<p>Both of you are way ahead of yourselves. You should not be choosing between two schools that you have not gotten into yet. Instead, you should be laying out a set of reach, match and safety schools that will give you options one year from now when you have your accept/denied letters. You can expect to change your perspective a bit in a year, through maturity and through learning more about the colleges and let’s hope your mother learn a bit more too, especially about what is important for medical school (GPA/MCAT.) It is even possible that you would have a better shot by going to a CSU and being at the top of your class. I’m not saying to do that, but do some reading up on this. You might want to research the LAC"s that have the highest medical school acceptance rates. They are often much higher than University acceptance rates.</p>
<p>So for now do not speak to her of selecting THE school to attend, just selecting an array to apply to–some will leave options open for you, some will leave options open for her to discuss with you. Options for you to have available is the key here.</p>
<p>Seems quite reasonable to apply to Barnard and Columbia. Tell her you will apply to Columbia as she wishes and that she can at the same time allow you to apply Barnard as you wish. They are related and Barnard students can and do have full privleges to take courses across the street at Columbia. Barnard is a prestige school and if you investigate closely, I wouldn’t be surprised if the med school admit rate is higher than at Berkeley. At Berkeley, you can expect some degree of weeding out of premeds to occur through tough grading curves. At LAC’s, you can expect more a culture of support for the student’s success.</p>
<p>Seems quite reasonable to apply to Berkeley as well as several other UC’s, depending on where your grades and scores put you with regard to accepted applicants.</p>
<p>Now you need to add a few more schools. If you think you have a good shot at Berkeley, then perhaps UC’s are true safeties for you. Be sure they are before forgoing other safeties, and apply to all the UC’s just in case if you are unsure (one application, but many fees.) Now look around at some other school, your match school. Perhaps add a reach school that sounds interesting.</p>
<p>Going to the other coast for college is a wonderful, way to explore the country and become more worldly in a protected environment. Much easier than uprooting yourself and finding a job and an apartment after graduation. I think it is a sacrifice the parent should to make for the enrichment of the child/student, should the student desire to do that. Discuss that more seriously later, after applications are sent.</p>
<p>The parent should not be choosing your major. Just say you will take it under advisement, worded however is effective. Problem is that some majors at some schools must be declared ahead of time (often Engineering) as it is difficult or impossible to transfer in.</p>
<p>Do you have a Fiske Guide? Buy one and you and your mother flip through it.</p>
<p>I take it financials are not a consideration as you have not mentioned it.</p>
<p>Dream schools are kinda like dream cars. It really is a imaginary construct of wants and hopes and desired that you project onto the school. It’s more about you than the schools. In the end it doesn’t matter all that much how you get from point A to point B, I just hope you enjoy the ride.</p>
<p>Sorry to blather on so long, what got into me?</p>