I am currently in the process of enrollment and I want to put down my perfered gender and pronouns but I am concerned that one of my pearents who happens to work there may have access to that part of my record.
I want the school to know since I’m certain that housing may depend on what I put anaways so it’s been bothering me. If anyone knows what information your pearents can see it woukd be greatly appreciated.
Are your parents not aware?
Not aware at all
All I can tell you, which isn’t much, is that when my 17 year old went to college I called to inquire about something and I was informed that it was her account and that they could give me no information. With a parent working there they may have access but depending on what department they work in they may only have access to department specific information. I would call the admissions counselor at the school and ask them, letting them know that it’s personal. For the record, if you were my kid, I would want you to talk to me, I wouldn’t want to be the last one to know and I would love you regardless.
A big YES to @Sarrip “For the record, if you were my kid, I would want you to talk to me, I wouldn’t want to be the last one to know and I would love you regardless.”
OP @ElleIng My daughter graduated from Elon in 2018. I remember going to the required Parent Orientation on Move-In weekend. It was led by her Advisor, who was also the advisor to the other kids who’s parents also attended. The very first thing he discussed was how this is OUR KIDS college experience and that Elon considers them all capable adults. As such, he does not expect to ever hear from parents unless it is regarding a mental health concern or medical/family emergency. And if/when he is contacted by a parent, the very first thing he will say is “does your child know you are contacting me?” and he will verify that before speaking to you via email or phone or otherwise. No guarantees, but this indicates to me that the University truly respects you as capable adult, and values the importance of your privacy at all times. Even with your parents as employees, they are now looking at you as a student, not an employees family member.
Just my opinion based on every administrator, professor, counsellor, and employee we met during our daughter’s time at Elon. It was a great experience for all of us. Good luck to you!
This is something that only someone at the school can tell you, how that information will be available/restricted to school employees.
I know that kids these days don’t like to make phone calls but this seems like the only way to get an answer, and be assured that as an adult you do have an expectation of your information being kept private. I would think that you can ask this question without giving your name, if it makes you feel more comfortable. But they may need to know what dept your parent works in to be able to tell you what depts have access to student preferred gender and pronouns. Good luck and congrats on your admittance and enrollment at Elon!