On transferring out

Ha! It would be funny, however I assume Lilypod is a woman and my mom can hardly open her own e-mail without my help let alone post on a forum!

On the run, here, but your parents ‘more or less forcing you’ to do a major your don’t love sounds like an issue regardless of the school - maybe another thing to talk with the counselor about? I’m sure they’ve seen it before and might have some good suggestions. College is enough of a challenge when you’re studying something you like.

I agree with you completely - I should clarify that I don’t hate doing CS, in that it can be painful at times, but overall I’d rate it a 7/10 this far. While I’d love for that to be a 10/10, I think it’s the best I can do at this point considering that an internal transfer to AEM is no longer an option.

There are a lot of issues going on here that need to get untangled, not the least of which is that your parents are telling you what to major in. I actually have been thinking a lot about you today. So glad you are going to counseling center. Your mood even sounds lighter today.

My prediction: you are going to return to Cornell next year with a new major, meet lots of new friends, and love Cornell.

I agree with you, there are underlying issues that need to be taken care of. And yes, after some self reflection (and dark chocolate), I am in a considerably better mood than I was yesterday.

I would like to thank everyone who has offered advice here thus far - I know my conduct has not been ideal, but please believe me when I say that it was not so much a reflection of my personality/beliefs but more a manifestation of pure frustration.

I am going to read through everything again and begin taking steps to improve my situation, starting with counseling.

I do hope that your prediction is correct, brantly.

Good luck! Freshman year is an eye-opener for the vast majority of people. You are not alone. I have confidence that you will get to the other side of this.

The last few posts in this thread make me happy.

100% agree SleelsTemporary!!!

Heat0213— If you go to Teagle Hall on Central campus (across from the football stadium, behind Barton), it will be less crowded than HN or Noyes. It does get a little crowded around 4, but still not as crowded as the other two. Also HN or Noyes aren’t really that crowded during the last two hours they’re open at night.

There are definitely people who don’t like to party and drink and Cornell. There are people who get drunk every day. It’s a large (though not as large as others) school, and there are a lot of different types of kids. Sometimes it takes a while to find your niche, but perhaps check out the different clubs and activities that you think you’d be interested in.

About Northwestern— My friend from high school went there, and I was able to visit quite a few times. NU and Cornell have the same types of students there— they attract essentially the same distribution of people. In fact, all the top schools you could argue have the same types of students. You’re going to get the same mix wherever you go.

I know Cornell is hard. Trust me, I know. I had a hard time myself doing well in school at times. I don’t think NU would be any easier. NU is a top 20 university, like Cornell.

It definitely can be rough the first year at college. It can certainly be a culture shock. I would say take the advice on other people on this forum and talk to someone at Gannett.

Also, not every frat/frat guys is your stereotypical rowdy,egotistical, reveler. Perhaps you’d be partial to guys in Beta or Seal and Serpent. They’re much tamer and docile, and I believe they don’t even haze. I’m not saying join them necessarily

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“toxic liberalism”

you would die if you had went to Brown

Well, I suppose most college campuses are liberal anyway. Not that political opinions have as much an effect on me as other things I’ve mentioned do…In the words of Winston Churchill himself, “If you’re not a liberal at twenty you have no heart, if you’re not a conservative at forty you have no brain.” Perhaps I have no heart…

An update: I completed some counseling today and it most definitely helped. I am also in the process of speaking with my parents about my major.

Sounds like you are making strides. Do try to get in to work out–that will help. If you stay next year where will you live…maybe someone with more Cornell experience could give some ideas as to dorms more to your liking.

Next year, most of the 1/3 of the rowdy kids will move into frats, 1/3 will move to collegetown, and the last third will live on west campus, which is actually pretty nice and has a good community. I don’t remember when the housing process is, but check out west campus… and they have lots of singles, which i always think are better than doubles.

Definitely talk to your parents about changing major. You can almost have any major coming from Cornell and go into consulting/venture captial. Regarding the clubs, I know the consulting clubs are some of the few clubs you have to apply to get it, but that would seriously help you out if you want to go into that field.

So glad the counseling was helpful. Please remember you are not alone and there really are others like you out there. One of the wonderful things about the human race is its diversity. :-j

Please check out #9. http://www.ivyleaguelifestyle.com/incoming-cornell-freshmen/ you are not alone!!!