Hey guys, okay so I need some serious advice. About a year ago, I met someone from Mississippi who I liked a lot. Long story short, it didn’t work out, and now we no longer talk. My mom worked very diligently to make sure me and him didn’t talk and after a few months I finally convinced her that I was done with him. Now that I am about to enter my senior year, I am ready to choose my college. While I love my mother very much, we have some underlined issues dating way before this guy that I just don’t think will ever be solved. She’s too stubborn. I want to go out of state for college. (I live in Texas.) Mississippi State and Southern Miss have both expressed interests in me for my academic achievements. Southern Miss has a GREAT nursing program, and Mississippi has that awesome university feel that I feen for. They are definitely two colleges I am heavily considering. But… Since the guy is from Mississippi, I am afraid my mom will think he is the reason I am attending this school, which is far from true. I am also afraid she will threaten to not fund my tuition if I tell her this is where I want to go. I have already checked and with either college I will be atleast 2 hours away from the guy. I am just not sure how to tell her this. Her temper is too short, and once she believes she knows what I’m thinking, there’s no convincing her other wise. I love my mother so much, but I think going away for college would be best for both of us. (MSU is 8hours away from my home). Side note; my mom attended North Texas in Denton which was about 5 hours away from her home. What’s 3 more hours? Please help!!! I am going to talk to my dad about it, but since he has not been apart of my life as much as she has I don’t know what good that will do. This is my future, and I just want to be able to control it.
Separate your posts into paragraphs.
As a parent, it sounds like you purposely picked Mississippi and I would question your motives as well.
Is Texas not big enough for you to find a school there? I know Texas is big because my daddy told me so ever’ day! Why do I ask? Because OOS tuitions are expensive. How will you pay your fees if Mom refuses to? It ain’t cheap!
How about you just don’t brin up with guy and see how it goes. Just talk about a college list and find some you both agree on and talk about adding nearby states that are affordable. You don’t talk about that part here. College expressing academic interest in you is called marketing. You don’t pick colleges that way.
“Hi mom, can you review my college list? I’ve been trying to find schools with good nursing programs that will be affordable for me to attend. Here are some that I’ve identified. I was wondering if you could suggest any more?”
Proceed to show her a list of schools from across the Southern US that will both offer you a scholarship and have solid to excellent nursing programs. If the list includes the Mississippi schools, make sure there are others, including ones from states somewhat near Texas.
Why just mention two MS schools?
Create a list with 10 different schools from all over the US that interest you…show interest in all those schools…and let the chips fall where they lay.
Don’t mention the ex. Are you dating anyone else?
Yes I am currently dating someone. But it’s nothing serious and she knows that.
I do have other schools I’m looking at, but they’re mostly in Texas except for one and I know my mom will go straight to the Mississippi ones and rule them out.
@whenhen and @mom2collegekids have both made excellent suggestions. Keep the Mississippi schools separated, or not.
First of all, ask your mom how much she can pay for college. It sounds like she’s a single mom. She may not be able to afford to send you to an OOS public.
Well I’ve been considering TCU and A&M and when compared to MSU, they are way more expensive. And Southern Miss is even more inexpensive. I don’t think money is the problem. But you guys are all right.
I need to think about this more, and there are other out of state schools that I can consider.
Thanks so much for the advice!
I don’t think A&M is more expensive that OOS MSU. Why would you say that?? OOS MSU costs more than A&M.
Please, ask your mom how much she’ll pay each year.
Are you expecting merit aid from the Mississippi schools? That’s the only way they would end up less than in-state. What are your stats (GPA/SAT or ACT)?
In the South/Southwest, you can study nursing at:
UNC Wilmington; JMU; GMU; Appalachian State; Auburn; Barry; Bellarmine; Maryville, TN; UMiami; UMW; UNC Pembroke; USC: Columbia; UOklahoma; UNF; UT KNoxville; UTampa.
Some if not most would have merit scholarships. Run the NPCs.
If your mother makes less than 65K, you’re eligible for Berea College, an excellent school that provides a full tuition scholarships to all the lucky scholars it admits, thanks to donors and alumni.