<p>Hanahbabab69, great post. You can go home, the decor can be changed but the family is still the same. Your Grandfather may not remember you…but you remember the times with him. His dementia may have him a bit angry or frustrated. Hold his hand and agree with him when what he says makes no sense. Give your grandmother a big hug, tell her you love her…remember that moment, it may he the last. Go back to school and know you are where you should be, and all those that love you want you to be there and succeed. Just remember the moments.</p>
<p>Sorry Hannah for the bad spelling of your name. Couldn’t edit.</p>
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<p>That’s an incredibly interesting way to use the Find iPhone App. I never thought to use it in that way. Does he mind that you are using the app in this way? Are you also able to check the websites that he visits? </p>
<p>I got lucky again, my son called me at work. I was on the phone with one of our reps who is a horrible pathological liar and crazy double talker. I put him on hold hahaha. Son needed to ship rental books home and I’ll run them into Boston when I get them. The college delivery address apparently didn’t fit into the web form …? Anyway, so nice to hear his voice and be needed. Unrelated - there was an attack on a female student coming home from work late at his girlfriend’s campus 4 T-stops away. Totally unacceptable! Boston college campuses should be crawling with cops including undercover officers. And I don’t mean “college campus police” because they only cover inside the buildings. I gave him a personal alarm and I got his girlfriend one as well. Hers just arrived so it’s going to town with the books, if not sooner. The girl’s screams are what brought out a campus security guard to rescue her, but what if she was muffled? She really should have called for a campus escort or taken a cab, but still she is not the guilty one. I will never stand down as a parent! </p>
<p>Can you give me a link to the alarm you gave them?</p>
<p>@Erin’s Dad, I guess unlimited text would be standard for family plan with kids in college these days. ;)</p>
<p>Stressedoutmama, I would have given my right arm to have your “problem.” </p>
<p>@GA2012MOM this is what I bought 2 off and will probably get a 3rd for my daughter since she is a senior now and driving by herself, I chose this one because it uses easily found AAA batteries and has a flashlight, you can never have enough flashlights! - Vigilant PPS8G 130 dB Personal Rape/Jogger/Student Emergency Alarm with LED Light and AAA Batteries Included (Grey) <a href=“http://www.amazon.com/Vigilant-PPS8G-Personal-Emergency-Batteries/dp/B005BCL66Y/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1409930539&sr=8-1&keywords=Vigilant+PPS8G+130+dB+Personal+Rape%2FJogger%2FStudent+Emergency+Alarm+with+LED+Light+and+AAA+Batteries+Included+(Grey”>http://www.amazon.com/Vigilant-PPS8G-Personal-Emergency-Batteries/dp/B005BCL66Y/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1409930539&sr=8-1&keywords=Vigilant+PPS8G+130+dB+Personal+Rape%2FJogger%2FStudent+Emergency+Alarm+with+LED+Light+and+AAA+Batteries+Included+(Grey</a></p>
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<p>Me, too! That hasn’t happened with son #1 or son #2. Maybe it will with my daughter?!? Oh, I hope so!</p>
<p>My mom bought me one of those alarm thingies. It’s in my car…somewhere…I think. </p>
<p>It’s been that way here for years. See D1 alternate weekends, contact is refused in between. </p>
<p>I anticipate more contact should get through once she’s no longer in her mother’s house. I have been longing for her to leave for college for years and years.</p>
<p>FCCDAD - I am so sorry. I really feel for those dads who want access to their kids and are denied it. Your child knows your heart and will come around, hopefully, once she is out of the home. Sometimes the child feels caught in the middle and may be feeling disloyal to her mom if she has a relationship with you. Give it time.</p>
<p>So many of our son’s friends have had boughts of injury or sickness. 2 got stitches from longboarding, 1 chin, 1 arm, and 1 is home w lime disease! There a couple others but I don’t recall what wifey was telling me. We are so blessed and lucky. Our son obtained a position with the college radio station so we were able to listen to him. 2am-6am hahaha I recorded a bunch and we listened later … we haven’t done any skyping or facetiming with him but I hear that he has been doing it with his HS friends at diff. college campuses, even having a 3 way or 4 way session. Good friends find a way to stay in touch.</p>
<p>We have been so fortunate with both daughters who have frequently called or texted us through college and beyond. The harder transition was when D1 graduated from college and moved 3000 miles away for her job. D2 had an internship last summer in our home town so having a 21 year old live back at home was also a very weird experience that caused some conflict. Once they have 3 years of independence it’s especially hard to remember that living in a household brings some basic courtesies and responsibilities. Ironically, it still upsets them when we modify their rooms to accommodate other uses (like my home office). D1 is 25 and knows she will never live at home again but is still bothered when she sees I’ve packed away her high school mementos!</p>
<p>We just had an issue with a pet and a bean bag chair. Threw it out this morning because it can not be cleaned satisfactorily. Wondering how we’ll tell our son who has only been gone a month. I think it’s been quite some time since he used it last but still … it was his personal chair in his room (meaning not a house chair in the living room for example) and now it’s gone. </p>
<p>Saw S over the weekend when we brought him a few pieces of furniture. We had TWO meals together! That is the most we have had together in a long time. I tried not to ask about class too much. I tried to let him lead the conversation. H fussed at him overmuch about the cleanliness of the apt. We did take him out to buy groceries and forced more stuff on him than he wanted. </p>
<p>“Fussed at him overmuch”. LOL. I THINK I’m pretty good at keeping my mouth clamped after a few years (not good at the start). But then again they clean up when I’m coming to make things presentable for us old parents. At least I know they CAN clean even if they don’t always keep things picked up.
“Forced more stuff…” My poor D is going NO! I don’t want anything! Nothing! Ever! So it’s all happily being donated elsewhere! But I never get rid of anything without an okay first. </p>
<p>Thanks for this thread. My S is totally happy at school, which is great, but barely communicates with us. Maybe because we live near the school, but we’d love more mundane texts! I do miss knowing him and his life. He’s like a new person. Empty nest feels like abandoned nest.</p>
<p>Unlimited texting will save a lot. Just little stuff keeps you in touch. Don’t expect volumes.</p>
<p>Collegetime 18, I feel like you do, except I have twin D’s out there. So very happy and apparently too busy to fill us in with the mundane stuff of life. Oh well, I am getting a little better at this adjustment. Haven’t heard from D1 for 5 days, yes I’m counting.</p>