<p>Hello, I'm trying to transfer to a college in the city but both my parents, including my step-dad oppose of it. They'd rather me stay at the school I'm at now. Honestly, I can't stand the school. I'm always talking about leaving and I'm trying harder in school to leave. My dad keeps asking me why, but all I can muster up to say is that there is no diversity and the people are all the same. Granted I made a few friends, I think I would be happier in the city. On top of that I become upset over things that I shouldn't be, school wise. I worked really hard last semester to be on the dean's list. I made a 3.47. I cried and am still thinking about it. I took 17 hours and am taking 16 hours next semester. I would also like a job. I really want to move out, get my own car, and pay for my own expenses. My dad feels I won't get the same experience being 20 min from home, my mom feels I'll hang out with my friends more and drop out, my step-dad feels it'll mess me up in the future. Is there anyway I can prove to my parents that transferring is not a bad idea?</p>
<p>I don’t know what your major is, but would moving to the city allow you valuable internship opportunities in your major during the school year? Is the reputation of the college in the city better for your major? Is it less money? Those are reasons I might consider for having a student transfer but I wouldn’t place much stock in “(t)here is no diversity and people are all the same.” It sounds like you aren’t making a effort to get to know your classmates as individuals. </p>
<p>I know someone who actually had to prepare a power point presentation and return of investment information for her parents to convince them that her desired college was a reasoned choice.</p>
<p>I am sorry for your disappointment in not making the dean’s list, but you should be proud of yourself for doing so well - 3.47 with 17 credits is an accomplishment! Congratulations!</p>
<p>*. I would also like a job. I really want to move out, get my own car, and pay for my own expenses. *</p>
<p>How realistic is it that you could earn enough to pay for your own expenses (housing, food, etc), get a car, AND keep up your grades? </p>
<p>How much do you think you could earn each week/month?</p>
<p>Who is paying for your college costs now?</p>
<p>@Parentoftwo - My major is theater. I’ve been a part of my theater program, I’m also a part of alpha psi omega a theater fraternity/sorority. I’ve done many things to get involved with my theater department. To be honest I like the theater here, I have grown a tiny attachment to it. But everything outside of it, is not what I want. As far as expenses goes, my college is in GA. So, when I get the hope scholarship, I’d be paying the exact same cost as I’m paying going to my current school. My father also said the same thing about the “no diversity” statement. As far as getting to know my classmates, I have…but it just seems that most, not all, of the people are the same.</p>
<p>so keep thinking that it has something to do with the incident that happened earlier in the year with my 1st roommate. We had irreconcilable differences and she told my neighbors horrible things about me. So I moved out. I usually stay in my dorm all weekends and study. I really didn’t want to interact with any girls in or on my dorm/ hall. Though there are select few. My new RM isn’t liked by many girls, so sometimes there can be more drama…I’ve talked to a counselor and everything. Still hasn’t gone anywhere…</p>
<p>I talk to one person and she introduces me to some of her friends. She doesn’t want me to leave either =/</p>
<p>@mom2collegekids - both my parents said the same thing. I was hoping on getting a roommate with old friends. They’re going apartment hunting during the summer. If it doesn’t work well, then I can just stay in the dorm for the semester and try again next summer. I was hoping on making about 1,000 if I started a job this month, saved, and finished by the end of my spring term. Then find another job near my house. My old friend who goes to Emory, made a 4.0 her first semester all while maintaining a job. I figured that it’s possible. Also, I’m taking out loans.</p>
<p>Muzick-Your situation sounds very much like DD’s-she had a terrible roommate situation freshman year with almost identical outcome. Unfortunately, the initial social problem made her more reticent to get out and try to meet other people. She has spent 2 fall semesters at Georgia Tech-the first one trying to decide whether to transfer. If you really want to transfer, it is important to be clear with yourself about what you expect from a different school. DD would probably have the same situation at another school after other people have already formed friendships. That said, we know a number of kids who transferred during or before their sophomore year, so that credits, etc. would be in line to graduate when they originally planned. In essence what I am trying to say is that transferring can be a viable option for many students, but simply moving locations in and of itself will not essentially change who you are or how you socialize. Good luck as you try to make a decision-hopefully with the support of your family.</p>
