<p>Hey fellow parents,</p>
<p>I wasn't sure where to post this but this seems as good a place as any as I have parental things to consider.</p>
<p>Im married with 4 kids and am finishing my time at community college and getting ready to transfer. I have a few options in mind each with pro's and cons. I have a lot of other concerns that are not typical of most students which is why I'm posting here.</p>
<p>First, I have my kids in a government daycare program which doesn't cost me anything right now, with 3 kids in daycare that is a huge saving. Secondly, and this may be stupid, but after living in many places and finding it hard to make real friends, I've finally got a couple decent friends that would probably turn into lifelong friends if I didn't move, I'm not sure how much to factor this in my decision, because I know I want to go to a good grad school eventually anyway which will require moving. Lastly, my age and family responsibilities is not typical for many 4 year schools.</p>
<p>Option 1: cheapest option, I can finish debt free, it's where all my friends are going, I don't have to move and get to keep my kids in free daycare, but.... It's completely unknown, I would not consider it a great school with good recruiting, it's basically like continuing at community college. There's no college spirit whatsoever, and all the class are at night which would really cut down on the amount of time I get to spend with my family. The only reason I'm considering it is for financial reasons and my friends are going there. (OSU-tulsa)</p>
<p>Option two: private school with a way better reputation, facilities, teachers, recruiting, opportunities in general. I don't have to move so I still get free daycare, and I'm close enough to see my friends a decent amount if time allows. Cons, I will end up anywhere from 20-35k in debt after all is said and down, and that's without taking a minor which I would like to do but isn't a deal breaker. I'm not sure ill 'fit in', when I took a tour is seemed kinda preppy and everyone seemed like a national merit scholar. Not that I cannot get along with anyone but we are completely different types of people in different stages I out lives. Money aside I like the school itself better than option one but it's not my dream school or anything. (Uni of tulsa)</p>
<p>Option 3: beautiful campus, I could graduate debt free, and explore a minor or whatever I like, great college atmosphere and spirit, my favorite school money aside. Cons, I have to move 2 hours away from where I am so In reality will very rarely see any friends. I also lose out on daycare and have to pay for that out if pocket, which could amount to well over 15k a year for three young kids, so that completely changes graduating debt free. It's probably not as good a school academically as choice two but not by a lot. I was not impressed with the teachers wen I went there either, my wife would have to change jobs which isn't as bad as it sounds (she's a nurse and never has trouble finding work, she isn't in love with her job now anyway). (OU)</p>
<p>With all this in mind, what stands out as the best option to you guys, and seeing as tho I'm wanting to go to grad school in another state right after my bachelors how much if this matters anyway?</p>
<p>Thanks very much to anyone who takes the time to read this and reply, I could really use some outside opinions.</p>