she just missed the cut when they figured it out. Best of luck to you!
On a MUCH smaller scale, I once was notified that I was accepted to a piano performance workshop at UT-Austin, one year after I had already attended it. Then I was told it was a mistake! I will never forget how devastated I felt. Fortunately, UT did the right thing and let me come, anyway. The highlight was Bill Race telling me how much I had improved in a year. 
But wow, I can’t imagine that happening with a college acceptance. Good luck to your D!!!
Sorry that happened to your daughter, it is really a shame that the actions of one women is hurting the reputation of a top Arts School.