<p>As a theater major, you should have umpteen productions every year which will give you ample opportunity to meet people and socialize. If you aren’t already doing so, sign up for the tech crews and see if you can get work for load-ins for any touring artists that perform on your campus. Happykid is a theater tech/design major on call at the performing arts center at her college and she has more paid work offers than she can fit into her schedule.</p>
<p>I have figured out reasons why I want to transfer. My initial dream was to go to NYU but it’s too expensive. So, I tried GSU even with my low high school GPA. I didn’t get in, so I figured I’d stay at the current college for a year (2 years if I like it) and then transfer. I always wanted to go to school in the city. I agree that the previous incident has made me a bit reluctant to socialize, but I still try (outside of my dorm anyway). My father sees that I have no reason to leave, but as long as I get good grades, and not come home all the time for food, then he doesn’t care, lol ^^. My parents want me to give it another semester. But my step-dad and friend have already concluded that I’ve already made the decision to transfer.</p>
<p>As far as theater productions, my school has 3 or 4 productions a semester. I audition for them but didn’t get any parts, so I just settles with house managing and helping with props all last semester.</p>
<p>* both my parents said the same thing. I was hoping on getting a roommate with old friends. They’re going apartment hunting during the summer. If it doesn’t work well, then I can just stay in the dorm for the semester and try again next summer. I was hoping on making about 1,000 if I started a job this month, saved, and finished by the end of my spring term. Then find another job near my house. My old friend who goes to Emory, made a 4.0 her first semester all while maintaining a job. I figured that it’s possible. Also, I’m taking out loans.
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<p>You think that you can earn $1000 every month while going to school and doing theatre? ???</p>
<p>What do you mean…I’m taking out loans? How much do you think YOU can borrow?</p>
<p>what “school in the city” do you want to transfer to? You said your friend is at Emory…Emory certainly is not known for its theater scene, and I am not sure how their admissions office would consider your application at this point. You have done very well academically in college (congrats!) but at this point the Emory admissions office is still likely to consider your high school record. And Emory is VERY expensive…</p>
<p>Sounds like you are letting an interpersonal conflict bleed over into the entire campus. Life is full of this type situation, and you will grow and learn by being exposed and handling them. </p>
<p>Do you have any concrete plans? Which college, which city, etc?</p>
<p>If you’re talking about Georgia State, would that cost more than Valdosta? Were your parents planning to let you go to GSU as a freshman if you’d gotten in?</p>
<p>“Is there anyway I can prove to my parents that transferring is not a bad idea?”</p>
<p>You’ve got to get your own reasons straight before you can convince anyone else. It sounds like you haven’t done either of those things if all you can come up with is that the people at Valdosta are all the same (which can’t be literally true). </p>
<p>It makes sense to me that someone might fit in better at a city school than a small-town school. Right now, though, you don’t even know for sure that GSU would admit you as a sophomore. You might think about just asking for permission to <em>apply</em> to GSU for next fall. Even if you get in, you won’t have to go. Either way, you’ll go back to VSU for this coming semester and try to get the most out of it that you possibly can, academically and socially. Maybe you’ll be happier once the roommate situation is resolved. Your parents may be a lot more sympathetic if you show them that you are planning a possible transition with care and taking one step at a time.</p>
<p>I’m referring to the college in Atlanta, Georgia State University. I’ve talked to the school and another friend who goes there for theater. The school told me that they wont look at HS GPA if I have about 30 credits. I’ll have 31 since 2 credits won’t transfer. My friend told me the theater department ia amazing but it’s not that big/legit and is growing.</p>
<p>Also, I don’t plan on making 1K a month, just overall by the end of my spring semester.The loans that are currently being taking out is in my name, and will probably be that way next semester. My plan was to hopefully try to find more scholarships and get into their honor society as I continue to make better grades.</p>
<p>My college is small as far as structure and how far you can go, but it has lots of kids. I’d just rather go to the one in the city. But every time I say that and with other things, my parents still doesn’t understand. My dad didn’t want me to go to a college so close to home because he feels I won’t grow independent. Also, the school would only cost more if I don’t get the hope scholarship. If I get it, it would be the same cost as VSU.</p>
<p>As for my concrete plan, I was just going to get better grades, apply, get in, hopefully find some more oppurtunities in the city…I’m sorry if i’m starting to become confusing…</p>