<p>D (who has bf) just crossed Holy Cross of her list b/c boys are not allowed to stay in girl dorms (or on girl corridors). This was news to me, and certainly wasn't true at my college.</p>
<p>Is this true of most Cath schools?<br>
(D was also considering Boston College.)</p>
<p>Its the same at Georgetown.</p>
<p>I know at Catholic University they're pretty strict about this... I don't know if this is the type of situation you're referring to but a boy I know got caught in bed with his girlfriend in his dorm room and he was suspended</p>
<p>Is such practice common, even at non-religious schools? </p>
<p>I'd certainly never have bothered to inquire.</p>
<p>Most nonreligious schools all you to visit overnight.</p>
<p>I think a lot of Catholic schools have the same policy, the difference is in how strictly it is enforced. I have heard at some schools, the rule is broken all the time, whereas, at others, you can be kicked out of your on-campus housing for a transgression. I know for sure that Notre Dame and Creighton have similar policies.</p>
<p>Ive heard at BC nobody cares if you have overnight guests ... no matter what sex they are </p>
<p>Go ask in the Boston college forum as they may miss this thread and it would be better to find out for sure. I hope for my sake the opposite sex can stay over hah. My boyfriend was thinking of visiting me and i dont really want to send him to a hotel.</p>
<p>I'm going to a state school and your not allowed to have overnight guests if your on visitations A-C. However, in the visitation I have, which is C, you have 24 hour visitation from Friday night to Monday morning, so if someone wanted to stay it wouldn't be that hard for them to.</p>
<p>I'm going to a state school too and we're allowed to have an overnight guest of any sex for up to the 3 nights in a row. Which is excellent because I'm going to have my boyfriend fly up for the Virginia Film Festival and stay with me for a couple of days. :)</p>
<p>I know Notre Dame also has that no opposite sex in the dorms rule, but as a parent, I would expect you to be excited about that. I know my mom would have been! Besides, IMO, your d shouldn't be choosing a school based on when and where she can see her BF.</p>
<p>Obviusly when/where to visit bf is not d's sole or primary concern, but w/ so many college choices, the ease of hosting a guest is a relevant factor in the selection process (more so than "hotness" of other students or male/female ratio - - which have been the subj of other CC threads).</p>
<p>Quite a few schools still have parietal hours. Definitely something that might be a deciding factor for an applicant.</p>
<p>I know that I was offered the option of having a co-ed dorm. So, I'm assuming, they have no problem with it.</p>
<p>parietal rules should be a major factor in a college decision, though not in and of themselves. such rules not only speak to the social positions of the administration-at-large but, further and more importantly, to the kind of students the school is likely to attract.</p>
<p>i cant imagine attending a school where females wouldnt be allowed to spend the night, let alone step foot in my dormitory. what other religious beliefs are they going to 'force' on me? similarly, im sure quite a few people would be uncomfortable with a school like bennington where males and females are actually allowed to share a room. what other 'amoral' things do these people do?</p>
<p>Erica, it seems to me that you have trashed Bennington before on other threads, you seem to have some particular issue with the school and I'm wondering why? Have you been here? Are you just really conservative? Yes, men and women are allowed to room together here. A few very well established couples choose to do that, but for the most part, when it happens, it is a straight woman and a gay guy. Do you really find that "amoral"? I don't imagine that the students at Bennington are really any less moral than those at Bucknell as from what I know of it (from friends and family members who go/have gone there) there is more cheating, theft and rape at Bucknell than there is at Bennington (yes, adjusting for size). To me, these are much more "amoral" acts than rooming with a person of the opposite sex. Just one humble Bennington students opinion.</p>
<p>Sorry, I just noticed, it's Eric, not Erica.</p>
<p>I can't seem to stop myself now! nyc-I just wanted to say that your comment about the "hotness" threads cracked me up. I think it is hilarious (or really more like sad) how any "top" school could have these shallow, ridiculous discussions. Frankly, to make it even sillier is the subjective understanding of "hot." I personally do not find the bleach blonde, fake boob, fake tan look that is so often seen as so as terribly attractive.</p>
<p>allthosethings-</p>
<p>oh, wow! i didnt mean to come off that way at all. i believe my only other mention of bennington here was as a response to someone claiming the school is 'preppy'... to which i made a joke about drug use on campus, an intentionally satirical comment that was admittedly in poor taste.</p>
<p>if you carefully reread my second paragraph, i begin by mentioning that i personally couldnt imagine myself going to a school with parietal rules. the second half of the paragraph, the part in which bennington is implicated, is used as a hypothetical counter to my own viewpoint ('im sure quite a few people' compared to 'i'). the 'amoral' actions concern (in quotes for a reason) would be one potentially raised by people with very different viewpoints than ourselves, just as i--and maybe you as well--would be concerned about a conservative administration 'forcing' other religious beliefs on on its students. its not necessarily a rational concern, but is a concern nonetheless. in short, i have absolutely no problem with coed housing. im a registered green and borderline socialist... and about as far from a social conservative as possible. </p>
<p>anyway, i also have nothing against bennington and will refrain from mentioning it specifically in the future, though rest assured i had no foul intent. one of my friends attends the school and loves it.</p>
<p>no problem, I understand what you are saying.</p>
<p>I just went and found the response when i asked the same question about BC:</p>
<p>"here's what BC tries to tell you:
GUESTS</p>
<p>Guests are defined as any person not registered to the room. Students are responsible for the conduct of their guests including any damage caused to University property and violations of University policy and/or the Conditions for Residency. Guests of the opposite sex are not permitted to remain overnight. Guests whose stay extends beyond four consecutive nights must have written authorization from the Director of Residential Life. If another student's room or bed is to be used, the host must acquire that individual's written permission. Sexual activity between or among members of the same or opposite sex is prohibited in the residence halls and is subject to disciplinary action.</p>
<p>Students are prohibited from using a bathroom that is not designated for their gender. Students are responsible for ensuring that their guests follow the same policy. Students and guests found in violation of this policy will be held judicially responsible.</p>
<p>hahahaa..ok here's the real deal.
you can have ANYONE you want come and crash in your room. Reslife has no way of knowing who's in your room unless you get busted for a noise violation, alcohol, etc. Just don't be loud, and make sure its ok with your roomie first. You won't get in trouble, and I've never heard of anyone getting a letter from the Dean of Reslife for guests to stay more than four nights. </p>
<p>there is also a new rule about "co-habitation" that states that people of the opposite sex occupying the same room must have at least three feet on the ground at all times.
don't worry it's not enforced. its just funny."</p>
<p>sid,</p>
<p>I wouldn't be so quick to advise students or parents to disregard the stated policy. In a school the size of BC, you may not be aware of every viol of reslife rules or the resulting discipline. </p>
<p>I agree w/ ericatbuck (#13), the parietals give some indication of the tone the admin hopes to set on campus and the type of student it hopes to attract. Moreover, since opp-sex overnight guest are prohib, the sch can't even screen to place compat students as roommates - - so d could be assigned roommate who understandably expects there will be no boys in the room.</p>